Married men come in

[Darrengoh8]

Yeah work at it before it gets too late.

Now for me there’s no way back. Even if I work at it it just increases transmission risk.

[skihon]

Jiayou, mine also too late

[Anderson]

Originally Posted by Darrengoh8

Mine is hsv 2. There is no 2 ways about it

Then you are pretty much done for.
Although hsv2 can be transmitted non sexually/intimately, its still a long shot trying to convince otherwise.

Maybe bros here can help you think of reasonable scenarios.

[AhMin]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

how long has it been? try different things, cosplay, take a trip, romantic things, work at it. yours seems like can still save.

but if its been stalemate for a decade like mine, which I don't think in your case, then go and do what it takes to get to the next day.

to a better 2024

Agree .. Jiayou TS ...

[Naka_Timo]

Originally Posted by Anderson

Then you are pretty much done for.
Although hsv2 can be transmitted non sexually/intimately, its still a long shot trying to convince otherwise.

Maybe bros here can help you think of reasonable scenarios.

Upped you back, thanks.

[babyjohnwong]

Originally Posted by Darrengoh8

She tested for herpes prior to having our kids- not sure why gynae wanted it tested. And most recent was 3 years ago.

We don’t want more kids

So she is definitely in the clear and for me I need to explain how I may have caught it previously but for some reason did not spread to her over the last 15 years

You should definitely read up more on herpes
I had it for like 7 years already, no outbreaks yet

In short, outbreak and have sex, chances of getting is around 20%
https://stdcenterny.com/articles/pro...om-herpes.html

No outbreak, chances of spreading is around 3% of the time, otherwise known as asymptomatic shedding
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/herpes-hsv1-and-hsv2/genital-herpes#:~:text=Yes.,with%20HSV%20II%20genital%20in fections.

Some people shed more, some people shed lesser, so on the average shedding time will be around 1 to 3 days
That's around 3% chance of getting it from someone with no outbreak
Getting infected from someone who is having asymptomatic shedding is lower than someone having an outbreak
Even with outbreak, the chances of getting is only around 20%
So chances of getting it from someone isn't really that high
Maybe unless, you are like a sex crazed animal and keep bonking your wife every single night or even multiple times a day

Most of the time, the virus just stays dormant in the body
And outbreaks tend to get lesser and lesser as time passes

How to convince her?
Use medical facts done from research, which is why I said read up more
If you are not virgin and you had sex with other girls before marrying your wife and she knows about it
Even easier, cause you could have had it for many many years without knowing since you didn't go for STD checkup and did not have an outbreak at all

[Krillin]

Originally Posted by Meisterboy

Weekly, been wanting to have sex with my wife. But whenever i initiated it, she said she’s tired. Feeling quite sian about this. Don’t want to go for FL as the experience is just transactional feeling. Not sure what the bros here will do if yall are in my shoes…

Always? Like around how old are you and her?
Maybe it's a heart issue.

[Darrengoh8]

Originally Posted by babyjohnwong

You should definitely read up more on herpes
I had it for like 7 years already, no outbreaks yet

In short, outbreak and have sex, chances of getting is around 20%
https://stdcenterny.com/articles/pro...om-herpes.html

No outbreak, chances of spreading is around 3% of the time, otherwise known as asymptomatic shedding
https://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/conditions-and-diseases/herpes-hsv1-and-hsv2/genital-herpes#:~:text=Yes.,with%20HSV%20II%20genital%20in fections.

Some people shed more, some people shed lesser, so on the average shedding time will be around 1 to 3 days
That's around 3% chance of getting it from someone with no outbreak
Getting infected from someone who is having asymptomatic shedding is lower than someone having an outbreak
Even with outbreak, the chances of getting is only around 20%
So chances of getting it from someone isn't really that high
Maybe unless, you are like a sex crazed animal and keep bonking your wife every single night or even multiple times a day

Most of the time, the virus just stays dormant in the body
And outbreaks tend to get lesser and lesser as time passes

How to convince her?
Use medical facts done from research, which is why I said read up more
If you are not virgin and you had sex with other girls before marrying your wife and she knows about it
Even easier, cause you could have had it for many many years without knowing since you didn't go for STD checkup and did not have an outbreak at all

Yeah I read about it. But still the Chances of not passing it for 15 years is really remote esp since we don’t use condoms…

Oh well. I can only hope that if it does get transmitted it’s asymptomatic or so small symptoms that she won’t notice.

[helplesslyham]

Originally Posted by klosh964

Is anyone else like me where my wife will initiate sex but you just no mood at all?

I feel like after eating out and experiencing others, I get a better sense of comparison as to what feels good in bed for me.

Often times even when I'm doing the deed with my wife, I'll close my eyes and recall my most recent FL/ML experience to feel more stimulated.

Sometimes I wonder if I never should have eaten out, but at the same time I wouldn't have had all the experiences if I didn't.

wow you got a good wife who will initiate.

[helplesslyham]

Originally Posted by klosh964

Is anyone else like me where my wife will initiate sex but you just no mood at all?

I feel like after eating out and experiencing others, I get a better sense of comparison as to what feels good in bed for me.

Often times even when I'm doing the deed with my wife, I'll close my eyes and recall my most recent FL/ML experience to feel more stimulated.

Sometimes I wonder if I never should have eaten out, but at the same time I wouldn't have had all the experiences if I didn't.

wow you got a good wife who will initiate.

[helplesslyham]

Originally Posted by Doponie

Most often, sex occurs 3-4 times a week. It happens even less often. I am always ready, but my wife only needs it at certain specific moments. She also wants always in different ways, which in our situation is not always possible. In general, I am satisfied with my marital sex life.

envy you bro

[helplesslyham]

Originally Posted by iceman1314

Been married for 5 years, my wife made a promise to blow me whenever I want and she has kept her end of the promise. Sex wise, only over the weekend during the term, maybe 3-4 times and double that during the holidays. Still can’t keep my hands off her.

envy... mine no bj won't initiate sex nth... how to don't eat outside?

[Shadow_warrior]

https://www.asiaone.com/china/man-ch...ship-important

Man in China discovers 3 kids fathered by others, wife asks 'is blood relationship that important?'

After 16 years of marriage, a man in China filed for divorce from his wife as he discovered that not just one, but three of the daughters they raised together were fathered by other men.

The woman later gave birth to another girl, with another man named in hospital documents. 'China's most pitiful man'
Chen has been deemed "China's most pitiful man" by Chinese netizens due to his wife's serial adultery, reported South China Morning Post.

New evidence presented in court last December as part of Chen and Yu's divorce proceedings showed that Yu had given birth to a fourth child in November 2022, Chinese news outlets reported.

The wife called him an animal- blamed him
"The kids have been calling him 'dad' for many years. It is the act of an animal to take them for a paternity test," Yu said.

"I don't think I've betrayed him. Are blood ties that important? Infertile couples believe it is fine to adopt and raise children who don't have any genetic connection with them," Yu was quoted as saying.

[RiverStyx]

The skewed values are self serving.
Don't see how there can be any defence against such serial adultery, certainly can't use withholding of affection as reason.

[RiverStyx]

Originally Posted by Darrengoh8

Condoms can help but there is no reason for me to wear coz she started pills because she wants raw to have feel

I read that side effects of taking pills are that it decreases the sex drive in women, any idea if it affects your wife ?