Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by curious76

haha.. Yeah.. I start thinking of dumping her.. Why am i stupid to give her chance??

Is the translatation correct?? I want to know..

Originally Posted by curious76

Now I feel like bedding her.. I can tell you this.. I fall for her kc trap because I am trapping her at the same time... I know.. Anyway I am not giving her any more money...

faster bed her before dumping since you had not bonk her...

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Does Viet Spouse = Viet Hookers = Vice trade?

Why is it that whenever viet spouses are discussed, it is forever linked to WL and vice trade? Most Sgp man still allow their viet spouse to ply the vice trade after marriage? If these Sgp man allow that, then they should be ashamed of themselves. Your viet spouse can be a WL before marriage, but if she is still a WL or mamasan after marriage, then its a big disgrace. That's why most people look down on the viets and their Sgp husbands. Please, for goodness sake, have some pride.

Yes there are 2 cases i know of...
Case 1: husband knows his bx dating a man, work in ktv, work in massage place, go back vn with man... But he still think as long as she happy can liao.

Case 2: husband seldom in sillypore. When he not in sillypore, bx will go work in ktv. He allowed her work and kept it a secret from his parents. One time the vb got caught and need constant reporting to ICA. His parents all know already yet treat her good. Lately she got PR and heard that the whole family let her work in ktv.

I really dun know what these men thinking... Not that they are poor.. case 2 guy doing very well some more. Case 1 guy side income from room rental to vb also very good.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by curious76

My VB yesterday pissed off with me because i keep on not trusting her as she does not tell me the truth..

The story is like this..

(1) She supposed to use my money to buy an laptop. Now she want to quit her job in the bar and start an online clothing store. And her school result is no good.

(2) I find someone to help me to translate this..

Những gì em đã thích em sẽ giữ nó rất chặt.... Nhưng cái gì em đã không còn muốn nữa em sẽ vứt nó đi rất tàn nhẫn rất lạnh lùng và em là thế là như vậy không phải em thích người khác mà chưa có ai hiểu được em e giông như một giọt nước vậy rễ tan rễ biến mất nhưng ngta mang lại cho em những gì e trả lại hơn cả thế .... Cả yêu thương /-showlove/-showlove/-showlove/-showlove Lẫn nỗi đau

I am not sure if the above translate below is correct.

Whatever he love he keep. Whatever matter, he does not matter. He do not care about me not because he does not love me. Is because he have not find another girl friend.. HeartBroken..

(3) I use the above translation confronted her.. I told her I am going drinking but she say she also go drinking with her friend and pissed off..

I really do not know what to do.. Please advise bro..

Its parallel line thats not going to meet. Move on.

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Yes there are 2 cases i know
I really dun know what these men thinking... Not that they are poor.. case 2 guy doing very well some more. Case 1 guy side income from room rental to vb also very good.

Still can get PR I'm amazed!

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Kim91

Still can get PR I'm amazed!

Really cannot understand how ICA work...
That time kana caught, she worry her ltvp will be taken away but no.. few months later which is last week, she get her PR.

Another case of dunno how ICA is a vb married a sillyporean but no stay together. Every time husband bring her go ICA extend, she will keep on extending 3mths, 6mths continuously... Already 1.5years

[Golden question]

This is how our govert ppl people work, all screw up, dont know what the hell are they doing, recently I happen to report a manpower issue to make known to them and they reply a e mail later that they will take note but few weeks later I found out a pass was issue, I went down and ask and was told to e mail cos different department doing and i reason with the staff with reasons and he agreed is a overlook case, i say what if this guy kill a person and you still issue the pass even though i told u all already, without even checking with me, u all aprove the pass, how ridicious it is,he nothing to say., I e mail them but up to now no reply, u see how screw up they all and never bother to reply and this was 2 months ago

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Kim91

Still can get PR I'm amazed!

Nowadays in sg society, even important thing like medical thing, all those ppl will screw up big time, recently I encounter 2 case
Case 1 bring my daughter to kk due to some infection, one nurse was standing beside the doctor hearing all our conversation, went out to fix appointment, counter staff told me is 2 appointment on same day, I say no cos I still remember I heard is 2 different appointment for 2 different treatment, one is 2 week later and the other one is 4 months later, that nurse came and told me no, is same day, I told her she better go double check with doctor cos I even ask doctor twice, she went back and ask and in the end I am correct

Case 2 bring her for vacination recently at polyclinic, was told by that nurse that the previous nurse who do her vacination the last time did not record info on the baby booklet and she did to check again

Really dont know what the hell are they doing nowadays, keep on jacking up price and give reason to improve services, I think is from first world country services to third world country services better

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Golden question

Really dont know what the hell are they doing nowadays, keep on jacking up price and give reason to improve services, I think is from first world country services to third world country services better

yes first word service but nurse from 3rd world...haha...

best to bring kids go Polyclinic for injections...the drugs there are fresh becos finish very fast due to crowd...also price is cheapest...nurses and doctors mostly are Singaporeans or PR...

[a2014]

Originally Posted by curious76

(1) She supposed to use my money to buy an laptop. Now she want to quit her job in the bar and start an online clothing store. And her school result is no good.

(3) I use the above translation confronted her.. I told her I am going drinking but she say she also go drinking with her friend and pissed off..

I really do not know what to do.. Please advise bro..

Bro Curious76, this is because she ask and you give, therefore she take it for granted. Furthermore she knew your interest in her so she feel that you have the obligation. You become her money tree already. Once you don't perform to her expectation this will happen.

There is only two things that will happen which is, she come to her sense and change (this is not going to happen in the next 5 years at least) or she go look for someone else quietly to top up what she is missing, (you know what I mean), if you don't mind her going out with another man, then both of you may share the load and the stress but definitely when that happen she can only be a mistress to you.

If you are not ready to make any concrete decision, better to tell her you expectation, what you can give and to what limit. Never exceed what you can earn. If you were to continue assuming you can go marathon and have a relative deep pocket and can go the next 10 years with her, I guess it will be a very stressful and painful path. Maybe when she come to the age of 40 she will quiet down.

This is only my personal opinion.

[curious76]

Originally Posted by a2014

Bro Curious76, this is because she ask and you give, therefore she take it for granted. Furthermore she knew your interest in her so she feel that you have the obligation. You become her money tree already. Once you don't perform to her expectation this will happen.

There is only two things that will happen which is, she come to her sense and change (this is not going to happen in the next 5 years at least) or she go look for someone else quietly to top up what she is missing, (you know what I mean), if you don't mind her going out with another man, then both of you may share the load and the stress but definitely when that happen she can only be a mistress to you.

If you are not ready to make any concrete decision, better to tell her you expectation, what you can give and to what limit. Never exceed what you can earn. If you were to continue assuming you can go marathon and have a relative deep pocket and can go the next 10 years with her, I guess it will be a very stressful and painful path. Maybe when she come to the age of 40 she will quiet down.

This is only my personal opinion.

I have already think of.. I have asked to see her parents and ask for marriage.. She say she consult her mother.. In actual fact, she does not want to married so early.. So for the next 2 year, i will control the money portion by not giving too much to her..

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by curious76

I have already think of.. I have asked to see her parents and ask for marriage.. She say she consult her mother.. In actual fact, she does not want to married so early.. So for the next 2 year, i will control the money portion by not giving too much to her..

haha...2 years is very long time for VB...let's see in 3 - 6 months...

many like you had came here to ask for advice...then mia after that...we dun know what happened to them but can guess the outcome...

[curious76]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

haha...2 years is very long time for VB...let's see in 3 - 6 months...

many like you had came here to ask for advice...then mia after that...we dun know what happened to them but can guess the outcome...

haha no worries.. I will come in and discuss about the outcome..

[singlun]

Originally Posted by curious76

haha.. Yeah.. I start thinking of dumping her.. Why am i stupid to give her chance??

Is the translatation correct?? I want to know..

To put it plainly, you are not giving her enough $$. She regards you as a poor carrot that she can discard anytime since you gave her miserable amount. She's just trying her luck to squeeze more out of you before kicking you aside.

You really expect true love from her ? 38yo but thinking still so naive?

Sorry if I'm harsh. But i believe i have to be harsh to wake you up.

You try standing up to her threats and be tough with her. See what new tricks she will come up with. Use this saga as a training session to learn how to deal with vb. But learning doesnt mean you need to spend a bomb....

[Captainoceania77]

Originally Posted by curious76

Bro i appreciate the advice.. But I still want to give her chance to explain herself.. If every relationship is like that, we can be lonely the entire life... My Motto in life is like this

" Give person 3 chances, he does not reflect" Out he goes..

Lonely is much better than with a wrong partner......

[MIFAcafe]

If you are lonely in Vietnam , then you might as well be lonely forever......

Originally Posted by Bukit Mewah

Lonely is much better than with a wrong partner......