[mattrayham]

I tend to be the kinder type when giving advice lah ah...

1. About your obesity - Not sure if it's a genetic issue or more of a lifestyle issue, either way, both can be managed.

Even if it's a genetic issue, with the right lifestyle (good diet, healthy exercise), you can trim down to a more acceptable weight.

Manage your expectations lah... no need to aim for the hunk 6 pack look. A lot of chio bus actually still have BF's who are (acceptably) obese but cute and have funny personality or other factors to make up for it (and not necessarily money either).

Think Chef Benny Se Teo - he's no hunk, can be considered big sized, but what he has is BALLS, that lost thing called MANLINESS.

2. About your education - N Level? So what? You get a degree also no guarantee you get a better life. What you need is just more job experience. Start out with a shitty job first, gain experience, climb the ladder. Best is start with a job where you have to learn to SELL stuff. The hustle and the grind are the best teachers in life.

Find some things that interest you, play with it, learn more about it, develop skills around it, hang around other experts and learn from them.

By the way, I only Diploma holder but now I got company hiring Degree holders. My business deal with something that I didn't learn in Poly, but more of what I pick up myself and learn myself through years of trial and error.

I don't want to inspire you with feel good vibes. All that bullshit. But definitely you still very young chap got a LOT of time and potential.

Other youngsters your age in their 20's wanna earn 4K a month as their entry level job salary but can't compose proper email can't even ask a senior colleague how to do something, let them dream on, with their credit card debts, weekend clubbing, whatever it is youngsters do nowadays.

Do the shit work in your 20's so by your 30's you're living like a King. Don't worry, by the time you hit 30+ you still have enough energy to enjoy the better life that you are hungry for in your 20's - provided you maintain the right lifestyle energy-wise.

Oh ya... notice I didn't mention any tips on how to score girls, dating, etc.

Take it easy... Ladies love men with a purpose. Devote and focus yourself to building yourself to be the better man you are supposed to be (whatever that bullshit means), let girl chasing be a SIDE distraction from time to time.

Don't overstress - I wanna get a girlfriend, I wanna get a girlfriend, I wanna get a girlfriend - just chill and socialise with girls and be (just) friends with girls first.

An irony of life is that sometimes for somethings the MORE you chase something, the MORE it runs away from you, but if you start to chill, focus on your self, etc, some of these things just naturally start to be attracted to you.