Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[analog]

Originally Posted by arsenal_84

is the same situation happening with foreign wifes ?
damn i'm getting worried reading this thread

Bro Arsenal:

I have some bad news for you.....
all women are the same.

You thing some Vietnamese girl from the kampung is any different from a woman in Singapore?

You're dreaming my friend.

Its part reconnaissance and part luck. I did my reconnaissance, just crashed out on the luck. Some bros are lucky but I would wager than getting a wife from a difference cultural background makes things a wee bit more difficult due to communication issues.

best of luck to you.

Cheers,
jim

[HayHot]

Originally Posted by Darina

Well, both of us are in the same boat
My husband is too tired from work and doesn't want sex either.
I held it out for over a year and this year fidelity went out of the window.

I'm not proud about it and I have no intentions of leaving him but if I don't scratch that itch, I would actually leave him. And I"ll just be frustrated all day. I mean I have my work and my work is stressful like his but it doesn't kill my libido.

I'm not saying that you should do what I did and I believe you will have your own way of handling the situation.

Well, so long as you can seperate sex from love.

[arsenal_84]

Originally Posted by analog

Bro Arsenal:

I have some bad news for you.....
all women are the same.

You thing some Vietnamese girl from the kampung is any different from a woman in Singapore?

You're dreaming my friend.

Its part reconnaissance and part luck. I did my reconnaissance, just crashed out on the luck. Some bros are lucky but I would wager than getting a wife from a difference cultural background makes things a wee bit more difficult due to communication issues.

best of luck to you.

Cheers,
jim

guess i'm happier staying single then besides, i have no interest in viet ladies.

[macrick]

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

Seeing guys complain about this problem with their wives just make me real sian. That's because I'm the high and dry wife with a high sex drive. We fucked like bunnies before marriage and now 2 years in, my husband says he has no sex drive at all. Help!

He always says how mentally tired he is from his business that he has no mood for anything else. He finds sex too draining on the energy. I know myself and actually told him when we were dating that if a marriage has no more sex, that is kinda the end for me. Sex is not the ONLY ingredient in a marriage but it's sure as hell a very important. He laughed then because he felt there was no way he will not want sex. However, after marriage, he has literally settled down so much he just wants to use the time and energy for other things. Agrrr

I have tried talking, initiating and always end up feeling rejected. When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life. I asked him if he was not afraid I will stray. He gets angry and say there are other things in a marriage more improtant than sex.

Frankly, I get very fustrated and have thought of having FB or even divorce. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What am I doing wrong here? Can too much of a good thing make a man take for granted? I did not let myself go, I have a habit of sleeping in lingerie every night. Everytime someone hits on me I get angst and wonder why I got such a bad roll in the marriage dice. Why the fuck doesn't my husband want me.

Well, this long rant only proves that this issue rans both ways. Regardless of gender. May you guys find a solution soon and may I have the strength to remain faithful.

Hi there,

I'm single now. When I was in a relationship. I was always the one doing all the work. Its very tiring when only one party doing all the work.

So I can sort of relate to yr plight. let's hope yr husband can find his mojo soon. Ciao, hope to speak soon

[wangal]

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

Seeing guys complain about this problem with their wives just make me real sian. That's because I'm the high and dry wife with a high sex drive. We fucked like bunnies before marriage and now 2 years in, my husband says he has no sex drive at all. Help!

He always says how mentally tired he is from his business that he has no mood for anything else. He finds sex too draining on the energy. I know myself and actually told him when we were dating that if a marriage has no more sex, that is kinda the end for me. Sex is not the ONLY ingredient in a marriage but it's sure as hell a very important. He laughed then because he felt there was no way he will not want sex. However, after marriage, he has literally settled down so much he just wants to use the time and energy for other things. Agrrr

I have tried talking, initiating and always end up feeling rejected. When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life. I asked him if he was not afraid I will stray. He gets angry and say there are other things in a marriage more improtant than sex.

Frankly, I get very fustrated and have thought of having FB or even divorce. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What am I doing wrong here? Can too much of a good thing make a man take for granted? I did not let myself go, I have a habit of sleeping in lingerie every night. Everytime someone hits on me I get angst and wonder why I got such a bad roll in the marriage dice. Why the fuck doesn't my husband want me.

Well, this long rant only proves that this issue rans both ways. Regardless of gender. May you guys find a solution soon and may I have the strength to remain faithful.

You just represented how i felt... Haha. The only difference is tat i am e husband... Sigh.. Quite sick of marriage life without sex... When i turn to Porn, she gets angry!?! WTF??

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by wangal

You just represented how i felt... Haha. The only difference is tat i am e husband... Sigh.. Quite sick of marriage life without sex... When i turn to Porn, she gets angry!?! WTF??

Its sad, but tat is the normal reaction frm most of them...they dun giv u but yet dun wan u to find yr own other source of enjoyment...imho tink tats cruel..

[Sen5eS]

keke ... SparkleDoll + Wangal ... maybe you 2 should swap partners in the bedroom.

My empathies for all who's between a rock & a hard place. Stick with it, Communicate or constantly try to find a solution - be it FwB/FB/FL/WL/Divorce/ripping someone's head off. Thing is actions will have to be taken in order for things to change its course ... else you can continue to "suffer" in silence.

Of course the resulting consequences will have to be considered / prepared for ... so brace yourselves ...

There's AA for the alcoholics ... Anyone wana setup a R&R - rant and rave session with some wine/cheese?

Rickey: yeah it's cruel ... but then in good times and bad, in sickness and health ... blah blah blah ... sometimes how much is enough ?

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by Sen5eS

Rickey: yeah it's cruel ... but then in good times and bad, in sickness and health ... blah blah blah ... sometimes how much is enough ?

Bro Sen5eS...yeh, tats true & u r rite...but wat i mean is tat if one cannot giv or provide wat is requested for, one shld not by human conscience deny the other party frm turning to some1 or something else tat cld fulfill his/her needs wif safety in consideration....in true love...and its just not abt sex...a person, shd help rather than obstruct his/her partner frm realising their needs, esp so if he/she cannot for any reason good or bad provide wat the partner asks for...rather than to see him/her 'starve' to death watever tat is...tats wat i mean by cruel...hope tis clarifies...just my 2 cents worth...cheers !

[Sen5eS]

Rickey : I understand man ... tot it's about helping each other with needs/wants in a r/s ... not sure it's so easy to be "magnanimous" and tell ya spouse/partner to go get off with someone else becoz you can't provide ... food/$$$ is easy to "subcontract" ... but emotions/intimacy/sex might be harder to do so.

Would you be ok if your partner asks you for that "freedom" if you can't provide ?

keke I'm not sure where is the line ... but I guess doing something is better than nothing.

[SaintArc]

haizz e story is either
e wife too dry !! and husband too much to let go in e bank !!
or
wife is too wet but husband nothing to offer,,,

prefect couple is hard to find !!!

[gambit76]

After seeing so many similar predicaments of the bros and sis here, I'm glad I am not the only one going through all these.

I have been married for 8 years with a young daughter. Sex before marriage and kid has been fun and and kinky. But once my missus got preggers, all sex drives has been driven out of the window. I will consider it lucky if I can get intimate with my wife once month. Yes...it is that bad now.

I have tried building up the mood with her throughout the day like when we were dating. But she will give that loom of "again?!" which kind of turn me off. I can understand that she is tired and such but whenever I try to initiate things, she is always tired. I can understand that she is tired from work and looking after the kid but everytime?

It has affected my libido as well. I can get it up when I turn to the comfort of my hands but due to the too infrequent sex, I actually have difficulty of getting hard despite the horniness running through every single part of my body.

I don't mind not having sex all the time but even when we are finally alone at home when my kid is at her grandma's, she didn't even want to cuddle up. She will give excuses of she is not used to me hugging her to sleep or it's too warm to hug etc etc...

Well I guess this is part of being married. I have never thought of FB because it will too time consuming for me. So I guess it is just me and my trusted hands to help me.

[SG_FUN]

Have the same problem but i am the husband....sigh...now i have to turn to my hand....not sure why my wife not interested. I am thinking i am wasting my life too.

Originally Posted by SparkleDoll

Seeing guys complain about this problem with their wives just make me real sian. That's because I'm the high and dry wife with a high sex drive. We fucked like bunnies before marriage and now 2 years in, my husband says he has no sex drive at all. Help!

He always says how mentally tired he is from his business that he has no mood for anything else. He finds sex too draining on the energy. I know myself and actually told him when we were dating that if a marriage has no more sex, that is kinda the end for me. Sex is not the ONLY ingredient in a marriage but it's sure as hell a very important. He laughed then because he felt there was no way he will not want sex. However, after marriage, he has literally settled down so much he just wants to use the time and energy for other things. Agrrr

I have tried talking, initiating and always end up feeling rejected. When ppl ard us joke about how lucky he is to have such a hot wife, I wanna rip off someone's head! What's the use of being hot when I am probably gonna have to live like a nun for the rest of my life. I asked him if he was not afraid I will stray. He gets angry and say there are other things in a marriage more improtant than sex.

Frankly, I get very fustrated and have thought of having FB or even divorce. I don't want to live the rest of my life like this. What am I doing wrong here? Can too much of a good thing make a man take for granted? I did not let myself go, I have a habit of sleeping in lingerie every night. Everytime someone hits on me I get angst and wonder why I got such a bad roll in the marriage dice. Why the fuck doesn't my husband want me.

Well, this long rant only proves that this issue rans both ways. Regardless of gender. May you guys find a solution soon and may I have the strength to remain faithful.

[asdfghjkl]

every man and women need sex, at least maslow theory. you should have a talk with your spouse. being tired is a just an excuse.

[PeteTsang69]

"Sex is like air: it's no big deal unless you're not getting any." -Unknown

...how so true...am in the same boat ...

[hoong2003]

Well, bearing the responsible, but out sources, brother !! At least, your emotionally healthy, but FUCK safe !