Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[unclesammi]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Reminds me of past which happened 3 yrs ago. First time there in HCMC, didn't bring much cash, as I still green with their culture and I didn't expect to spend so much.

Others wanted beer, I paid, others wanted to eat, I paid. CB, si pei tu lan thing was gave them few hundreds thousands dong, complaint not enough. Everything I also paid. Almost end of the trip no cash, kena complaint y no cash. Tiu, how the f I know I have to paid for the whole village???

Haha, u dun look like a "Chai Tou" to me leh.

Anyway good experience, once bitten twice shy. But you still like viet gals leh.

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by unclesammi

Haha, u dun look like a "Chai Tou" to me leh.

When first meet, treat a bit is ok to me but....

Originally Posted by unclesammi

Anyway good experience, once bitten twice shy. But you still like viet gals leh.

I like any SYT gers.

[RJ2004]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Others wanted beer, I paid, others wanted to eat, I paid. CB, si pei tu lan thing was gave them few hundreds thousands dong, complaint not enough. Everything I also paid. Almost end of the trip no cash, kena complaint y no cash. Tiu, how the f I know I have to paid for the whole village???

that time my trip was fully paid for

Originally Posted by naemlo

Nbzzzzzz u bring back my sad memories again. Is there a service on lost n found in HCMC??? I just want to know she is well, no other intention...

you never mention... i ran into one of the girls in their group last dec

[naemlo]

Originally Posted by RJ2004

that time my trip was fully paid for

U different mah....

Originally Posted by RJ2004

you never mention... i ran into one of the girls in their group last dec

Now then u tell me...

[chanyboy]

Originally Posted by naemlo

1 thing I know, once she loves u, she will stick close to u ....

Originally Posted by raiders

...

Those that makes good wives are those who really have given their whole heart to you, decide to marry you and settle down. Overall, VN girls makes very wonderful wife. How do I know? I have 1 at home.

..at least some comforting tots. Aniway, I guessed SViet oso is a living testimony. With Sha_Q** taking a step closer it's probably a worthy effort after all. Looks like I better move out of babystep into maturity step faster... am waiting for her to come back & 'tie' her down...ke..ke..

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by euphoria777

My 200 dong contributions........

If you like your Viet gal and want to be with her, EDUCATE her.

Be reasonable, and be nice to them. But at the same time, set your rules.

I tell my gal whenever I go bia-om. Of course initially she super not happy.
Then I educate her. I go bia-om because I need to entertain. No entertain, no business. No business, no money. Then I give her a choice, you want me to lie and say I go somewhere else, or tell the truth that I go bia-om.

She prefer the truth. Then I tell her no black face when I come back.
My friend even better, he tell his gal...."dun ever ask me where I go and what time I come back, as long as I come back to sleep"!!!

Yo bro. I agree with what you have said. But it differs from person to person. I think your friend quite bull shit lor and trying to act hero infront of friends. If we tell the gal, `dun ever ask me where i go and what time i come back, as long as i come back to sleep', the gal is very capable to tell us the same thing back.

[SingViet]

For bros who doesn't know Euphoria777, he's my good friend in HCM City. one of the lao jiaos in the city bro Euphoria, seriously speaking lor, for the past years till now, i feel what you said all reasonable and good. That's why i RESPECT you and keep in contact with you till now. Last time got so many forumers in HCM City quite hao lian, they tell others they get free fuck, this and that. But in the end, i found out they give the gals most expensive handphone, buy them this and that (i mean expensive assets which i don't want to mention) These call Free Fuck meh? More expensive than paying for the fucks.

Bro Euphoria, next time when i go HCM, i look for u and bongster to go cheong again (i should be going next weekend)

[newyorker88]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I have been discussing with some bros in the other Vietnam Thread about vietnamese life partners, their family and their way of life. i will think that its better for me to start a new thread on this than to hijack bro Lament's thread.

I will start by copying the few posts that has been discussed earlier in the other thread. I welcome more bros with vietnamese life partners to contribute to this thread. let's share our experience.

THanks for such a thread. I personally have not got any dealing with vietnam gals yet. It is very interesting and many brothers have given their personal experiences!

I will share my experience on my GF from indonesia. Yes, pretty much the same. They place their family on top, their sisters and brothers, and parents on top of almost everything.

And usually, they rather listen to their family advise than to rational thinking that we have over here. It got me really piss off at times. Even we are together for a few years only, I have helped to improve much of their family kampong life. The family back there got better furnitures, cars, motorbikes and so on.

$$ is not a big issue, but at least think rationally before making comments or their die hard customs. Sometimes, somethings does not make logical sense or it is not necessary in our more advance medical facilities.

Life with my GF(OC) has been good. The family accpeted me and I am happy about it. just sometimes, I rather not handle their family side problems as it will be never ending. $$$ is the top issue and I make it clear that I will only help out so much. Or else it will be a never ending digger at your door step.
Of cos, at times, I have to fork out abit more.

Visiting them in a Kampong in Sumatra is more meeting people than relaxing. There are so many relatives that my GF want me to meet, always showing off her new found "hubby".

Over time, she come to realise that we are from different world and she has to adapt to the new lifestyle that we are in. It takes time and patience to get along with each other and I never regard having her to be a companion.

Still some old habits die hard and we will turn dark face over trival matters. But that is always over in no time.

It seems that they are more accepting that husbands do stray and they do not question that much. I was told of a saying among the woman here which I find it so true

" If hubby not at home, cannot be considered your hubby".

To those who choose overseas woman, I congrate you to have found your love. And it depends on each person too. There is no absolute good or bad about overseas woman. Up to individduals.

Life is short, treasure the ones that you have found. Over the years, I have seen many, and end of the day, trust your heart, you will not live with regrets after that.

[euphoria777]

Originally Posted by SingViet

I think your friend quite bull shit lor and trying to act hero infront of friends. If we tell the gal, `dun ever ask me where i go and what time i come back, as long as i come back to sleep', the gal is very capable to tell us the same thing back.

this friend no bullshit type.
last night just had dinner with him and his gal.
He smoked and the gal ask him not to, he stared at her and after that, never see the gal lift up her head throughout dinner.

I was trying to highlight that its important not to let them climb over your head. One time my gal quarrel with me (over petty issues) and I just open my door and ask her leave at 3am in the morning.

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by naemlo

Of cos I have her pic... can advertise in the Vietnam newspapers?

Can post let us see see who make u become so in love?

[euphoria777]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Bro Euphoria, next time when i go HCM, i look for u and bongster to go cheong again (i should be going next weekend)

u say only....last time came in no call me.
bongster is in town until late Mar.

[SingViet]

I feel that there are 2 broad types of vietnamese gals that we are discussing about here:

(1) She may be a working gal, normal gal or even highly educated vietnamese gal. But you are SERIOUS about her and you are thinking of marrying her or you have already married her. You treasure her and see the future for the both of you and your love.

(2) She is a working gal, normal gal or even highly educated vietnamese gal. But you are playing with her, taking her as SEX OBJECT and keeping her as a pet to pass time. You do not see yourself having a future with her and neither are you willing to scarifice anything for her. You should be married or maybe having serious commitments elsewhere

If you belong to Cat (2), then you can do whatever to her because she doesn't matter to you and if you lose her, next better one will come along. But if you belong to Cat (1), there's no way that you can tell her not to control you.

[SingViet]

I remember i used to know a fellow singaporean in HCM City. He is often lablled as rich, powerful with good connections and has his way with gals. Once saw him tick off a working gal he brought with him to a pub. I thought he was really cool. Then came a few months later, i saw this `working gal' he ticked off in HCM City working in BS KTV in Geylang Singapore. I had a chat with the gal and the gal told me `How dare he tell others he had me for free! he paid for every session he had with me! I have so many guys wanting to have sex with me, do you think i will give free to such an ugly and oXX man?' I later also discovered that he's not as rich and powerful as thought. his car is even smaller than mine So from that time onwards, whatever thing he says, i discount 90%'

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by SingViet

But if you belong to Cat (1), there's no way that you can tell her not to control you.

still can tell her not to control u lah...but tell her not to control you in buying gift for her . this one she wont try to stop you too much

[Torres_Mok]

Originally Posted by SingViet

(2) She is a working gal, normal gal or even highly educated vietnamese gal. But you are playing with her, taking her as SEX OBJECT and keeping her as a pet to pass time. You do not see yourself having a future with her and neither are you willing to scarifice anything for her. You should be married or maybe having serious commitments elsewhere

I belong to cat 2, but wanted to switch cat 1