Wanted to married a China girl but i am married

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by DNAdevil

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my
wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me to write the
greeting words on the card. I smiled and wrote, I ll carry you out every
morning until we are old. "

Read this somewhere before and I can never forget this story......cos it brought tears to my eyes
Well done...upz you!

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Simple but only 1 condition.
Go there, have traditional wedding for 面子sake for her family and bring her over to stay and be your mistress.
If continue to stay there and long distance lover, wife watever you wanna call it, dun waste time!
Anyway, this to me is more lust than love.....do remember how this relationship was built and what's missing in this equation & it'll be very easy to deduce it to LUST!

[leecs]

Originally Posted by Mrxhub

Where your PRC stay? Maybe can check background info for you...hehehe...

My PRC stays in Fuzhou, Fujian. I know when i say this, im really gonna get f**ked by you mates, but she works in a KTV. I know you guys will say why!!! there are $$$ suckers & not out for love or something. She has no choice but to work in KTV.

I've actually expressed my feelings for her & she knows it. But she says she doesnt want to break up a family. I told her this is the route im choosing, its not her fault. (I know people will sure blame her). She replied she doesnt wana be a 3rd party. So i replied if im single, would she wana be with me. She did not reply. so i replied its ok. Then she replied shes happy to know me.

Apart from the child & wedding dinner issue, I cant stand her sarcastic ways of talking to me when we are arguing. What she says will hurt me, like stabbing a dagger in your heart. Im sure you guys know how it feels. Its been going on for many years & i told her not to but she continues. Once she was asking me am i getting bored of the life now, which is only the 2 of us & that f**king dog, i said yes. Then she said why not we have a divorce & dont waste each others time.

She doesnt like to go to my parents home for dinner, or any gatherings from my family side. Everytime my relatives will ask me where is my wife. I dont know how to answer. whereas when her mum asks us to go, I steady, i go. During CNY, i asked her whether she wants to go back msia to my grandpa's home, she told me nobodys looking after the dog!! WTF! when we go to hong kong last nov, she can put the dog to the previous owner for a week, whereas going back is only 4 days.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Do not chop down the whole forest for a tree.
Remember, what happiness your friends have wif their PRC wives may not totally apply to you.
My advise to you is to thread very carefully.
Fujian gals in the nightscene is rated one of the most 江湖老将in the nightscene.
At 25, it's like our 35 in terms of experience.
Few most well known are from Chengdu, Fujian & ShenYang.....these all KC power extreme one.
Why only give and have nothing in return.
Look objectively, any PROPER relationship will have to give and take.
What does she want from you to be together?
What do you want from her to be together?
If everything also you give n give, i think you just enjoy the fuck wif her can liao n nottin else.
What can she give you other than you already have?
You have a job i presume
You have a car
You have a life
You prolly have your own property
Remember, you're a MAN!
She will be living off you....not you off her........
To solve matters, use brain
Heart solves shit dude.
Be objective
Time to stop kneeling & show whos the boss
Imagine, you give, you feed, your give her $$$$$$$
And you have to kneel!!!!!!!
All you get from her is a BBBJ, RAW FUCK!
You love her but does she love you?
You can never answer that for her cos only she knows
So see what a disadvantaged position you put yourself in??????
Time to get some ground back dude

[leecs]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Do not chop down the whole forest for a tree.
Remember, what happiness your friends have wif their PRC wives may not totally apply to you.
My advise to you is to thread very carefully.
Fujian gals in the nightscene is rated one of the most 江湖老将in the nightscene.
At 25, it's like our 35 in terms of experience.
Few most well known are from Chengdu, Fujian & ShenYang.....these all KC power extreme one.
Why only give and have nothing in return.
Look objectively, any PROPER relationship will have to give and take.
What does she want from you to be together?
What do you want from her to be together?
If everything also you give n give, i think you just enjoy the fuck wif her can liao n nottin else.
What can she give you other than you already have?
You have a job i presume
You have a car
You have a life
You prolly have your own property
Remember, you're a MAN!
She will be living off you....not you off her........
To solve matters, use brain
Heart solves shit dude.
Be objective
Time to stop kneeling & show whos the boss
Imagine, you give, you feed, your give her $$$$$$$
And you have to kneel!!!!!!!
All you get from her is a BBBJ, RAW FUCK!
You love her but does she love you?
You can never answer that for her cos only she knows
So see what a disadvantaged position you put yourself in??????
Time to get some ground back dude

What you say is true. Lets keep my PRC gal aside for a while.

Im 30 this year, have a stable career, although doesnt earn much, no car though, doesnt see the need for 1. Most of my friends who got married has at least a kid, a wife that acompany him almost wherever he goes. Whereas my wife doesnt like kids, wedding dinner, going back to my parents home for dinner, etc. Its like we are living separate lives but living together in a house. Whenever i wana start a topic on babies, she will give me a face. when we quarrel, she will talk sarcastically & most of the time, i give in. She has mention divorce 3 times to me & all 3 times i give in. The life im living is very stale now..

This is not the life i want! I really envy my friends with a good wife. Of course im not sure whether my PRC will give me that life. Thats why i gotta know her better.

[colins]

Originally Posted by leecs

This is not the life i want! I really envy my friends with a good wife. Of course im not sure whether my PRC will give me that life. Thats why i gotta know her better.

What say you if she takes away everything else but give you a baby? Bro DYBJ has a story about that, 2 babies some more. After she earned enough, while she still got somebody in china who wants her, forsaked the sg hubby, discarded both babies and left.

Thats why you gotta know her better? Boy you're really messed up. Hear that little voice in your heart, haven't she shown you enough? Tell her story come on, dun hold that in. Let us know the story between you and your PRC. Look at the BIG title, my friend, you want to marry a China girl, NOT get to know her better.

As to your wife, if there is some much discontentment which you can't solve, and you ABSOLUTELY MUST GIVE IN, fine get a divorce. You had your choice, you decided not to divorce on the child issue and now becos there's someone else coming along who can fulfil that, ah divorce seems goood. This only proves one thing man, you want to escape the child issue when she gave you an ultimatum, now you found one little space in that PRC to escape, you wanna hide there and decides wow its time to move on!

Man, you're a mess. Get a grip, your wife should get another man, not you.

[leecs]

Yes! im a mess.

I do want to divorce my wife & marry the PRC.

[kogi]

Originally Posted by leecs

What you say is true. Lets keep my PRC gal aside for a while.

Im 30 this year, have a stable career, although doesnt earn much, no car though, doesnt see the need for 1. Most of my friends who got married has at least a kid, a wife that acompany him almost wherever he goes. Whereas my wife doesnt like kids, wedding dinner, going back to my parents home for dinner, etc. Its like we are living separate lives but living together in a house. Whenever i wana start a topic on babies, she will give me a face. when we quarrel, she will talk sarcastically & most of the time, i give in. She has mention divorce 3 times to me & all 3 times i give in. The life im living is very stale now..

This is not the life i want! I really envy my friends with a good wife. Of course im not sure whether my PRC will give me that life. Thats why i gotta know her better.

Bro leecs you got two issues to look at separately. One is to get out of a loveless marriage. Your wife already challenged you to divorce. She already behaves like no longer a wife. Give you verbal abuse. I'm sure she already did her homework. 3 year separation before divorce can include living under the same roof but keeping separate lives and separate meals. That is why she dont want to socialise with your family.

See this sticky in Adult Discussions
http://sammyboy.online/adult-d...er-sg-law.html

For d) and e) above, "living apart" requires the intention of staying apart from each other with the view of ending the marriage, as well as the physical act of staying apart. However, you may still be considered as staying apart even if you and your spouse are staying at the same address, if you and your spouse have led completely separate lives and have separate households (i.e. not staying in the same bedroom, not having sexual relations, not doing any household chores such as cooking, washing, cleaning, ironing, etc. together, or for each other; not having meals together as a family; not going out together as a family, etc.) for the required length of time, for the purposes of obtaining a divorce based on three or four years' separation.

Meanwhile you are pining for the prc girl but dont make any marriage plans with her. Haven't got out of frying pan don't aim to jump into the fire. Enjoy life as a free man. Remarrying means another woman got a leash on your dick and lead you around like a dog again once the honeymoon is over. Spend 3 months with her living day to day like husband and wife doing normal routines not like a honeymoon or vacation. See whether she becomes possessive, domineering, or bored. Does the relationship feel stale? Take your time and don't rush into another marriage.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by leecs

What you say is true. Lets keep my PRC gal aside for a while.

Im 30 this year, have a stable career, although doesnt earn much, no car though, doesnt see the need for 1. Most of my friends who got married has at least a kid, a wife that acompany him almost wherever he goes. Whereas my wife doesnt like kids, wedding dinner, going back to my parents home for dinner, etc. Its like we are living separate lives but living together in a house. Whenever i wana start a topic on babies, she will give me a face. when we quarrel, she will talk sarcastically & most of the time, i give in. She has mention divorce 3 times to me & all 3 times i give in. The life im living is very stale now..

This is not the life i want! I really envy my friends with a good wife. Of course im not sure whether my PRC will give me that life. Thats why i gotta know her better.

Let me tell you the mental state you're in right now and you go reflect about it!

1stly, you marry someone bcos you want to start a life and a family with...love got nothing to do with it.
Ok, so here's your 1st mistake, cos you married your wife and now you regret cos like you said, you envy your friends blah blah
Good things everyone can see, bad things eveyone will hide...you say i good, i say you good lor....this logic you sure know

2ndly, now comes the PRC chick. You are willing to dump your LEGAL wife to marry her. Ok, but then again, what kind of security do you have from her? Nothing! You're only 30, dun own a car & from your post, a normal wage earning bloke. What kinda life can you give her? What does she want from you? You think they come her to find love????????
Next, say she can give you babies.....yes babies but can never give you the kind of security your legal wife can give you....then how?????

Ever heard of not jumping island to island wif your eyes closed??????
That's exactly what you're doing now.
At 30, u shud be all out to whack a career path for yourself.
I've posted this before, when its time, 2 conditions must be met!!!
Its your time to meet DA ONE and her time to meet DA ONE
Other than that, how matter you love the other party watsoever, also no use.
Remember, she came over to seek wealth, and if lucky, meet someone who can give her a good life.
If you claim you are ok ok only, there are tons of that in the mother land, why choose you?

You do not marry someone to buy a HBD flat like many young couples do and live to regret it FOREVER!
You do not marry someone cos you wanna have babies
You do not marry someone cos you love her
You do not marry someone cos she's a good fuck

You marry someone cos she's reliable
You marry someone cos she's got integrity
You marry someone cos you know she'll be with you through thick and thin no matter what in sickness & in health or wealth
You marry someone cos you know she will be a good mother and can take care of the family and share your burdens and contribute to the family wealth
Most importantly, you marry someone cos she's also mentally ready to settle down and have a family of her own

If any of the above are not met, prepare for another roller coaster ride........and the best part is, dun go saying you life is messed up....cos its in your own hands. Meaning, you fucked up and no one else but yourself did it cos you are the director & lead actor in your own life dude!
Remember your 1st failure....your wife.
If i were you, i wont be too engrossed wif leaving a prob and jumping to another, hoping that this wont be a prob this time

[leecs]

Originally Posted by kogi

Bro leecs you got two issues to look at separately. One is to get out of a loveless marriage. Your wife already challenged you to divorce. She already behaves like no longer a wife. Give you verbal abuse. I'm sure she already did her homework. 3 year separation before divorce can include living under the same roof but keeping separate lives and separate meals. That is why she dont want to socialise with your family.

See this sticky in Adult Discussions
http://sammyboy.online/adult-d...er-sg-law.html

For d) and e) above, "living apart" requires the intention of staying apart from each other with the view of ending the marriage, as well as the physical act of staying apart. However, you may still be considered as staying apart even if you and your spouse are staying at the same address, if you and your spouse have led completely separate lives and have separate households (i.e. not staying in the same bedroom, not having sexual relations, not doing any household chores such as cooking, washing, cleaning, ironing, etc. together, or for each other; not having meals together as a family; not going out together as a family, etc.) for the required length of time, for the purposes of obtaining a divorce based on three or four years' separation.

Meanwhile you are pining for the prc girl but dont make any marriage plans with her. Haven't got out of frying pan don't aim to jump into the fire. Enjoy life as a free man. Remarrying means another woman got a leash on your dick and lead you around like a dog again once the honeymoon is over. Spend 3 months with her living day to day like husband and wife doing normal routines not like a honeymoon or vacation. See whether she becomes possessive, domineering, or bored. Does the relationship feel stale? Take your time and don't rush into another marriage.

Thanks for your advice. I will have a good talk with my wife 1st & ask what she wants in our marriage. Nevertheless, i might pop by China on end of feb for a short trip to visit her...

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by leecs

Thanks for your advice. I will have a good talk with my wife 1st & ask what she wants in our marriage. Nevertheless, i might pop by China on end of feb for a short trip to visit her...

Do wat u gotta do dude, but shud your wife decide to want to start a family now, then going there for a bonk isnt helping again...hahahahaha

[leecs]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Do wat u gotta do dude, but shud your wife decide to want to start a family now, then going there for a bonk isnt helping again...hahahahaha

haha! its not the bonking im after if i go china! PERIOD!! just wana have her company for a few days & forget all the shit im having in singapore for a moment.

haha! My wife wont wan a baby. If she wants, we wont be having sex with condom for so many years. Just last year without condom. But still not pregnant. Maybe im weak or shes weak or shes been taking pills? I dont know.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by leecs

haha! its not the bonking im after if i go china! PERIOD!! just wana have her company for a few days & forget all the shit im having in singapore for a moment.

Well said...that's a very normal and clear case of 逃避
Your prob is textbook bro....suggest you re-look and re-align your life
30 is the start of midlife...this is where you should see the fruits bearing in a couple of years of investing your youth...this you shud ask your PRC gal, they're experts in this.
By your statement, it's clear she's got more up there in this dept than you dude!

[leecs]

thanks for advice. im really a mess.....

[Megatronzombie]

Originally Posted by DizzyMage

Bro...

Your posting is so simple yet so touching. Me going thru a rough patch now, not the same case but your posting enriched me. Thank you.

I agree. DNA's story is freaking awesome and i feel like crying too. This is why i will never leave my wife for PRC or any other of such girls even if my wife grow old next time because she has redeemed whatever wrong she has done in the past and she stick with me thick and thin through bad times and good times. I am now addicted to FLs due to what happened in the past but will try to reduce my frequency at present and hopefully retire next time from bonking outside...