Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by Golden question

I mean not all but most,from what i encounter and see.

Recently my wife told me her heart pain when she found out that her mom actually bought not that good food or fruits to her grandma to eat.She every month contribute few dollars to her mom to buy for her to eat.Every time when she is back,she will buy 5 to 6 tin of milk powder for her to drink.Each cost around $30 plus.

She everytime tell me her mother no good,but in the end she still love her.When her father die last year,she went to his wake and greet people coming to pay respect to him even though her dad leave her mom for another woman when she is 5 years old.Her dad did not care for them or give them money.

I ask her why she go since her father did not take care of them from that time they are born,she just keep quiet and say he is her father.So their culture or thinking is really not that simple compare to ours

i hate this `no matter what.. he/she is my who who who..' Knn, these people treat them like shit and yet they cannot deny the kinship in anyway. My wife's 2nd sister did a lot of bad things towards my wife and i since we got married. But my wife still tells me `no matter what, she is still my sister.' when i hear this, makes my blood boil. She doesn't regard you as sister and yet you still regard her as sister. This is how these VB are tied down by kinship.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by V|ernar

gift is secondary la , nothing beat cash .. once a VB told me .. unless she had the intend to buy the things , or else whatever you buy , they just treat as a normal stuff .

yes yes yes. unless the vb wl got the intend to buy...
i.e. cash vs notebook, cash vs handbag, cash vs airticket...

para bx want a notebook, i say i buy 2nd her for her, she don't want. so visit her in vn n fcuk the brain out of her. give her $1k. she go buy 2nd notebook. now she give the notebook to her bro. this trip she ask for netbook, i turn my ear deaf.

para bx wanted a branded handbag after i bring her go shopping. next day i brought her to the shop to buy the branded but on discount bag ($170) after buy, we go ks. 3shots in 2hours. same thing for a blouse ($79). after buy, go ks. 4shots in 3hours.

para bx need to go back vn, bought her ticket ($154) to go back early but don't go back. end up buy another ticket ($161). i told her as i spend this amount of money liao, don't expect me to give money. she angry and we had arguement (see tv learning thread). end if day still ok, no give she also lan lan.

verdict - other then give money, you buy things the vb want, you will be loved.

[KangTuo]

Originally Posted by SingViet

Talk about Viet WL. I was coming back from HCM the other day, saw a Viet WL dressed in a Business Suit and carrying a laptop. But i am not impressed at all. One look and you know her business suit is of inferior quality, her business suit is also damm super tight, like a dumpling. These WL has no idea on how to wear a business suit. Her hair and make up also doesn't make her look like a businesswoman. Damm, instead of trying to pass off as a business lady to con ICA, one look and you will know she's a WL.

its such fun seeing and listening to the vb discussing what to wear...
5 vb are doing that now. see them wear whatever still look like going to sillypore to work...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

its such fun seeing and listening to the vb discussing what to wear...
5 vb are doing that now. see them wear whatever still look like going to sillypore to work...

hahha, sometimes i see the quality of the VB, i wonder how will anyone pay to lam tinh with them?

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by V|ernar

gift is secondary la , nothing beat cash .. once a VB told me .. unless she had the intend to buy the things , or else whatever you buy , they just treat as a normal stuff .

yes cash is king...become their atm or carrot head la..

Originally Posted by KangTuo

verdict - other then give money, you buy things the vb want, you will be loved.

they simply has too many things they wanted to buy...just really because they have nothing...even has liao also give away or sell away...

[ilovedoggie]

Originally Posted by KangTuo

other then give money, you buy things the vb want, you will be loved.

gift makes mouth wide opened
money makes leg spread opened

[lugi]

Checking on behalf of one of my friend who is thinking of marrying his VB sweetheart of 1 year. He is a divorcee.

However, he intends not to tell his VB that he is a divorcee as his VB parents do not like divorcees.

In Sillypore, when the couple goes to ROM, during the Statutory Declaration, the ROM officer will ask the VB whether she knows her future husband is a divorcee.

So he intends to go Vietnam to register for his marriage. I understand that one of the documents needed is to prove that he is single. If he is to extract the records from the Family Court in Sillypore, it will show that he has been married before and divorced.

Are there any other documents which can prove that he is single now but not his past marital status?

Thanks.

[Golden question]

Originally Posted by SingViet

i hate this `no matter what.. he/she is my who who who..' Knn, these people treat them like shit and yet they cannot deny the kinship in anyway. My wife's 2nd sister did a lot of bad things towards my wife and i since we got married. But my wife still tells me `no matter what, she is still my sister.' when i hear this, makes my blood boil. She doesn't regard you as sister and yet you still regard her as sister. This is how these VB are tied down by kinship.

True enough,my wife's mom did not treat her good and she told me she even ask ppl to beat her own daughter when she is young.Her younger sister scold her,did not respect her and steal her money when we just marry.She cry until like no tomorrow and luckily her mom ask her to return.Her sister run away from home.When we first marry,she did not go to our wedding dinner and not even once i stay in her house,she greet me

Now she is back and on good term with my wife.She smile and greet me and very nice to us.My wife bought her gift everytime when she go back.I ask her why u still believe her and treat her so nice.

She say everybody make mistake and we should give her a chance.After all,she is her SISTER.So i just keep quiet.

WTF,if for me,i dont even want to give them a second chance,treat me like shit and i will be a bastard to u

[V|ernar]

Originally Posted by lugi

Checking on behalf of one of my friend who is thinking of marrying his VB sweetheart of 1 year. He is a divorcee.

However, he intends not to tell his VB that he is a divorcee as his VB parents do not like divorcees.

In Sillypore, when the couple goes to ROM, during the Statutory Declaration, the ROM officer will ask the VB whether she knows her future husband is a divorcee.

So he intends to go Vietnam to register for his marriage. I understand that one of the documents needed is to prove that he is single. If he is to extract the records from the Family Court in Sillypore, it will show that he has been married before and divorced.

Are there any other documents which can prove that he is single now but not his past marital status?

Thanks.

The answer is no bro lugi , better come clean with his sweetheart .. I break the news to my second wife when we are about to get married .. Storm and thunder arrive but end up still married .

It doesn't really matter just ask your brother cook up some story can liao

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by V|ernar

The answer is no bro lugi , better come clean with his sweetheart .. I break the news to my second wife when we are about to get married .. Storm and thunder arrive but end up still married .

It doesn't really matter just ask your brother cook up some story can liao

Exactly, just cook up a story lah... Very easy one... Let me show u...

Darling, there is something I need to tell u, actually it's nothing to me, but I never want to hide anything from u, so even very small rubbish things I oso think it's good to tell u. U see, long ago, I even forgot when... U know my family la, good background type. So my mother want me to marry the daughter of my father's boss in hope that could improve out situation even more. When I met her, I nearly jump out of my skin, that daughter looks like a pig and smells like a cow, compare with u is exactly heaven and hell! So obviously I disagree. But u know la, my parents very traditional one, my mother so sad, got really sick, so finally after a lot of persuasion from her, for mother's health sake, I very very very reluctantly agreed, and that was the biggest mistake in my whole life! But my mother was truly so happy, she even said this is a marriage made in heaven! Only later did she realized that she is really correct, but the only difference is that it is a different part of heaven where everyday got lots of lightning and thunder. So finally just after 3 months, before we kill each other, both sides parents meet and decide the best thing is to divorce, which was exactly what I had told them all along! I am so glad I did not kill myself during those dark days, otherwise I would not have met u and know that life can really be so wonderful. In my family, we tried to forget that period of dark days, even now I tell u, I also suddenly feel haunted by the past, really scary... Took me quite some time before I stop having nightmares about it! So now that I told u, I hope u dun ask too many questions, otherwise I am reminded of it again and bad nightmares may come back and haunt me. To me, that marriage was really like a big patch of shit left untouched for quite sometime now, so please dun go and stir it otherwise the bad smell will start circulating all around us!!!

[vietboy]

Originally Posted by deptrai4u

Exactly, just cook up a story lah... Very easy one... Let me show u...

Darling, there is something I need to tell u, actually it's nothing to me, but I never want to hide anything from u, so even very small rubbish things I oso think it's good to tell u. U see, long ago, I even forgot when... U know my family la, good background type. So my mother want me to marry the daughter of my father's boss in hope that could improve out situation even more. When I met her, I nearly jump out of my skin, that daughter looks like a pig and smells like a cow, compare with u is exactly heaven and hell! So obviously I disagree. But u know la, my parents very traditional one, my mother so sad, got really sick, so finally after a lot of persuasion from her, for mother's health sake, I very very very reluctantly agreed, and that was the biggest mistake in my whole life! But my mother was truly so happy, she even said this is a marriage made in heaven! Only later did she realized that she is really correct, but the only difference is that it is a different part of heaven where everyday got lots of lightning and thunder. So finally just after 3 months, before we kill each other, both sides parents meet and decide the best thing is to divorce, which was exactly what I had told them all along! I am so glad I did not kill myself during those dark days, otherwise I would not have met u and know that life can really be so wonderful. In my family, we tried to forget that period of dark days, even now I tell u, I also suddenly feel haunted by the past, really scary... Took me quite some time before I stop having nightmares about it! So now that I told u, I hope u dun ask too many questions, otherwise I am reminded of it again and bad nightmares may come back and haunt me. To me, that marriage was really like a big patch of shit left untouched for quite sometime now, so please dun go and stir it otherwise the bad smell will start circulating all around us!!!

Wa, sibeh good story esp the last part.

[deptrai4u]

Originally Posted by vietboy

Wa, sibeh good story esp the last part.

I am the official story teller ma!

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

This is how these VB are tied down by kinship.

That's the difference between us and them ....

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by lugi

Checking on behalf of one of my friend who is thinking of marrying his VB sweetheart of 1 year. He is a divorcee.

However, he intends not to tell his VB that he is a divorcee as his VB parents do not like divorcees.

In Sillypore, when the couple goes to ROM, during the Statutory Declaration, the ROM officer will ask the VB whether she knows her future husband is a divorcee.

So he intends to go Vietnam to register for his marriage. I understand that one of the documents needed is to prove that he is single. If he is to extract the records from the Family Court in Sillypore, it will show that he has been married before and divorced.

Are there any other documents which can prove that he is single now but not his past marital status?

Thanks.

I ever mentioned this ...

SINGLE vs DIVORCEE ....

Can these term be the same?

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by lugi

Checking on behalf of one of my friend who is thinking of marrying his VB sweetheart of 1 year. He is a divorcee.

However, he intends not to tell his VB that he is a divorcee as his VB parents do not like divorcees.

In Sillypore, when the couple goes to ROM, during the Statutory Declaration, the ROM officer will ask the VB whether she knows her future husband is a divorcee.

So he intends to go Vietnam to register for his marriage. I understand that one of the documents needed is to prove that he is single. If he is to extract the records from the Family Court in Sillypore, it will show that he has been married before and divorced.

Are there any other documents which can prove that he is single now but not his past marital status?

Thanks.

In VN, they marry and divorce like no one's business. Why should the VB mother mind?