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[adrianus]

Thanks for all the kind advice.

I thought so...

In my life before marriage, I also tried the same thing and yes most of the time it will turn messy. Sigh, dunno if its cause I have bad ONS/FB management skills or the kind of girls I go for.

You see at the end of the day, shouldn't have anyhow hook people...

I used to think that its really an ego booster if you can get any girl to want you and to have many women (you know the duke of mount deer thingy), but now it seems that its really a nasty game of messing up a nice girl's mind and possibly life... and your own as well...

This is probably why I always have some respect for the steeled hearted hard core bros who can play the pick up game well...

[onlyou]

wah, this is really scary. even if you can handle your own emotions, you will never control another person's - what more a woman's! the warnings came out even before started, dont get burn with this one when there are more out there! if things are too good to be true, it's prob not a good thing! my take is walk away far far away, she might cook your rabbit like in Fatal Attraction. dont loss everything in the end. be safe, bro.

as to the bros here who play the game well, i guess no girl told them "i will be better than your OC".

dangerous game bro. not even any government or agencies can "bail" you outta the mess if it happens.

[adrianus]

Okay... didnt realise that this statement is so frightening... maybe I didnt watch fatal attraction before (will go watch soon).

You know this is not the only girl who said I can be better than your OC before, but the rest not as young and pretty and I decided not worth the risk...

I guess I must run away this time too...

[CKee]

Originally Posted by adrianus

You see at the end of the day, shouldn't have anyhow hook people... I used to think that its really an ego booster if you can get any girl to want you and to have many women, but now it seems that its really a nasty game of messing up a nice girl's mind and possibly life... and your own as well...This is probably why I always have some respect for the steeled hearted hard core bros who can play the pick up game well...

Speaking strictly for myself, I don't really enjoy the commercial sex scene as the image of a sex worker filling her love hole with ointment turns me off. I prefer and adore the wooing landscape and the "chase"...love notes, dinner and drinks, conversation, gifts, blah blah..you get the drill. It's definitely an ego booster and bedding women in this manner is the ultimate thrill.

Remember a time when after evening coffee, my FB nearly gave me a hug and goodbye kiss before we parted. Heng ahh...becos my gf was like 10 feet away in the same area for a meeting. Eventually, your OC will feel her spider senses tingling and you will be on your guard looking at text msgs, incoming calls and making sure that either your mobile is with you all the time, on silent mode or switched off. When you and FB go out, it will be to a remote part of the country. Another FB of mine (married) demanded more and more of my time and even confessed that her hubby noticed her insensitvity whenever they had sex. Then it was time to pull the plug and move on.

But I am an addict and now hooked up with another married woman...Yes, it will mess up the woman's head more than the man's. To reiterate, walk away...

[adrianus]

Guess it is time to walk away...

In fact I have been trying to do it subtly by being very boring, uninterested and monotonous when talking to her... Can see her sad face when we do web cam... and it makes me sad...

I think maybe I will need to do the straight disappearing act...

[kogi]

Originally Posted by adrianus

Guess it is time to walk away...

In fact I have been trying to do it subtly by being very boring, uninterested and monotonous when talking to her... Can see her sad face when we do web cam... and it makes me sad...

I think maybe I will need to do the straight disappearing act...

What? you give up too easily. I was hoping this will turn into a 200 post thread where everyone is telling you to do the right thing while you die die want to keep her as a fb.
Good decision to walk away bro. Best is to FnF, go to GL and release tension if you need to. Straight disappearing act, change your MSN or whatever id. Hope you did not give her too much personal details until she stalks you or your wife at home or at work.

[volvo]

hi bro adrianus, just an advice too. I've been in 1 and was burnt pretty badly, well not me, but the lady was burnt and she was married. i reckon guys are emotionally stronger and able to walk away from certain things easier. Bottom line is, there is no future in it, just enjoy it now, and once you are done, time to walk off before it turns ugly. my 2 cents worth.

[adrianus]

I am gonna try walk away... sometimes its hard...

I am thinking that if I do not walk away, I might as well try for a ONS... The danger of it seems to be that once we do it, she'll have all the reasons to stick...

[bigstick]

Originally Posted by adrianus

I am gonna try walk away... sometimes its hard...

I am thinking that if I do not walk away, I might as well try for a ONS... The danger of it seems to be that once we do it, she'll have all the reasons to stick...

Bro, no way....., you have to quickly get out of this arena before it's too late. Why try chewing gum...., it's sticky and ban in Singapore. Go and try chocolate with cashew nuts ya.. taste better.

[Fusion]

Hi TS,

You say you have a use a prepaid card (hopefully it once that is untraceable).
You went online with one objective.
Fullfilled it else don't do it in the first place... Waste your time.
Like one bros said - do not bring your wallet, don't drive your car - take a taxi.
Meet her, see how it goes, fucked her brain out and disappear.
What can she do to you? If she do not know anything about you...
Remember "to pay" her for her service ... Not directly... Get her something expensive
And nice ... Use cash...

You missed the chance to bonked her, it will haunt you forever and this may not come back again.
Take alll necessary precaution... Use protection. Flush the use condom in the toilet and see
It disappear.
Don't book a room using your name.... Use her name...
ENJOY BONKING HER.... YOU MAY NOT HAVE THE CHANCE AGAIN...

[adrianus]

Ah bro fusion... one of my favourite bros here...

I like your advice... Ok.. another thing is, I know too many people... Its scary how I run into familiar faces everywhere I go (even batam), so if I have to plan this, its gotta be well executed... Maybe a trip to johor will do...

I also suspect that the ONS is a setup to blackmail me at the end of the day, but I will see if I can set one up on my terms (she book hotel, no wallet, no credit cards, etc...) Sounds almost like a planned robbery... sigh..

[Fusion]

Hi TS,

No personal handphone. Forward your mobile to your prepaid number.
Use another mobile phone that has no address, no photo, nothing.
Make sure top up your prepaid to maximum.
Everytime received call, call someone, delete history for that outing.
Don't go johore / battam - you will need to bring passport, very high
Chances of letting her know your identity.

Grow a moustace, dye your hair......... After the outing, you can change everything
Back to your normal self. You can visit the saloon to dye your hair before outing.
Then buy a black color dye (DIY) and leave in your car, after outing...
Book another room.... Dye your hair back to black...

Leave your mobile / wallet in your car or office/home. If you leave in your car
Park in a safe place. Bring a lot of cash. Bring CD
If you don't smoke, buy a pack...

Be careful of her "mobile phone", alway on alert that she did not take your photo.
Plan a night out... Tell your OC, you going oversea, etc...
Bonked her and when she sleep (or take shower), check her mobile for "photo"
Delete them if any.

Don't ever use Webcam......on internet....
If you did, she probably have your photo...

I think you think too much but precausion is alway better.

GO BROS GO

You need to try this... You will alway have wet dream thinking of it.
The memory will stayed with you forever.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by adrianus

After spending much time chatting with her, I realised that she is one of those kind of girls who are looking for her true love in her life and definately not suitable for a one off fling...

However strangely, my actions caused her to want me even more. She started to tell me that she want to have a ONS with me, etc. This is even after I told her that I actually have an OC. She tells me that she believes that she will be better for me than my OC.

Assuming you didn't make a judgemental error (on how she really feels about ONSes), then I think she's seen through your plot ... perhaps even pissed off becoz you became another person the moment it was clear she didn't fancy ONSes ... she could even be counter-plotting against you, in the sense of teasing you enough into a sexual meet-up but getting your wife to come see you perform as well.
On the other hand, you could have read her wrong right from the start ... which means she really wanna sleep with you. But something still bother me ... her inclination to compare with your wife, even stating her confidence in out-performing her.

Hence, in my humble opinion ... she still spells "FATAL ATTRACTION", even if you now think you had made a judgemental error on her.

[KingEros]

Originally Posted by Fusion

You went online with one objective.
Fullfilled it else don't do it in the first place... waste your time.

Dun agree with you here ...

Let's assume we are bank robbers here.
If after monitoring a particular bank for weeks & actually, we found that the bank employ an alarm system which you are not too sure of overcoming ... are you still gonna say to us all: "since we already spent weeks over here, let's not waste time & just fulfill our original objectives??"

[adrianus]

I just realised that there is a weak link... maybe I should retreat...

I got to know her through a distant friend (out of the picture now) who knows my chinese name. damn...