Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[mace]

hihi everyone.

i nvr knew SBF hav a topic on vietnamese partner until now. i am some questions that i hope some of u gurus can help me. thks in advance.

I know of this vietnam gal in a KTV( the usual story) for abt 1 yr plus...there has been up and down and donno why, i fell deeper and deeper in love with her. Just as mentioned by many guys in this topic, $$ is a big problem in our relationship. She came from complicated backgrd(mum divorced, brothers gangsters, 1 in jail, 1 just came out, 1 small bro studying). She always in need of $ for mum medical, paying police in jail, personal expenses etc etc. Sometimes i really cannot tahan...not becos of the $$, but the way she "jack up the $$ need" and think that i donno.

I hav been to her hse in HCM twice..to chk out on her stories..most of them seems right. The 1st time i went, she was living in a very rundown wooden shack..but i dont really mind even though she say dont laugh at her hse. The 2nd time i went, she lived in a rented double storey townhse with 3bedrms and with karoke system .. most prob by using the $ i "sponsored."
Anyway, i am thinking of marrying her...but she quoted on the condition that
her mum ar well taken of 1st before marrying me. She propose getting a hse for her mum so that she will not be renting hse anymore. She figure i will need ard 30-40k for a decent hse and some $$ left for her mum to start a small stall or something.
Can any gurus offer any advice on this?? I am quite sick of sending $$ everytime to her family, i hope by doing that, i will not be sending $ as often as of now. anyway i think she is quite frank with me, she said $$ works in vietnam, no $$ nothing can be done. if there is $ in love, she will gladly love him so that her family is well provided. and she warned me many many times that loving her will be very stressful but i still decide to go ahead.

by the way, is it possible for a foreigner to buy a hse or under my name? how much does a normal hse cost in HCM?? i dont really remeber the district name of her current hse cos it is off the HCM city map, but i do remeber it is quite near the RMIT university.
++btw i still need to Tx ard 2k for her rented hse...cos she said the hse rental is 7k for 1 yr..nabei. Her daily expenses now is "maintain" by loansharks and whenever i think of it.. i will hav headache..cos i noe i will be the 1 paying it.

[Honey Boon]

bro, from your story, i guess you have invested quite a lot in this girl ... love or no love, I got no comment. But I think you are stuck .... give up now but feel all the time and money wasted but carry on???? you will need to burn more $$ ...

if I were you, I also need lots of valuable advises from the experienced brothers here. I myself don't have that kind of experience. My main purpose of visiting this thread is to remind myself what to do if I ever ....... you know la

Originally Posted by mace

hihi everyone.

i nvr knew SBF hav a topic on vietnamese partner until now. i am some questions that i hope some of u gurus can help me. thks in advance.

I know of this vietnam gal in a KTV( the usual story) for abt 1 yr plus................

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by mace

hihi everyone.

i fell deeper and deeper in love with her. ...

I am quite sick of sending $$ everytime to her family, i hope by doing that, i will not be sending $ as often as of now. anyway i think she is quite frank with me, she said $$ works in vietnam, no $$ nothing can be done. if there is $ in love, she will gladly love him so that her family is well provided. and she warned me many many times that loving her will be very stressful but i still decide to go ahead.

by the way, is it possible for a foreigner to buy a hse or under my name? how much does a normal hse cost in HCM?? i dont really remeber the district name of her current hse cos it is off the HCM city map, but i do remeber it is quite near the RMIT university.
++btw i still need to Tx ard 2k for her rented hse...cos she said the hse rental is 7k for 1 yr..nabei. Her daily expenses now is "maintain" by loansharks and whenever i think of it.. i will hav headache..cos i noe i will be the 1 paying it.

Bro, let us look at this case in several angles:

1) You love her deeply???....
Love has no barriers and makes a person do stupid things....

2) You need alot of money monthly and yearly to mantain her family and her....ask yourself what happens when you dun have any more money or you lose your financing power???
I think you can guess what is the end result. Possible she will ditch you and go back to work or find another bf who can do the same or better....

3) Buying a house??? -
for cheap affordable housing can only be bought by local ... foreigners are allowed to buy only expensive houses which government approved...more money required???

4) Constantly you are sending her family money??? Looks like an endless pits...

Personally I think you are in big trouble......

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by mace

by the way, is it possible for a foreigner to buy a hse or under my name? how much does a normal hse cost in HCM?? i dont really remeber the district name of her current hse cos it is off the HCM city map, but i do remeber it is quite near the RMIT university.
++btw i still need to Tx ard 2k for her rented hse...cos she said the hse rental is 7k for 1 yr..nabei. Her daily expenses now is "maintain" by loansharks and whenever i think of it.. i will hav headache..cos i noe i will be the 1 paying it.

Bro, pardon me if i am too frank on yr issue, i think you are using money to BUY love. I don't think that you know how big is a normal vietnamese family, its not just the mother, brothers and sisters. It also include all from the father's and mother's side. Can you feed them all? You are falling in a trap set up by a typical vietnamese bar gal, they make you think with yr dick head and not yr head.

If yr gal stays near the RMIT campus, most probably its Binh chanh or D8. To the extend that you want to buy a house for her, TROI OI, u really need to wake up. You can start a business there and buy a house under the company's name, or get posted there permanently and get a house there. But if the gal knows that u have fallen into her trap, she will ask you to buy house under her name.

Like i say before, discount 75% of what these gals say. But of course, if you think that by paying for all the things and u can have a gal by your side and have sex whenever u want, then go ahead. Till the end, u will have no money and no lady. And u will know what is No Money, No Honey as you have been Kanna Con of Money by Your Lovely Honey

[mace]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro, pardon me if i am too frank on yr issue, i think you are using money to BUY love. I don't think that you know how big is a normal vietnamese family, its not just the mother, brothers and sisters. It also include all from the father's and mother's side. Can you feed them all? You are falling in a trap set up by a typical vietnamese bar gal, they make you think with yr dick head and not yr head.

If yr gal stays near the RMIT campus, most probably its Binh chanh or D8. To the extend that you want to buy a house for her, TROI OI, u really need to wake up. You can start a business there and buy a house under the company's name, or get posted there permanently and get a house there. But if the gal knows that u have fallen into her trap, she will ask you to buy house under her name.

Like i say before, discount 75% of what these gals say. But of course, if you think that by paying for all the things and u can have a gal by your side and have sex whenever u want, then go ahead. Till the end, u will have no money and no lady. And u will know what is No Money, No Honey as you have been Kanna Con of Money by Your Lovely Honey

haha how true. that is what i am afraid of..no money and no honey....thats why i intend to buy the hse only after she ROM with me. Well i think i hav already met all her relatives from top to bottom. her father side no need to worry, cos he is a rich man staying in USA. Her mum is his father 2nd wife, but already divorced.

Ar all vietnamese behave like this..no $$ wan to act rich >.<.. only noe how to spend. ..think i am walking on thin ice now...
to break or carry on....signzz.......having headache..

[mace]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Bro, let us look at this case in several angles:

3) Buying a house??? -
for cheap affordable housing can only be bought by local ... foreigners are allowed to buy only expensive houses which government approved...more money required???


Personally I think you are in big trouble......

hmmm so whats the normal price range like for a local?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by mace

hmmm so whats the normal price range like for a local?

A normal house in the southern province is already going for US$60,000, its the land that is valuable, not the house. A 3 storey local townhouse on a near Binh chanh is going for US$200,000. So how much are u willing to spend ? btw, ROM already also can divorce, many viet ladies are divorced. Get to know more about vietnamese then decide..

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by mace

Ar all vietnamese behave like this..no $$ wan to act rich >.<.. only noe how to spend.

The vietnamese gal want face alot, especially when they r marrying a foreigner!!

[Scleropages]

What about north Vietnam?

[Scleropages]

What about house with land in countryside of Haiphong? How much?

[mace]

Originally Posted by SingViet

A normal house in the southern province is already going for US$60,000, its the land that is valuable, not the house. A 3 storey local townhouse on a near Binh chanh is going for US$200,000. So how much are u willing to spend ? btw, ROM already also can divorce, many viet ladies are divorced. Get to know more about vietnamese then decide..

woo, even if it is local price??think my gal hse situated near district 8....lots of muddy road..near 1 market selling all girly stuff.. she said her current hse worth 2000000000dong. All those landlord must be quite rich.

From the 2 visit(total 2weeks) i hav, her family treat me well. Nvr ask $$ or anything from me. It is only my gal who will take $ from my wallet and pass it ard to her mum, small cousins etc haha.

can u advise me on more of the darker side of the vietnamese culture?? So that i can be aware and hopefully be able to repell it haha.. thks in advance.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by mace

From the 2 visit(total 2weeks) i hav, her family treat me well. Nvr ask $$ or anything from me. It is only my gal who will take $ from my wallet and pass it ard to her mum, small cousins etc haha.

can u advise me on more of the darker side of the vietnamese culture?? So that i can be aware and hopefully be able to repell it haha.. thks in advance.

She love your money.
Try telling her you are already broke and cannot provide her the money. See what is her response.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by mace

Just as mentioned by many guys in this topic, $$ is a big problem in our relationship. She came from complicated backgrd(mum divorced, brothers gangsters, 1 in jail, 1 just came out, 1 small bro studying). She always in need of $ for mum medical, paying police in jail, personal expenses etc etc. Sometimes i really cannot tahan...not becos of the $$, but the way she "jack up the $$ need" and think that i donno.

$ is always a problem with the poor. Alot VN family is complicated but its a norm to them.
She will jack up more of the increase in oil price. Whole world is experiencing it.

I hav been to her hse in HCM twice..to chk out on her stories..most of them seems right.

Only twice is not many. Try go more often to find out. The whole family can gang up to make the story look real.

The 1st time i went, she was living in a very rundown wooden shack..but i dont really mind even though she say dont laugh at her hse. The 2nd time i went, she lived in a rented double storey townhse with 3bedrms and with karoke system .. most prob by using the $ i "sponsored."

such drastic change in living condition. You must be giving her alot mthly allowance. Else she must be fed by many guys.

Anyway, i am thinking of marrying her...

You are rushing. Stand back and observe more. Only visit her home twice is not enuff.

in but she quoted on the condition that
her mum ar well taken of 1st before marrying me. She propose getting a hse for her mum so that she will not be renting hse anymore. She figure i will need ard 30-40k for a decent hse and some $$ left for her mum to start a small stall or something.
Can any gurus offer any advice on this??

Her family is number 1. Your money is number 2. You are number 99.

anyway i think she is quite frank with me, she said $$ works in vietnam, no $$ nothing can be done. if there is $ in love, she will gladly love him so that her family is well provided. and she warned me many many times that loving her will be very stressful but i still decide to go ahead.

She is telling you she love your $. So what you should do?

i dont really remeber the district name of her current hse cos it is off the HCM city map, but i do remeber it is quite near the RMIT university.
++btw i still need to Tx ard 2k for her rented hse...

seems near my girlfriend house. she rent a unit at $120/mth. I only started offering to pay her rent this year. I only transfer $150-$200 a mth.

[darkangel83]

Salute to Bro SingViet, Sha_Gua, naemlo, KangTuo, Torres_Mok, jackbl, gremio and to the others (sorry if i din mention your name).

I am really impressed with this Thread, and now I am only at page 55/241 (I dunno when I can finish it). I do need to confess that it really open up my mind and perspective of the Viet girl. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge and experience here.

btw, I am in love with a Viet girl, but too bad I knew her in KTV. not as lucky as those bros here that have viet student as gf. even though i see the pit, i still step in it.... and i still remember a quote from bro SingViet (of course I modified the sentences as I can't remember the exact one):
"There are 2 categories of those here:
1.Get a viet girl as a lifetime partner
2.cheong viet girls"
I belong to the 1st category and dislike cheonging too much, but rather to find a stable relationship that last for lifelong.

Thumbs up for all the bros here!! Gonna continue from page 56...

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by mace

haha how true. that is what i am afraid of..no money and no honey....thats why i intend to buy the hse only after she ROM with me.

No garantee that you ROM, it means you are safe. It can be alot worst. (If she knows about Woman Chartered)

Well i think i hav already met all her relatives from top to bottom. her father side no need to worry, cos he is a rich man staying in USA. Her mum is his father 2nd wife, but already divorced.

Her father is rich? hhow you know? Just becoz he is in USA don;t mean he is reach. So is his father feeding her and her mum by sending money to them? If so, why she need to come and work in KTV?for fun?

In fact there are rich vn gals who come here to work in KTV and look for sex just for fun. I would say 0.1% only.

Ar all vietnamese behave like this..no $$ wan to act rich >.<.. only noe how to spend.

Yes. Alot know how to reach out their hand or open mouth to ask for money. after they spend finish, they ask again. Easy to ask than to work to earn.