Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

the most the vn girls will cat cu (cut away the penis)
this is very well documented on the vn culture.

this one very popular recently...scared scared...

[SureScore]

Originally Posted by Golden question

dont know yussof ishak got chance to take like benjamin franklin or not

I think one day it will but won't last long.

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by SureScore

I think one day it will but won't last long.

The more USD depreciates against the SGD, the higher we can get out of VND. Few days back was at 17050 VND per $1 SGD. Hopefully very soon, the rate can reach 18,000VND.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by batty

Hi bro Golden question. When your wife suggests to you that if you are a Vietnamese girl's boyfriend; may be she is testing you? Your answer could be,

"I can never be another Vietnamese girl's boyfriend because I love only you".

Sounds soppy, right?


What your wife says above is also interesting. After marriage, she does not sound demure and obedient. She also said she does not want a single cent/Vietnamese Dong from you if after you both are not in love. My understanding is some women will go after their exhusbands' assets even beyond the guys' death. She can try to claim through Singapore's Inheritance laws.

A few more thoughts:

How long do Vietnamese women take to learn Mandarin, English or Singlish?


I notice in Western societies, a few wives murder their husbands for money, although romantic love is held in high esteem there. Poisoning is one of the methods of killing. How unlikely/likely will a few very evil Vietnamese wives murder their Singaporean husbands for money? The answer can be the Singaporean husbands are worth more alive than dead. I reckon this is more likely to happen in Vietnam than in Singapore. Usually by poison and hired assassins? I have never, never heard of Vietnamese women killing Singaporeans which is just as well. But I am very sure PRC people have killed Singaporeans.

What about crimes of passion? Will a few Vietnamese women freak out and kill? I think it is very unlikely because they are not overly expressive in nature. There is probably no answer. Very sorry to offend any bro.

bro batty,i know what u mean.Taking precatious towards your foreign spouse is good but over precatious will do harm to a relationship.our culture is brought up to such a way whereby sg ppl is careful and will take extra precautious towards ppl and is more towards foreign ppl.there is nothing wrong but after u marry a foreign spouse,treat her as your wife,learn to understand her and know more about their culture.Let her know what u can and what u cannot do.Their thinking towards relationship,family and money is very different and if a sg man keep on thinking whether his foreign wife is having a hidden agenda by marrying him,then problems will start to occur

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

bro batty,i know what u mean.Taking precatious towards your foreign spouse is good but over precatious will do harm to a relationship.our culture is brought up to such a way whereby sg ppl is careful and will take extra precautious towards ppl and is more towards foreign ppl.there is nothing wrong but after u marry a foreign spouse,treat her as your wife,learn to understand her and know more about their culture.Let her know what u can and what u cannot do.Their thinking towards relationship,family and money is very different and if a sg man keep on thinking whether his foreign wife is having a hidden agenda by marrying him,then problems will start to occur

Agree totally, speaks from experience

[Golden question]

1) Generally, viet girls are very nice people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) viet girl tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and viet are very well aware that cost of living in vietnam is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a vietnam family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that if your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, viet women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to approach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution,especially money

6) My wife ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congratulations, you found a good girlfriend or wife. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Golden question

1) Generally, viet girls are very nice people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) viet girl tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and viet are very well aware that cost of living in vietnam is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a vietnam family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that if your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, viet women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to approach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution,especially money

6) My wife ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congratulations, you found a good girlfriend or wife. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

i got this from another thread about thai girl and would like to share with bro here.I do some amendment to change to viet girl.actually i intend to write about my own thinking one but find that mine is too low soh and worry bro here will sleep after reading so lucky to find this.i strongly agree on those sentence i highlight

[Golden question]

Those highlight sentence is also my thought and my way of dealing with her for the past few years.I admit i tend to take over precatious with her after i marry her but after few years,i start to have a different thinking towards her after telling myself that precatious is good for me but if i continue to guess or think what she intend to do,then i might not be fair to her if she treat me honestly and sincere

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by Golden question

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

5) Generally, viet women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to approach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution,especially money

very good sharing...most I agree except want to add to the above...

point 2...have seen my ex #1 having planned ahead...she has a savings of more than 100 millions...she will not used even if no money...this money was for her rainy days...

point 5...there are good and bad women among Viet..generally no one born evil...you need time to observe and decide yourself...gives yourself 2 yrs perhaps longer example bro kangtuo took 5 yrs with his #1 and finally decide to get married...

also point 5...if your ban gai or bx willing to discuss with you for all matters and not lying...then as bf or ox should be willing to help especially money matters if we can afford the surplus...take it as loan and never gives freely...tell her deduct from her monthly allowances...

be truthfully and tell her if you are financially tight...above are just my opinion...^_^

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

very good sharing...most I agree except want to add to the above...

point 2...have seen my ex #1 having planned ahead...she has a savings of more than 100 millions...she will not used even if no money...this money was for her rainy days...

point 5...there are good and bad women among Viet..generally no one born evil...you need time to observe and decide yourself...gives yourself 2 yrs perhaps longer example bro kangtuo took 5 yrs with his #1 and finally decide to get married...

also point 5...if your ban gai or bx willing to discuss with you for all matters and not lying...then as bf or ox should be willing to help especially money matters if we can afford the surplus...take it as loan and never gives freely...tell her deduct from her monthly allowances..

be truthfully and tell her if you are financially tight...above are just my opinion...^_^

yah bro,i agree with your point 2,my wife is a good example,she got her own property in vietnam and she told me is for our retirement and told me that she rather save here and buy house in vietnam than buying branded goods,heng huh hahaha

your point 5-every time when she need money for her house or her family and borrow from me,i would say i help her to borrow from bank and she must return and she honor her words by paying back a few each month.
is true that i am telling lies to her but is for my own good cos end of the day i am helping her and also ourself to use her money wisely

i always told her if u are working in sg,your money is for yourself,i dont care she give how much to her family or use for what but i want her to know that i am the one who is supporting her and my family in sg.

i also told her that she dont have to scare one day we have no money or no rice to eat cos i will be a responsible husband to her but i also told her that if i can help within my financial status,i will help,but if cannot,i must have my reason

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Actually under Vietnamese laws, if a couple is not married officially, they are not allowed to stay in the same house, especially a foreigner man and a Vietnamese gal. So every time a fellow samster go VN and stay at his `gf's house', its actually illegal. If kanna some KPO neighbour, the foreigner will kanna. But kanna is kanna, in VN, everything can be settled with $$$$.

bro singviet, so if i go i will just go stay at her house and keep quiet? if got ppl pao tor then i give money? there's no hotel/motel at her village... set up camp outside her house and sleep with the chicken and ducks her family keep ah?

actually i realise one thing from all those village VB... they are very concerned of what the neighbors and people around her village say about them. there's one time i asked her why not working as hostess in hcm. she say money not that good and she scared she bump into ppl she know and ppl will talk about her parents... and there're lots of things and complaint from her what ppl around her say about her...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by ilovedoggie

there's no hotel/motel at her village...

there's one time i asked her why not working as hostess in hcm. she say money not that good and she scared she bump into ppl she know and ppl will talk about her parents... and there're lots of things and complaint from her what ppl around her say about her...

usually village have small guest house cost around 100k per nite...dun expect 2-3 star rating...may not have hot water for bath, etc...

think she is telling you how come she wanted to work in sinkie land and not in hcm as WL...she is lying...good money in hcm working as hostess...she may be one of those cmi in hcm...

complaining, grumbling, lying is a hobby by Vietnamese...take your time to learn their culture...

the above is my 2 cents worth and not to shoot down your ger...

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

usually village have small guest house cost around 100k per nite...dun expect 2-3 star rating...may not have hot water for bath, etc...

think she is telling you how come she wanted to work in sinkie land and not in hcm as WL...she is lying...good money in hcm working as hostess...she may be one of those cmi in hcm...

complaining, grumbling, lying is a hobby by Vietnamese...take your time to learn their culture...

the above is my 2 cents worth and not to shoot down your ger...

agree,they find that lying is not wrong even though it might be important for sg man.dont be surprise that they take lying as a normal thing to do

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

lying is a hobby by Vietnamese...

just online with a vb..

a very sensitive question from the vb "a giup e 1 chuyen dc kg?" (can you help me 1 thing)

this question always leads to $$$$.

KT - what you want me to help?
VB - I want to open coffee house, can you help me?
KT - open coffee house need alot money, I don't have that kind of amount
VB - I have 30mil vnd already, short of S$1.5K. Can you help me?
VB - after I open the coffee house, I slowly earn the money and return you.
KT - you got 30 mil vnd? you got more moeny than me...
VB - not that i have more than you, I also go borrow back wan because I like to open coffee house and be own boss
VB - you help me can?
KT - **** offline ****

1) this vb want to lie also dunno how to lie.
2) 30mil vnd is around S$1.7K. plus S$1.5K is S$3.2K.... can open coffee house? like that i can open for my girlfriend many coffe house roi.
3) she is taking me as a newbie

[mazdamx5]

Originally Posted by Golden question

1) Generally, viet girls are very nice people.

2) Unfortunately, they have poor money sense. They dun usually plan ahead financially, they spend what they have. So to them, money is never enough.

3) viet girl tend to think that all foreigners are more well off than them, and viet are very well aware that cost of living in vietnam is much lower than other developing countries. Thus, its very difficult for them to understand that we( singaporeans) are not as well off as they think we are.

4) Someone brought up the notion of sharing in this thread. I agree very much with it. Cos in a vietnam family unit, the most well-off child will naturally take on the responsibility to contribute financially to the family. My guess is that if your girlfriend is the only member of her family that has a foreign boyfriend. And thus, the responsiblity falls in you.

5) Generally, viet women are very virtous, and they make very good wives. They try their best to satisfied all your needs. In return, they develop a tendency to approach you the moment they have problems, be it money or something else. They look up to you as a source for solution,especially money

6) My wife ask me for money as well, I'll give her what I can. Personally, I feel that it is important for us not to feel troubled over money matters. Always make sure that whatever you give her is on top of the your own financial commitments. What I meant is that surplus that you have after your usual spending and the pre-set amount that you put to savings, your loan to her should come from this surplus.

7) Be honest with her, more importantly, be honest with yourself, if you are tight on hand, just tell her you are unable to do it. And if she is understanding about it, congratulations, you found a good girlfriend or wife. If she doesn't, good for you as well, cos you know she is not the one for you.

I can't agree more. Cheers mate.