Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by ruiguan

has anyone come across any kids that can speak chinese, tieng viet and english?

yes... even + hokkien.

Originally Posted by ruiguan

Where can i find KT story?

here

Originally Posted by damong777

Any sequence of priority to learn which one first?

I mixed all in one.
I came across kids learning vnese 1st then chi/eng in school then hokkien at home.
I also came across kids learning chi 1st, follow by eng then vnese.

Originally Posted by stillgottheblue

Forget about learning Vietnamese. English and Chinese will be the main language in the foreseeable future.

vnese language still needed... to communicate with mum and relative in vn.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by jackbl

Did u help him to translate? I got the pm twice leh....

U can understand in depth .....

yes... understand surface only

[jazman]

Usually how much avg bx bring to home village ah

[MIFAcafe]

Originally Posted by jazman

Usually how much avg bx bring to home village ah

A very generic question so variable answers.

[lugi]

In order to do this, I think the fundamental thing is that wifey needs to be educated herself.

My bx came with here with just a high school diploma. Luckily for me, she had the sense to see the costs of living here and I kept sharing with her the way to move forward in society, that is through education. I am happy to see that she is nearing the end of her Bachelor degree in Accountancy. Going through the process of studying herself, she values the opportunities and the importance of it. She has said that we should save money for kids education next time and should cut down unnecessary expenses.

Through this, when we have kids in the future, We already have a contract and understanding that our kids will have to be educated in the 2 main languages of Chinese and English. (I shot down the idea of her mum coming to take care of the kids)


What i want to share is that it takes a lot of patience and communication with them, planning a future with them with goals to achieve. Make ourselves different from the Vn man who just think of the present.

Originally Posted by SingViet

I think you didn't get the interpretation correctly.

My main message is
- `get a roof over the head for family' instead of spending the money on holidays and building houses for wife's relatives in the province.

- educate the children by ourselves, don't depend on MIL, who has no idea of educating kids.



As for others who are fast to stamp me out, please read carefully what i wrote. Educating children is not as easy as most of us think it is. When our children get to P4 onwards, most of us cannot understand the syllabus at all. Maths is so different from what we has last time. So before you start to `stamp me out quickly', wait till your children reach upper primary, then you come tell me about it.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by lugi

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I am happy to see that she is nearing the end of her Bachelor degree in Accountancy. Going through the process of studying herself, she values the opportunities and the importance of it. She has said that we should save money for kids education next time and should cut down unnecessary expenses.

What i want to share is that it takes a lot of patience and communication with them, planning a future with them with goals to achieve. Make ourselves different from the Vn man who just think of the present.

Welcome back because your last post back in June 2013...

Congratulations on your wife education and successful brain wash your wifey....

I think a Viet gal who can achieve a degree here is not easy and kudos to her...she should be a clever person and bean counter will knew how to save for family...only thing I hope you dun have to give your full monthly salary to her...

Luv your avatar..looks rather familiar...

[jazman]

Originally Posted by MIFAcafe

A very generic question so variable answers.

Usually bro u gave her how muchie if she going to stay for a month then come back

[lugi]

[thank you for the warm welcome back H88

indeed, its been a long time with a new partner in life and all the works. good to see many old timers still around contribibutinh wisdom and advice.

that avatar? PIGS CAN FLY.. LOL


QUOTE=Hurricane88;13049607]Welcome back because your last post back in June 2013...

Congratulations on your wife education and successful brain wash your wifey....

I think a Viet gal who can achieve a degree here is not easy and kudos to her...she should be a clever person and bean counter will knew how to save for family...only thing I hope you dun have to give your full monthly salary to her...

Luv your avatar..looks rather familiar...[/QUOTE]

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by lugi

We already have a contract and understanding that our kids will have to be educated in the 2 main languages of Chinese and English. (I shot down the idea of her mum coming to take care of the kids)

U meant "verbal agreement" instead of a "contract" right? Funny to hear couple having this type of contract.

If your kid is in SG and educates in SG then definitely he/she will pick up these 2 languages easier.

[lugi]

Originally Posted by naemlo

U meant "verbal agreement" instead of a "contract" right? Funny to hear couple having this type of contract.

If your kid is in SG and educates in SG then definitely he/she will pick up these 2 languages easier.

something stronger than a verbal agreement but not a contract in black and white.

in fact, I would want the kids to be able to converse in Vietnamese as well, who knows what economic opportunities Vn might present in the future

[KonKam]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

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fortunately you can accumulate enough good karma to over-ride the bad karma but all depends the type of bad deeds or accumulated bad karma...&&

yo Hurricane88,
i believe in Buddhism,doing countless good deed can never over-ride bad karma in this lifetime.
The most is to balance only, coz that what i was told during one of buddhism class.

[hoian]

I think karma is not a 1-1 = 0 kinda thing. Impt thing is... do we practice right moral conduct after realising our error? Or do we continue to encourage others to find chicken... etc?

Originally Posted by KonKam

yo Hurricane88,
i believe in Buddhism,doing countless good deed can never over-ride bad karma in this lifetime.
The most is to balance only, coz that what i was told during one of buddhism class.

[MoJoe313]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Definitely no malice...let me answer you base on what I understand about karma...

we are all human beings and who as human dun made mistakes...depends on the mistakes one human made in the past or previous life...of course we cannot control our previous life but can control current life...

participation in sex forum is not bad karma because here you dun do bad things unless you purposely out to hurt others...SBF has been made in such you can do good deeds...is no longer just all about sex...but of course the karma is you may get lustful and do bad things...only Buddhism shall teach you to abstain from all the sex thingy...hey, i am doing NS for SBF leh...

if a person has done some bad things in the past or previous life...then more so he should try to do good deeds...charity is just one way to do good deeds...there are many other ways that dun need to involve money...example bring an anonymous old lady across the street if that is a busy street...or volunteer your time to help in old folks home...

fortunately you can accumulate enough good karma to over-ride the bad karma but all depends the type of bad deeds or accumulated bad karma...&&

help out your viet gf or relatives that you are involved is not doing good deeds...so only if you have no obligations helping to anonymous ppl then can consider good deeds and thus good karma...&&

Note - the above is purely IMHO...not to upset anyone...pls skip if you dun like to read...^^

This is interesting. No wonder my buddhist friend in his 40s is recently asking for lobang to help at a orphanage and adopt-a-child overseas (financially give money).

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

This is interesting. No wonder my buddhist friend in his 40s is recently asking for lobang to help at a orphanage and adopt-a-child overseas (financially give money).

This year we will be identifying our 1st recipient for education scholarship for our small "Gift of Hope" group...also visiting child's grandmother to see if we can help pay for her monthly kidney dialysis cost...all these in Vietnam...

We will still donate to old folks home and orphanages around Vietnam,..

On behalf of our group...thank you donors...

[MIFAcafe]

Her stupid mother want to sell the girl virgin in Singapore. We warn her it is illegal as she is still underage......

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

also visiting child's grandmother to see if we can help pay for her monthly kidney dialysis cost...all these in Vietnam...