Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Thanks repsoi, i do think $1k should be enough & i will bored the whole day in the province, but what to do...her mum saying that their relative wanna see me ...my intent is to go Nha Trang after in her province for 4days

Normal leh,they want to see u cos u are a foreigner and they like to see foreigner like u who hold a red passport

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

1st impression ma...no money never mind but 1st impression to in-law must be nice i think

ok loh,up to u cos u dont get what i mean when i put the word in cap

[marcopit]

Originally Posted by Golden question;742$$$$

ok loh,up to u cos u dont get what i mean when i put the word in cap

I get what u mean but dont u think 1st time visit them empty handed not so nice?

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

1st impression ma...no money never mind but 1st impression to in-law must be nice i think

Up to individual,when i first go my wife house,i dont try to impress her mom partly because of my few years experience with vietnamese ppl and culture before i know my wife and i know i need to 'protect' myself first.

The word cautious is always on my mind whenever i deal with them but after few years with my wife and her family,this word is gone for them from the way they treat me till now

[marcopit]

Originally Posted by Golden question

Up to individual,when i first go my wife house,i dont try to impress her mom partly because of my few years experience with vietnamese ppl and culture before i know my wife and i know i need to 'protect' myself first.

The word cautious is always on my mind whenever i deal with them but after few years with my wife and her family,this word is gone for them from the way they treat me till now

Roger

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can i do a simple poll.. like how many members' marriage were registered in SG or VN, or both?

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

I get what u mean but dont u think 1st time visit them empty handed not so nice?

I not say u go empty handed but dont let them think like u are a cai sheng ye to them,can buy fruits or other products instead of giving money.

They will still be happy and if u still in Sg,go mustafa buy those chocolate and give to them as gift cos they will like product from sillypore

But up to u lah,if u want give red packet,then u give loh,i just make my suggestion only cos u really very new of vietnam scene,so maybe guide u a bit

[marcopit]

Originally Posted by Golden question

I not say u go empty handed but dont let them think like u are a cai sheng ye to them,can buy fruits or other products instead of giving money.

They will still be happy and if u still in Sg,go mustafa buy those chocolate and give to them as gift cos they will like product from sillypore

But up to u lah,if u want give red packet,then u give loh,i just make my suggestion only cos u really very new of vietnam scene,so maybe guide u a bit

Thanks & understood...im lazy to buy gift therefore i thought of give them $100

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Thanks namelo & Golden question,

I forget to state what I bought. 2 cartons of Heineken, a bottle of Double Black JW and a big bag of ice. After a few drinks it was easy to communicate with the old relatives and parents

[marcopit]

Originally Posted by naemlo

I forget to state what I bought. 2 cartons of Heineken, a bottle of Double Black JW and a big bag of ice. After a few drinks it was easy to communicate with the old relatives and parents

but i cant speak their language even im down with alcohol

[Genomes]

buy the family a carton of cigars

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

Roger

Anyway what i share is my own thinking and experience,different bro will have different view and handling.

I not say mine is correct and u must follow cos i have few years of bad experience with vietnamese ppl before i know my wife.

I just want to highlight to u is the most important is the girl u marry.Not all in law or family is bad and will always ask money from their daughter foreign boyfriend or husband

My in law have never ask from me a single cents from my 6 years of marriage with my wife.

Every chinese new year,whether i got go visit her or not,i will always give her $500 SGD as red packet but this only start after my 2 years of marriage

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by marcopit

but i cant speak their language even im down with alcohol

Lucky my ger's famiy speak english.. My ger told me, her dad dun speak much but after some drinks he will open up more so she suggested beer and whisky. It worked well, good to break the barrier. Think of this, I miss HCMC, her n family.

[marcopit]

:rolleyes

Originally Posted by Golden question

Anyway what i share is my own thinking and experience,different bro will have different view and handling.

I not say mine is correct and u must follow cos i have few years of bad experience with vietnamese ppl before i know my wife.

I just want to highlight to u is the most important is the girl u marry.Not all in law or family is bad and will always ask money from their daughter foreign boyfriend or husband

My in law have never ask from me a single cents from my 6 years of marriage with my wife.

Every chinese new year,whether i got go visit her or not,i will always give her $500 SGD as red packet but this only start after my 2 years of marriage

rolleyes & golden question,

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by marcopit

but i cant speak their language even im down with alcohol

Your girl can translate for u.But what she translate,u will not know.

U really very excited huh