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Originally Posted by astroboy76
Count yourself lucky if you still go through motion, for me 1 word.... SAD!
Every time got the urge to have sex, wife would just say "no mood, do it yourself!" Its like kana 4D if can get 1 time in a month! For that only 1 time, she would say, "faster finish it lah... very tired/ no mood". When hear this, very very sian, what mood also gone and for info during sex, no licking of ears, no kissing of lips, no touching of breast (don't think of licking/ sucking it), no BJ, no HJ, no AJ, no AR, just bong bong bong and thats it, no fancy dress/ costume, no foreplay, nothing, just strip and do missionary/ doggie or side.
By the way, that is before having kids.
Now got kids worse, think roughly 2~3 month once. I feel more shiok watching porn on PC and jerking myself then having sex.
Think I have a high SD but my wife.... ZERO. As a guy, its a torturing!
What will you do if you were in my shoes?  |
hey Bro Astro:
I feel for you man. But....oh dear, how to say....
You had MANY warning signs that you ignored. You say she didn't like sex before the kids? oh dear:
1. Why did you marry her?
2. Why didn't you divorce her then?
Astro, you are in a real pickle but listen, a married man is NOT suppose to live as a monk. If you are, divorce is an option and i don't say that lightly. Over a 3 year period I went through the depression, crying at night, feeling sorry for myself and all that....after my wife told me she wasn't interested in sex any more. I didn't want to break up a family but...I AM NOT A MONK AND NEVER DESIRED TO BE ONE! Your mind slowly comes to terms with reality, it takes two hands to clap. If she is not interested in being a wife, I am not interested in being her husband, simple. I will be a father, absolutely but if all our marriage boils down to is baby sitting partners, I'm out. I can do that with her WITHOUT being her husband and if it costs Me 2000 a month, fine. When you explain this to your wife, do it in a low calm voice and do your research. One thing to note, the family court will send you to mandatory counselling so you might as well just call MCYS and go on your own. Go yourself first, talk to the counsellor and then your counsellor will want your wife's contact and have a session with her.
You've dug yourself into a hole here Bro and life is messy, there is no easy way out but I do know this, wanking to internet porn is not a long term solution.
One way or the other you have to do something.
Advice to all brothers, if your present girlfriend is not a sex crazed slut, dump her. I mean that. Young women are horny, at least they should be, if they are not, that bodes VERY bad for the future, dump her, its best for your both, lest you find yourself in brother Astro's shoes.
Take care of yourself first. Marriage is fundamentally a selfish thing, you decide to do it based on what you're going to get out of it. You have to recognize this at the outset. Make sure you discuss with your woman so that you know her expectations and she knows yours. Everyone is flexible to a certain extend but everyone also has certain things that they refuse to put up with in a relationship....make sure you are both clear on what's on both of your "Refuse to put up with list". Guys, make sure 'no sex' is on your list and she knows it. She'll laugh at the time because a 25 year old woman can out fuck a 27 year old guy every day of the week, no problem....but she won't be 25 years old forever and she won't be childless forever either, make sure you BOTH understand. And it can still crash and burn anyhow....aiyah....life is messy, no?
Astro, MCYS, Counsellor, go! Dot it, be a man.
Cheers,
jim