Dating older women

[xoxo8777]

if for a start, the few yrs in age differences of your 'potential' bother you.
Then you should not even bother to look further.

Coupled with the additional 'luggages' that come along with this package: a child. You might not be mentally ready to embrace all.

Start firstly to see how much of 'chemistry' or love elements between you
two ( since intimacy is still not reached).
Provided you can accept her age & her 'luggage'.

Good luck.

[H9000C]

i have started dating older ladies than my age when i was 18, all my girlfriends are 2-5 years older than me. i am currently married to my wonderful wife who is 5 years old than me =p

you must have a mindset and maturity that is beyond your age. given that your date has a child of her own, TS will need to have extra patience and also to accept that child into your life. most likely she is looking for someone that is dependable and mature, given that she is warming up to you might have an indication you are rubbing her the right way.

being together is based on fate and chemistry. all the best!

[H9000C]

Originally Posted by xoxo8777

if for a start, the few yrs in age differences of your 'potential' bother you.
Then you should not even bother to look further.

Coupled with the additional 'luggages' that come along with this package: a child. You might not be mentally ready to embrace all.

Start firstly to see how much of 'chemistry' or love elements between you
two ( since intimacy is still not reached).
Provided you can accept her age & her 'luggage'.

Good luck.

i agree with the "luggage" thingy that come along , its a very delicate and sticky situation to be stuck into if you dont feel at ease in the first place.

[Canon246]

Tell you la young man....older women who say they dont like younger men is just another way of saying you are not handsome/tall/rich enough for her...

Women's words is always 口不对心 thats why top management always male....cos female rule by emotions.

[crazyivan6636]

Give it a try and remember if you do bang her brains out, either leave it outside or make sure you have the mornign after pill to prevent any nasties.

older women tend to be more fun and have a higher drive.

[discordpiggy]

omg! i hear many stories every now and then about friends in all sort of situations... most recent is this...

What about the woman (single) is 12 years older than the man?! and worst, the younger man has a kid of 3yo, trying to get a divorce and struggling with it lols! personally, i think this situation is even worst than TS. sorry offence, for posting here...

[KaniNababe]

Originally Posted by tabio99

Hi guys,

I'm divorced (no kid) and am trying to restart my life, and am ready to try dating again. Recently got to know another lady, who is also divorced, and has a young kid. She is 4 years older than me, and we are both in our 30s.

Have you guys dated woman older than yourself? I have the perception that ladies wouldn't be attracted to guys several years younger than herself.
Would like to have some views from you guys! Ladies are welcomed to offer your opinions too..

Somebody mentioned here age is just a number. Well i do prefer older guy, not because of the big big number but i tend to associate age with wisdom. More grey hair = more wisdom

[soggypanties]

The biggest problem is not age difference. If you're looking for fun, then no problem. But if you intend to be serious, think hard.... you don't have a kid, she has. Can you bring yourself to care and love the child as your own (esp when he /she is calling another man daddy). Try facing that and asking yourself every single day. It gets worse if she's late 30s and chance of her wanting a child with you diminishes by the day.

You have a better chance of compromising with yourself if you have a child too. Otherwise, find a younger chick, she can marry you in a white gown and both of you can have your own kids.

[doubletap]

Originally Posted by soggypanties

The biggest problem is not age difference. If you're looking for fun, then no problem. But if you intend to be serious, think hard.... you don't have a kid, she has. Can you bring yourself to care and love the child as your own (esp when he /she is calling another man daddy). Try facing that and asking yourself every single day. It gets worse if she's late 30s and chance of her wanting a child with you diminishes by the day.

You have a better chance of compromising with yourself if you have a child too. Otherwise, find a younger chick, she can marry you in a white gown and both of you can have your own kids.

I agree with u. TS seems to be digging into his own .....................

[Blackenrose]

If you have doubts, don't start the relationship, if you want to start the relationship, don't doubt on it. It is sometimes really tough to think so much...

[irbaboon]

Age is really just a number..... Besides 4 years is really not much.
But you need to know what she thinks about age difference. Some ppl have issues with it.

Anyway i have dated with women up to 9 years my senior though none ended up happy ending. I think the main concern would be age in terms of thinking and mindset instead of the age as in the numerical number.

[Castrol]

if you are a man who is a boy at heart, the older woman will fit in nicely.

[nomoregoodguy]

Personally I prefer dating older women. Younger ladies tend to be too emotionally unstable and require a lot of attention. Of course not all are like that but most are.

[naan1974]

If you are both serious about the relationship, there are far more critical things than the age. Like your values, your directions and plans.
What's the few years difference in a life time. 30 years from now,
it will be like ...you 're 65 and she's 69. Oh my, that's totally insignificant !

[SuperInterested]

Originally Posted by naan1974

If you are both serious about the relationship, there are far more critical things than the age. Like your values, your directions and plans.
What's the few years difference in a life time. 30 years from now,
it will be like ...you 're 65 and she's 69. Oh my, that's totally insignificant !

very well said bro