Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

others may gamble heavily and expects their daughters to pay their debts off...

These type even you have Golden mountain behind you also not enough.
Better save our ass and run far far

[SingViet]

I don't think we can satisfy their needs, or even to a large extend, their basic needs. You think about it, their families are damm big, and if one person needs 30,000 VND for simple meals each day, and the family easily will have around 20 people. So its 20 x 30,000 VND x 30days = 18 million VND just for food each month. Then how about other needs like medical? Poor people always sick, poor old people even worse......

Better to state your terms and convince your wife of your ability. If want to support them all, i will rather be single

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Sleep also must be meeting family financial needs?

Roof top over the head. U dun expect your parents in law or family sleep under the bridge....

Originally Posted by ekemono

Mmmmmm, neither you and I have the answer for someone else really. But we have for our own. And that is what matters.

Anyway u r the 1 who gonna face your family not me... just hope that no false hope of marrying a ex WL is easy by providing them the BASIC.

Originally Posted by SingViet

Better to state your terms and convince your wife of your ability. If want to support them all, i will rather be single

This is what I'm thinking too.... Basic = $$$$

[ekemono]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Anyway u r the 1 who gonna face your family not me... just hope that no false hope of marrying a ex WL is easy by providing them the BASIC.

I never said anything about false hope or I dun want to face my own family.
Why are you taking it so personal ??????????

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I don't think we can satisfy their needs, or even to a large extend, their basic needs. You think about it, their families are damm big, and if one person needs 30,000 VND for simple meals each day, and the family easily will have around 20 people. So its 20 x 30,000 VND x 30days = 18 million VND just for food each month. Then how about other needs like medical? Poor people always sick, poor old people even worse......

Better to state your terms and convince your wife of your ability. If want to support them all, i will rather be single

Just called VN to talk to my girlfriend. Somehow bring up the topic of whether I have the capability to worry for her needs when she marry me and stays in sillypore.

I told her that no matter how, I will support her and feed her. But may not be able to take care of her whole family of 10+ people. She scolded me for thinking this way.

She says that her thinking has always been that once she marry, she will let her younger brother to take care of the whole family. She will only care for her mum and dad as thay may not have many years left. Now she is the one who carrys the burden of the whole family and she is tired.

Issit too good to be truth after reading the post by so many bros here. time will tell...

From what i see so far, there is only 1 useless person in her family. Her eldest bro who is not working and keep pestering her dad to sell of their land in Mekong. They are all catholic and her dad is real strict. No gambling problem in family, no rental to pay. The only thing is that her dad is old and somehow now become a 'fan lau wan tong'...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

Just called VN to talk to my girlfriend. Somehow bring up the topic of whether I have the capability to worry for her needs when she marry me and stays in sillypore.

I told her that no matter how, I will support her and feed her. But may not be able to take care of her whole family of 10+ people. She scolded me for thinking this way.

She says that her thinking has always been that once she marry, she will let her younger brother to take care of the whole family. She will only care for her mum and dad as thay may not have many years left. Now she is the one who carrys the burden of the whole family and she is tired.

Issit too good to be truth after reading the post by so many bros here. time will tell...

From what i see so far, there is only 1 useless person in her family. Her eldest bro who is not working and keep pestering her dad to sell of their land in Mekong. They are all catholic and her dad is real strict. No gambling problem in family, no rental to pay. The only thing is that her dad is old and somehow now become a 'fan lau wan tong'...

Yes, only time will tell. But one thing to note is that other siblings will often go thru the parents to demand money from the sister that is married to foreigner. My wife told me the same thing about caring for her parents only, but often, her other sisters and brothers will ask the mother to request for more mone from us to help them. For example, my wife's 2nd elder sister got a piece of land from her mother and she wanted to build a house on it. Building cost is around US$3000, and she requested my mother-in-law to ask me for the money to help her build the house. I declined and my mother in law got angry saying i `no use'.

Such request thru parents will surface very often.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes, only time will tell. But one thing to note is that other siblings will often go thru the parents to demand money from the sister that is married to foreigner. My wife told me the same thing about caring for her parents only, but often, her other sisters and brothers will ask the mother to request for more mone from us to help them. For example, my wife's 2nd elder sister got a piece of land from her mother and she wanted to build a house on it. Building cost is around US$3000, and she requested my mother-in-law to ask me for the money to help her build the house. I declined and my mother in law got angry saying i `no use'.

Such request thru parents will surface very often.

hahaha...good to decline...what did your wife think about this...did she agree with you?...

[Honey Boon]

trust me... I really dun mind the in-law called me poor, bad sun-in-law who f care them, I already gotten yr daughter. if they buay song, try to convince her to go back to them lor, see who the vn girl want to follow?

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes, only time will tell. But one thing to note is that other siblings will often go thru the parents to demand money from the sister that is married to foreigner. My wife told me the same thing about caring for her parents only, but often, her other sisters and brothers will ask the mother to request for more mone from us to help them. For example, my wife's 2nd elder sister got a piece of land from her mother and she wanted to build a house on it. Building cost is around US$3000, and she requested my mother-in-law to ask me for the money to help her build the house. I declined and my mother in law got angry saying i `no use'.

Such request thru parents will surface very often.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by ekemono

I never said anything about false hope or I dun want to face my own family.
Why are you taking it so personal ??????????

Huh? This is just a discussion, who is getting personal? Anyway if u think it is getting personal. Live your own life. As long as u r happy with your life, then y bother about how a stranger commented.

Marrying a WL n providing finance to her family is more than basic.

[casannova03]

Bro Ekemono and Bro Naemlo....RELAX!!

No need so worked up ok...

Both of you have a point...while ekemono tries to say something from his point of view and experiences, namelo tries to present the other side of the coin from his view and experiences....so

its just a difference in each's experiences...no one is wrong..

Everyone should just take note of the finer points in the advice in here and use it to their own experiences... Nothing is absolute and events will not turn out the same for any two persons in their relationship with VN gals, working ladies or not.

Things i say and relate might not be true in another situation and with another person and things Bro Singviet says might also be the same....

In a nutshell, bros reading this thread should read and absorb the cautions but not take everything in absolutely...use the advice as and when you see fit in your own daily liasions with Vn gals...

Relax k!!

[papillon30]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Yes, only time will tell. But one thing to note is that other siblings will often go thru the parents to demand money from the sister that is married to foreigner. My wife told me the same thing about caring for her parents only, but often, her other sisters and brothers will ask the mother to request for more mone from us to help them. For example, my wife's 2nd elder sister got a piece of land from her mother and she wanted to build a house on it. Building cost is around US$3000, and she requested my mother-in-law to ask me for the money to help her build the house. I declined and my mother in law got angry saying i `no use'.

Such request thru parents will surface very often.

'no use'? You didn't show your mother-in-law photos of your former Trung Son
landed and your present S'pore landed?

[papillon30]

Vietnam's population is 86 million. Nowadays airline tickets are so cheap, HCMC is only 1.5hrs away, hotel accomodation is very affordable(US$20 and above), and street food is almost free.

How come so many married ex-WL, present-WL, free-lance WL....?
Lack of time? Lack of money? Lack of initiative? All the above? Or is it everyone is doing it?

Does anyone notice almost all the complaints are from forumers
with gfs/wives who are formerly/presently in this line?

There are alot of very nice single Vietnamese ladies waiting for you in Vietnam. You just need to make an effort to look for them.

[ekemono]

for your leisure reading:

Imported wives in Singapore left in the lurch

One Vietnamese Woman's Ordeal in Taiwan - NAM

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

hahaha...good to decline...what did your wife think about this...did she agree with you?...

My wife clever now. She knows her parents don't need that much money. My wife will rather we enjoy good life here with the money i earned. She told me she has given too much for her family for the past many years already. Its time she enjoy life

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by casannova03

Bro Ekemono and Bro Naemlo....RELAX!!

Cannot relax.... u died where?