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If broke up with A, then move on with singlehood before deciding to go attached.

Since you made the (common) mistake of going out and breaking up with B now, I suggest you go cold turkey for a while.

Go out n party or travel or do something different! Stay single but continue to meet ppl for at least 6mths. This will refresh your prespective and then u decide what u want to do.

FYI, u r still in the (relationship) war-zone, any decision u made about relationship (ie going back to A or B) is only gg to make u miserable.

GET OUT OF THIS CYCLE - that's the best advice I can give. :cool:

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thank tom..... reali great help

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bro i like the advice u gave :D

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I like your advise too ! Up points for you !:)

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bri sdh, u got hear the saying tat all is fair in love and war .......bro, take it frm me, man must be a little bastard sometimes in relationship.

i last time v soft, always kena take advantage and taken for granted. i aso obsess over one gal and cannot let go .....despite my mr. nice guy, i kena royally screwed. she three timed me and dump me. so pain was it at tat time tat i go hc for thirty days straight in order to forget the hurt.

and this wimpy me last me right up till my thirties (i am still in this decade).

wat made me change?

of all places i learn to more empowered and take charge is in sammyboy. the thread "mistress" is the most useful. (do a search ... nowadays no more new postings frm the sifu there). anyway i kena so many eureka moments when i thoughtfully read the thread tat my appraoch to woman 180 degree change.

it finally dawn on me what to do to make me empower (read the thread - you will figure it out). i got make progress bcos i not so needy and reliant on one gal. i take action to meet new gals and improve my choice. its only when one has lack of options that one sees a gal as perfect. the more u date, the more u cheong, the less tendency to see gal as perfect.

i now open my eyes so big big tat i never see any gal (even my current gf) as so perfect. i am aso confident tat shud my present gf dump me... i can find a better one. now i tink back, my present gf is so much better than the one who dump me. i feel empowered.

cheers & take care bro ... may wisdom come to you soon

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Hmm~~mmm... recommendations? lol


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I wouldn't say everyone but most people will have at least 1 very deep love they wish will last eternity. some are lucky that he/she will be tgt forever, others will end up with another partner.

why does this still happen? because life still has to go on.

what is the point of liking someone so much if it will not be reciprocated, energy wasted, and feel emo all the time...

what you need is more Time. Time is a natural healer. Make other tings a priority, make an effort to occupy urself in other activities, e.g. enjoying a sport you like, trying or learning something you have been wanting to, making new friends. it will be very helpful if you do this with your friends or even new lover.

Lastly, you have to learn to let go. if you can't be friends anymore, just delete the contacts. if you are still friends, be proper friends - do your part.

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u guys rock.... really helpful comment

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Why don't you look at it from another perspective ? You're single and unattached, no time commitments, no need to think of where to go and what to do. You're free to do whatever you want. Take the time to enjoy singlehood, no chains of any sorts. Do whatever it is you want, it maybe a bit different but having a bit of lone ranger in you seems to make one seems mysterious and attractive to girls.

Enjoy being single, because no one who does not want to be single is for long.