Wives and Lovers...Steps to Happiness or Unhappiness?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by pewpew

How about those that got married, then divorced? Which cat they belongs to?

What do you think?

[xyz1001]

Originally Posted by colins

I think the pre-requisites for bros to qualify to answer those questions should be:

1. Married for a few years
2. Experiencing mid life crisis or something of that magnitude
3. Met someone attractive and attracted to her before
4. Probably having a lover, FB or girlfriend
5. Do not count cheonging ktv or sleeping with FL as extra-marital affairs
6. Strong self opinion without ten-year series answers

Ok I dun qualify.

Criteria 4 should be amended coz lovers, girlfriends have expiry dates

Originally Posted by slider_72

Oh shucks!!! I don't meet your criteria for point no. 4. So I guess I also don't qualify.

I also failed criteria 4. haha.

[colins]

Bros....mai ahni kuan leh, I said 'probably' for criteria 4 liaos.

And plsssssss, if you guys haven't got before, then something is wrong with my ears. 麦给校 ok.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by colins

Bros....mai ahni kuan leh, I said 'probably' for criteria 4 liaos.

And plsssssss, if you guys haven't got before, then something is wrong with my ears. 麦给校 ok.

Bro, we not 给校 lei.

Your criteria 4 said "having a lover, FB or girlfriend". It is present continuous tense lei, meaning now having one. If it is amended to read as "have had and/or having and/or about to have a lover, FB or girlfriend", then maybe I can qualify liao.

[colins]

Ok since I wrote it, I change it.

'Probably' changed to 'Had/Currently having a lover, FB or girlfriend'.

Now 请发表!

[Panamera]

Bro Colins, pre-requisites criteria for 1,2 and 5 points I cannot meet.

But since school days when young, I knew I would want to have a mistress or rather something inside me knows that I will have many lovers...Not that I feel that 1 wife is not enough but somehow..... (please read my signature) When asked by elders and friends on when I would want to get married, my answer was (still is) "can I have a mistress before a wife?"....my favourite song was "To All The Girls I've Loved Before" by Julio Iglesias and Willie Nelson..That's why I started this thread..hehe..

[colins]

Ok I surrender, lets all post till our heart's content. Fuck the criteria.

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by colins

Ok I surrender, lets all post till our heart's content. Fuck the criteria.

Sorry Bro Colins, Sorry...Your criteria are good pointers..We continue to use them as a benchmark...think it be great to check how many bros here can meet all and which not!

[colins]

Dun be silly bro, all I was trying to do was to cut off kiko and his dream marriage.

[Panamera]

Originally Posted by colins

Dun be silly bro, all I was trying to do was to cut off kiko and his dream marriage.

I suspect he reincarnated into "Chengdu dog" tailing Bro Slider_72 now...

http://sammyboy.online/matters...ask-me-10.html

[casannova03]

Bro DYBJ:

Wuld you say that in order to even think of having A mistress, You would have to be financially sound in the very first place?

My View:

My wife knows i go chionging and have been to KTVs and the naught. I know she cares when she gets jealous and reminded me that she's ready to leave me if she suspects anything more than fooling around. However, she recently drop a hint that if i were ever to have another woman besides her, I should think of getting my financial ability up to the mark first! (cos i am not doing too well recently)

This made me ponder:

So if I were to be able to have the financial ability to take care of my wife and my family and have loads of surpluses, would it then be "more allowable " in the eyes of our CO?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by casannova03

Bro DYBJ:

Wuld you say that in order to even think of having A mistress, You would have to be financially sound in the very first place?

Yes and no.
Read my requirements on mistresses.
The kept type and the financially independent type
If you feel a mistress is something you need to have because of $$$$$, then that, to me is not really a mistress.
Like i also said, you're just paying rent!

[sneixd]

Honesty and Chauvanism is all you need.
Plus hitting her Hot Spot physically and emotionally..
and of cos a bit of confident lies..

Cant say dont lie completely.
Just lie with a truth attached to it.
And mix it with feelings.

I managed to convince 3 of my bunnies not to probe the marriage issue,
and remain as lover, no. 1 and no. 2, etc.

So, I dont qualify Point 1!

P/S: conservatively, i say always tell the truth, then put in 1/10 of lies.. e.g. U are the BEST, dont compare, U cant be compared.. blah blah.. things she like to hear which makes her feel so special to You! QED

[elth]

1) Can a husband manage both a wife and a lover?

I think this is possible, the man must be financial super stable to support both side, but if the lover is financial stable and can support herself the guy will not be so stress about money. (this only valid if both lover and man have real feelings else the lover only want the man' $$$)

2) Are such relationships always doomed to fail?
not necessary, I have known friends maintain it very well for years

3) Is it worth having a secret lover?
That depends, sometime love can become a responsibility. if lover can accept a underground relationship becos she love you, the man will sure will have feeling for her. Some bros might felt it not good to cheat on your wife but I think it really fate that some man really have 2 lovers...1 wife 1 mistress

What do you think?
no matter how many lovers a man have... he should be responsible... got home remember to go home, got bills remember to pay. Best not to hurt anyone of them

The above is I heard views from my seniors frens who is married or have been through these... also just my point of view.

[ronckw]

Originally Posted by colins

I think the pre-requisites for bros to qualify to answer those questions should be:

1. Married for a few years
2. Experiencing mid life crisis or something of that magnitude
3. Met someone attractive and attracted to her before
4. Probably having a lover, FB or girlfriend
5. Do not count cheonging ktv or sleeping with FL as extra-marital affairs
6. Strong self opinion without ten-year series answers

Ok I dun qualify.

Hi brudders....i have been a silent reader of this particular folder for quite some years as i have been had a few "lovers" (one @ a time, wheather be it WL or FB) & this is folder is a source of reminder for me not to go off track in terms of emotions.....

As such, reading so much i would like to give some pointers to this discussion.

To ans the pre-requisites,

1) I am married for 7 years....(7 years itch)?
2) Mid life crisis....shd be some time happening now? i guess...
3) Met many attractive ppl & was attracted both ways....
4) Not counting "transactional" affairs....
5) I do have some opinion but might be what you guys already know at the back of your brain....

Bro Kiko....

to a certain extent i do agree with bro DYBJ......you would need to get married & go through married life before you are able to say how much u love your wife or wat you would do for her.....

Once ur in that commitment...its really really a different story from when 2 ppl were dating....even worse when you have kids.....

Bro DYBJ....

Bro Kiko has a point to love our wives to a certain extent & i gotto give him credit to have a postive attitude towards marriage. Some ppl are just simply afraid of commitment.....

To each his own has their points but the fact that life is not a simple ride...it has ups & downs...so the same goes for marriage....it has more ppl in the ride(wife & kids) so when it goes up....all are happy togeter...but when it goes down.....the load is so much harder...

I know that i may be considered a noob but just an honest point of view of what is felt deep in my heart...

I do love my wife & will still do...but sometimes...its good to taste meat that are outside to eventually find out that maybe ur wife is still better....(might not be the case for all....but at least to me....)

Just some food for thought.....

Life sux...so y complain...look forward....& live it....