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whats the best way to get over a relationship....
broke up with A gf n got with B gf....
in the end broke up with B cos cant get over A....
cos wanna to be fair to her...
don wan with her yet thinking of another gal....
now A already have a bf le.... n should be happy ba....
now me... trying to get over it

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Bro,

Just get over it move on. Find out cause of it which allowed you to broke up with A, and picked it up from there. Furthermore, A has already gotten herself a bf.

Unless, A has a X-Factor which other girls dont have.

Move on with life and it will better. Never know if you meet someone like Felicia Chin.

Plus, you already got B in life.

Cheer up!

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hhm...another " flower heart " guy here...
i think tat not so hard to get a " C "....

TAKE CARE ya...

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Hey Mina, so early gotten yourself online.

Yes! C will arriving soon. And bear this in mind, you can have 101 reasons to love A, she just need to have 1 simple reason not to be with you. And that will be, she dont love you anymore.

Therefore, pick up and move on..

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i didnt get with B when with A....
i broke up with A liao then with me...
now i m alone... zzzzz....
broke up with B cos don wan to hurt her...
anyway i noe i deserve it

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you should just go to the FL dome and call up some of the OKTs there and ask him for advice.

They dish out the best advice.....
Oh ya, prepare some money also. Will come in handy.

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How old are you ? Sounds very much like still schooling. Secondary ?

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Wah so similar to wat happen to my fren sia.

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Ya u sound vv young ts:) hm.. Maybe c d e f g will make u forget a and b

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It's not A, B or C. It's who that make you happy that matters. There's a whole world out there waiting for you to explore. Don't waste your time wallowing over A and B.

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Hw old are u sia?

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old liao la... going 30 lo.... zzzz

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Bro, in life no such thing as fairness. Can only try your best and let the others decide for themselves if it is enough. If you want to be fair, why dont you be fair to your fingers first, they are different lengths..... :rolleyes:

You want to get over a relationship, just find some stuff to engross and take up your time, sbf is a good place to start :D However, with your thinking, such a problem will just happen again. You are what some call, nit picking on the finer details. If you have any vice, drinking, finding fls, allowing yourself one all out pass. Get drunk or bang yourself silly. Just a one time pass, indulge. I find that it works for me.

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TS 30 liao, you know be more zai. Let this be a learning experience. Do not be fickle and step on 2 boats. When they part. You are left with none.

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ya... totally agreed!!! thanks all u guys out there

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If broke up with A, then move on with singlehood before deciding to go attached.

Since you made the (common) mistake of going out and breaking up with B now, I suggest you go cold turkey for a while.

Go out n party or travel or do something different! Stay single but continue to meet ppl for at least 6mths. This will refresh your prespective and then u decide what u want to do.

FYI, u r still in the (relationship) war-zone, any decision u made about relationship (ie going back to A or B) is only gg to make u miserable.

GET OUT OF THIS CYCLE - that's the best advice I can give. :cool:

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thank tom..... reali great help

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bro i like the advice u gave :D

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I like your advise too ! Up points for you !:)

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bri sdh, u got hear the saying tat all is fair in love and war .......bro, take it frm me, man must be a little bastard sometimes in relationship.

i last time v soft, always kena take advantage and taken for granted. i aso obsess over one gal and cannot let go .....despite my mr. nice guy, i kena royally screwed. she three timed me and dump me. so pain was it at tat time tat i go hc for thirty days straight in order to forget the hurt.

and this wimpy me last me right up till my thirties (i am still in this decade).

wat made me change?

of all places i learn to more empowered and take charge is in sammyboy. the thread "mistress" is the most useful. (do a search ... nowadays no more new postings frm the sifu there). anyway i kena so many eureka moments when i thoughtfully read the thread tat my appraoch to woman 180 degree change.

it finally dawn on me what to do to make me empower (read the thread - you will figure it out). i got make progress bcos i not so needy and reliant on one gal. i take action to meet new gals and improve my choice. its only when one has lack of options that one sees a gal as perfect. the more u date, the more u cheong, the less tendency to see gal as perfect.

i now open my eyes so big big tat i never see any gal (even my current gf) as so perfect. i am aso confident tat shud my present gf dump me... i can find a better one. now i tink back, my present gf is so much better than the one who dump me. i feel empowered.

cheers & take care bro ... may wisdom come to you soon

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Hmm~~mmm... recommendations? lol


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I wouldn't say everyone but most people will have at least 1 very deep love they wish will last eternity. some are lucky that he/she will be tgt forever, others will end up with another partner.

why does this still happen? because life still has to go on.

what is the point of liking someone so much if it will not be reciprocated, energy wasted, and feel emo all the time...

what you need is more Time. Time is a natural healer. Make other tings a priority, make an effort to occupy urself in other activities, e.g. enjoying a sport you like, trying or learning something you have been wanting to, making new friends. it will be very helpful if you do this with your friends or even new lover.

Lastly, you have to learn to let go. if you can't be friends anymore, just delete the contacts. if you are still friends, be proper friends - do your part.

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u guys rock.... really helpful comment

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Why don't you look at it from another perspective ? You're single and unattached, no time commitments, no need to think of where to go and what to do. You're free to do whatever you want. Take the time to enjoy singlehood, no chains of any sorts. Do whatever it is you want, it maybe a bit different but having a bit of lone ranger in you seems to make one seems mysterious and attractive to girls.

Enjoy being single, because no one who does not want to be single is for long.