Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[casannova03]

Originally Posted by SingViet

hahah, i have seen too many vietnamese gals telling ICA officers that their `bf' is singaporean and also lots of Singaporean telling the ICA officer that the viet gal is their `gf'. Same standard reply is that ICA only recognise marriage certificates. To ICA, they only recognise official documents. You can tell them a thousand and one stories, they also don't care

Well, even with official documents, they can also reject a gal's entry!!

So like they said, Its totally at their discretion!

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

i m sure ICA also realise that many Viet WL, after marrying Singaporean man, still go work at JC and other nightspots. Viet WL seems to think that the best way to stay in Singapore is to marry Singaporean man.

Hahaha...no loop holes in our law...that's why alot of wives application for for long term pass or pr got rejected without reprieve...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Hahaha...no loop holes in our law...that's why alot of wives application for for long term pass or pr got rejected without reprieve...

There are loop holes, but its only for the rich and famous. We are just normal folks, so no holes for us to squeeze thru

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

There are loop holes, but its only for the rich and famous. We are just normal folks, so no holes for us to squeeze thru

Wow bro, rise and shine on a lazy sun morn...ya la odinary ppl have to follow the rules of the law...

[SingViet]

hahhah, everyday is not lazy for me.

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Out of 10 viet gals that singapore man met in Singapore, 9 are from KTVs, Bars & Pubs. We always try to console ourselves that the

(1) viet gals we met are always special, they don't go lam tinh with customers.

(2)The viet gals are refused entry into singapore because ICA got nothing better to do

(3) The viet gals love us a lot as they bring us to meet their parents and families

(4) What happened to others will not happen to me as my viet gal is special

(5) My viet gal picked up her supreme love making skills thru watching porno CD her friend brought to her house

(6) My viet gal will only con other foreigner or viet kieu but not me

(7) Viet gals give free sex, so i better grab

(8) i work in vietnam for a few years, drawing a miserable salary, but i am King of HCMC as i know the bars damm well


Not all Viet WL are bad, but will you be so lucky to pick / or to be picked by the Good one?

I agree with your 8 commandments. Most viet girls we met in pubs/KTVs are not simple at all. Most are in debt or eager to find a singapore husband to break out of poverty. They tend to give the same excuse that parents are sick at home and they need to work in singapore to foot the medical bills.

I am impressed that most viet girls can cook very well. Unlike sg girls. Pampered by parents or can't be bothered to cook due to work commitments.

I do have a viet gf in tay ninh. Am still trying to find out/test if she really loves me. She brought me to see her parents and wanted me to marry her. But I told her to wait for 3 years. Marriage is not a game. So being cautious is better. I am looking forward to see her in viet in Sep.

Any advice for me to find out if she is true?

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by Niaoren

Any advice for me to find out if she is true?

Get a private investigator.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Niaoren

I agree with your 8 commandments. Most viet girls we met in pubs/KTVs are not simple at all. Most are in debt or eager to find a singapore husband to break out of poverty. They tend to give the same excuse that parents are sick at home and they need to work in singapore to foot the medical bills.

I am impressed that most viet girls can cook very well. Unlike sg girls. Pampered by parents or can't be bothered to cook due to work commitments.

I do have a viet gf in tay ninh. Am still trying to find out/test if she really loves me. She brought me to see her parents and wanted me to marry her. But I told her to wait for 3 years. Marriage is not a game. So being cautious is better. I am looking forward to see her in viet in Sep.

Any advice for me to find out if she is true?

Besides naemlo advice to find a private investigator, we don't enough about your story to advise you...give us a little bit about your story...why dun you trust her...

[Honey Boon]

stop sending money for few months and see what happend? see face change color or not?

Originally Posted by naemlo

Get a private investigator.

[Tee-Muay]

Originally Posted by GLHunter

There are many vietnam matchmaking agencis in s'pore.
i am wondering.. is it technically possible to get a vietamese bride diy without going thro. them? meaning we buy our own tix & fly there & hunt for our love ourself.

hopefully after some courtship then tie down. what you bros think?

Bro, please only get the girls from the village and not those that come to Singapore for matchmaking. If you are serious about getting a Viet wife, go find an agency that can do this. I can give you my friend's agency contact if you desire.

[leo_ng77]

i also know my viet gf for a month and she wants to meet my mum...sometime i really dunn know how true is it....and whether they are true about you...it is very hard to determine and all depends on the gals.

Anyway, my gal already 29 and eager to get married.....hmm....but I still yet to know her enough...any advise??? Im thinking of stopping this relationship...before it goes too deep...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by leo_ng77

i also know my viet gf for a month and she wants to meet my mum...sometime i really dunn know how true is it....and whether they are true about you...it is very hard to determine and all depends on the gals.

Anyway, my gal already 29 and eager to get married.....hmm....but I still yet to know her enough...any advise??? Im thinking of stopping this relationship...before it goes too deep...

Actually you already answered yourself that is you wanted to end the relationship...dun think you like her at all...also your gf wants to kc you but seems to be kc herself...if you dun like her better end fast before you make any mistake...

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by Honey Boon

stop sending money for few months and see what happend? see face change color or not?

My bx got ask me for $. She asked for $100 recently. I sent her $200 instead. She has been working very hard. She does because she borrowed from her sister. She did not ask me for $ every month. She told me she is saving hard to buy motorbike. Not sure if she is lying. I ever encountered viet girls who asked me to send $500 because parent is sick. I act blur!

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Besides naemlo advice to find a private investigator, we don't enough about your story to advise you...give us a little bit about your story...why dun you trust her...

My gf used to work in Sg pubs and ktvs before. When I first got to know her at a pub a year ago, she was not a happening girl. I went out with her a few times and wanted to kiss her but she refused. I find her a smart girl and hard to get type.

When she returned to vietnam, she started calling me and told me her parents sick and she needed money. I was quite pissed and ignored her calls because I gave her few hundreds before she went back vietnam. I ignored her calls for a few months and got in touch with her again. Subsequently, I decided to meet her in vietnam to find out her family background. Her parents stay in bungalow type house in a rural area in Tay Ninh. Next door, also a bungalow belonging to her grandparents. I did not sleep at her house. Instead, I slept with her in hotel nearby. I asked her if her parents may not be happy. She said it is ok. She told me that her parents knew I gave them money when they were sick and hospitalised due to dengue. But they did not know that she worked as a pub or ktv girl in singapore. Her parents and grandparents wanted her to marry a singaporean. I met her father's friends who were viet policemen and had a few drinks with them one of the nights.

I have bad experiences with viet girls before. Many tell lies. That's why seeking advice here from those who have viet wives.

Hope my story is detailed enough now.

[Niaoren]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Get a private investigator.

Oic! too costly leh. Any cheaper means?