Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[jackbl]

Ohhhhh... so coincidence.... we can go back together Mine from 新市縣 (Cho’. Mo’/i) too

Originally Posted by casannova03

really ah?? but like i said an giang beri big!!

haha...my ba xa from 'cho moi' how about yours??

wa you know her how long liao haven go back b4.....erhhh....bring one can of insect repllant if you are going la...you will thank me profusely!!! hahahah

[Darkstorm]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Only 2 things to them by bringing you back:

1) To show their friends and relatives that she got a SINGAPOREAN boyfriend... Viets are well known for face-value... if got chance, they will show off to their friends and at the same time for the parents to determine if you are richand generous.

2) Chinese New year coming...need $ to buy this and that...Where do the $ come from? It is YOU... THE MONEY GOD going to visit them.

If you want to visit them, dont go during their chinese new year. Better be safe

Thanks for your advice. Does it mean she has no feelings for me or that her feelings for me are untrue, since she invite me in that way?

[technofreak]

Originally Posted by casannova03

really ah?? but like i said an giang beri big!!

haha...my ba xa from 'cho moi' how about yours?? bring one can of insect repllant if you are going la...you will thank me profusely!!! hahahah

Mine from Long Son. Haha I know there many "Commando" mozzies...Gotta be tactical...

Originally Posted by Darkstorm

Thanks for your advice. Does it mean she has no feelings for me or that her feelings for me are untrue, since she invite me in that way?

It doesn't mean that she's untrue...Just that most probably wanna take advantage of u as well...To alleviate her "poverty" issue...

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by Darkstorm

Thanks for your advice. Does it mean she has no feelings for me or that her feelings for me are untrue, since she invite me in that way?

Put it in this way... Yes and No. Only you know the answer cause the way she treats u, the way she helps to spend/save $ for you and the way she takes care of you.. by now you should know.

If you have only know her for just a couple of weeks, then in my IMHO, wait until you are sure of her feelings for you, then you go to her hometown. I guess you could have known her in the KTV or WLs? For Viet girls who work in such environment, many are looking for RICH CARROT HEADS... just be careful.

Anyway, why do u need to go and visit her parents during their TET/chinese new year? Cant you go on another day? Why dont u check with her?

Why dont you test her? Just tell her that you are going to get retrench soon.. u might not have enough $ to buy many things for her when u go back with her... see her reactions then... U should be able to take it from her reactions...

Dont let yor decisions be clouded by FEELINGS or KC... ok? take care.

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Put it in this way... Yes and No. Only you know the answer cause the way she treats u, the way she helps to spend/save $ for you and the way she takes care of you.. by now you should know.

If you have only know her for just a couple of weeks, then in my IMHO, wait until you are sure of her feelings for you, then you go to her hometown. I guess you could have known her in the KTV or WLs? For Viet girls who work in such environment, many are looking for RICH CARROT HEADS... just be careful.

Anyway, why do u need to go and visit her parents during their TET/chinese new year? Cant you go on another day? Why dont u check with her?

Why dont you test her? Just tell her that you are going to get retrench soon.. u might not have enough $ to buy many things for her when u go back with her... see her reactions then... U should be able to take it from her reactions...

Dont let yor decisions be clouded by FEELINGS or KC... ok? take care.

Good advice....very experienced....

[joejoe888]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

Bro, after reading up yor thoughts on the ROM thing. The reason as to why you are asking us whether you should ROM seems to suggest that you are having doubts on her love for you and as well as your trust for her...

Secondly, I got the feeling that $ issue is going to be a problem to you cause you will not be asking us for our view on yor ROM if you love her and if you have the $ to support her for their family debts as well as her expenses.

Thirdly, looking at what you have describled. Seems that their family is treating u like a big carrot head. Ask yourself why should you be paying for their debts when you are not even married to their daughter? Also How can you be sure that they REALLY OWNED so much DEBTS? Is this a scam?

Lastly, just put the $ issue aside. Ask yourself. How well did she treat you when you are at her village? Did she bugs u to pay for everything? Did she try to stay close to you whenever there are chances?

If you are able to ask yourself these few qns, I guess you will know the answer by now. But IMHO, if I got such gf, I will be the first one running away. Thank God. I really need to be the MONEY GOD to fulfill her debts issue.

I agree what FL lover say it really true your welcome drink already need so much DEBTS when u ROM she will tell u a lot of sad story about their family n it all need money bro better think TWIN !!!!!!

[joejoe888]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Interesting.



To them, it may be nothing. To us, it means that we are 财神爷 in their eyes.

Maybe we also bring luck to them because we are the money daddy.

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by joejoe888

Maybe we also bring luck to them because we are the money daddy.

Today you are so free? Tonight got report for work with them or not?

[joejoe888]

Originally Posted by Thom07

Today you are so free? Tonight got report for work with them or not?

Off day i will meet up mike u want to join/

[v.killers]

Originally Posted by joejoe888

Off day i will meet up mike u want to join/

nnkc...never jio me hor

[Thom07]

Originally Posted by joejoe888

Off day i will meet up mike u want to join/

Just sms me loh.

Originally Posted by v.killers

nnkc...never jio me hor

Everyday you also need to work mah.

[vlover]

Originally Posted by Darkstorm

Thanks for your advice. Does it mean she has no feelings for me or that her feelings for me are untrue, since she invite me in that way?

Like what FL Lover said, most of the viet girls will invite you to look for them in HCMC or their hometown.. But your case more susceptible to being a carrot because during this festive season, they will need more money to buy things (showing off mayb)..

I got one experience to relate.. just broke up with my ex in singapore, felt the need for a holiday.. so went over HCMC (my virgin trip).. as I was alone and it was a last min thing, I had no friends or knew anyone from the forum.. So I contacted a viet girl who was working in Singapore at that time and looked for her.. For the next 5 days, she was like super glue.. glued to me where ever I go.. I even had to resort to the 'quarrel' method to sneak out for a hairwash session.. after that trip, the next time round when she came to Singapore, she treated me like her bf.. from my limited tieng viet, she has concluded that I am the one for her just because I went to HCMC to find her The good things from tat trip were she didnt spend alot of money during the time with me and I got a tour guide.. needless to say, I missed out on a lot of other fun things ..

Regards,
vlover

[SingViet]

It takes time to learn about the viet culture. Even after many years, i am still learning today. Every viet gal is different, but there are certain social norms among them that's the same

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by SingViet

It takes time to learn about the viet culture. Even after many years, i am still learning today. Every viet gal is different, but there are certain social norms among them that's the same

Agreed with Bro SingViet... Different Viet girls have different thoughts and expectations with their boyfriends esp FOREIGN BOYFRIENDS.....

Bros who had Viet girlfriends should know that Viet pple had a different culture than us... To them, their expectations are "their daughters and their son-in laws MUST support the entire family while their sons will waste their life away". That is their culture

It is a long process to change that concept. Pros and cons.. Viet girls are well known for taking good care of their husband but when it comes to priority, it is always her family first before husband...

[vlover]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

It is a long process to change that concept. Pros and cons.. Viet girls are well known for taking good care of their husband but when it comes to priority, it is always her family first before husband...

Agreed.. Maybe one of the solution is to have a baby.. then the sentence will change to become 'Viet girls are well known for taking care of their husband and baby but when it comes to priority, it will be her baby 1st before her family before husband.. further down the pecking line..

Regards,
vlover