Wanted to married a China girl but i am married

[cablesnwires]

Originally Posted by leecs

.....My feelings for her has already died.

You came here to seek advice, and this is my advice to you:

"You need to go see a marriage counselor, you owe it to yourself and you owe it to her as well."

If it still doesn't work out, then do what you think you think is appropriate. But don't get a divorce because of ur PRC gf.

[Schenker]

Originally Posted by rtcb68

Got to know this China girl and have a very good time with her for a while.
We call each other every day thought she is in China and my feeling grow alone the way. I had told her that I am married but she really dont mind and had lie to her family that i am not. I really wish to married her but i am married.
Can anyone assist me? Can I married her in China thought i had registered in Singapore? We do love each other very very much.

How come married man can fall in love so easily wanz.

[FL Lover]

Originally Posted by leecs

My feelings for her has already died.

Bro, I understand how you feels. Have you tried to go for marriage counnseling first for both of u? It will improve yor marriage life and to understand what's marriage is all about.

Quite sad to hear that yor love for your wife had already died and since your wife is so determined to have her own life, then properly both of u are not meant to be together. A marriage will never be completed without any KIDS.

For those bros who are not married, you might not understand the purpose of having kids after marriage asap. Having kids help to improve your relationship and also helps to ensure that there will be a bonding between the couples. A DOG OR OTHER FXXKUP PETS WILL NEVER AND EVER REPLACE THE FEELING OF HAVING A KID AT HOME.....

You will ONLY understand the needs of having a kid after you get married. The pain of giving birth to a child is just a pychological effect that any girls have to overcome. Let me ask all bros. If your wife or gf is scare of painful feelings during sex, are you going to be deny of sex for the rest of your life?
Not true. There are surely other methods of overcoming the issue.


My advice to you. Go for the marriage counseling first before you made the final decision. Then see if it helps to reignite yor love for each other again and to accept the shortcomings for yourself as well as yor wife.

Story of the day: A marriage is not about two people staying together. Its about accepting each other shortcomings.

[colins]

Originally Posted by leecs

There was once I asked her about forming a family & having babies. She then told me she doesn’t like babies. She finds them irritating & nuisance. I thought she was just joking. So we got ROMed on 05. I was planning like having a house in 06 then have a child in 07.

Why did you want to marry her? Yes you love her but love her what?

[leecs]

Why did you want to marry her? Yes you love her but love her what?

I dont know. I guess maybe its time to settle down, which im wrong.

Bro, I understand how you feels. Have you tried to go for marriage counnseling first for both of u? It will improve yor marriage life and to understand what's marriage is all about.

Nope. never thought of that. Maybe i should.

It is sad when we hear such things. Then the only other thing I can say is to decide to move on. But please do not rush into a relationship with a PRC or a WL just to feel good or to have a child... Best of luck bro.

I will not rush into a relaionship with my PRC if i really deicide to move on.

[Soul_Reaper]

Never ever marry a PRC !!!
PRC mei meis are best for F*ck N Forget !!!
The moment you ROM you'll be screwed for the rest of your life !!!
Even if you divorce your wife eventually....... DUN EVER MARRY A PRC as the new wife or ever

[KonKam]

Originally Posted by DNAdevil

dear TS, i cant advise much as tis is ur life, no matter how much advise me and other samster here give u, in the end u still have to make the decision urself, all i can help here is to show u a post that i saw in other forum and so i copy and paste here for u to take a look, hope it help u wat to do.

.................................................. ..................................................
.................................................. etc

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my
wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me to write the
greeting words on the card. I smiled and wrote, I ll carry you out every
morning until we are old. "

Nice nice nice nice story!!....and i almost cry,the truth...
I just divorced last year Dec 17....
Not sure whether good or not but my life haven't been the same eversince.

Thx for the nice story..

[mike1304k]

Actually bro,

Other than marriage counselling, which will be important, I think that perhaps some counselling on children may be needed to. I know that there are people who hate children. And there are some who love them too much, like the lady who just gave birth to 8 and has another 6 already.

In a way, feeling that it is time to settle down is the start of the reason why u want to marry. U must love her and also want her to consider marrying mah.

I know from the thread that she has given you a hard time since marriage. However, it could be a sign of some other underlying problems. Of course, local girls can be troublesome and this has been expressed in other threads. However, if you once loved the girl and remember how she was in the beginning, perhaps you may want to try and find that girl again. I knew a girl who had problems of connections and emotions. And her husband was actually considering turning to other forms of entertainment. However, she seemed so different from when we knew her before the marriage, we asked him to go for counselling with her and it came out that after marriage, she was actually so afraid that her husband would leave her, she projected her fears outwardly and this caused a further worsening of the situation. As a couple, you can do it togther.

On the flip side, my friend who married a stripper actually went for counselling himself. Because it was around the 6 month period when he started to have fears and doubts and it also made things difficult. He started to say that if she wanted to go back, she could. He did not mean it of course, but it was his fear showing. So he went to see a counsellor and together they sorted everything out. Now they are happy and have children together. They have been together for 6 years now and not a moment of unhappiness. So it happens to both guys and girls. Sometimes they feel something and they cannot understand or control and it makes things so much worse.

I saw a lady who had depression because her daughter was taking drugs. She could not help the daughter and ended up depressed. I saw her being taken out of the clinic in a wheel chair and immediately warded (I'm in pharmaceutical sales and not a patient hor). The doctor had to put her on constant drugs to keep her stable. We do not know what problems there are for different behaviours until we try. But if we had some feelings before and if we do still, then we owe it to her to try and help her.

[leecs]

Originally Posted by Soul_Reaper

Never ever marry a PRC !!!
PRC mei meis are best for F*ck N Forget !!!
The moment you ROM you'll be screwed for the rest of your life !!!
Even if you divorce your wife eventually....... DUN EVER MARRY A PRC as the new wife or ever

Do you have any bad experiences????

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by leecs

Do you have any bad experiences????

My man.,.......where have you been man?????????????????????????????
Go read up the many many different threads in this section and read them until ur eyes pop out
So far, the tally for those known is 100000000000fucked up against 1 successful
These are the only known ones hor..........
Men being men, so many crashed & burnt in hell already disappeared from the face of the earth liao

[leecs]

I agree with you on this. I've read from newspapers, SBF, etc.

[kogi]

Originally Posted by FL Lover

For those bros who are not married, you might not understand the purpose of having kids after marriage asap. Having kids help to improve your relationship and also helps to ensure that there will be a bonding between the couples. A DOG OR OTHER FXXKUP PETS WILL NEVER AND EVER REPLACE THE FEELING OF HAVING A KID AT HOME.....

Bro, you're shouting at the wrong audience. No man with balls in his pants will ever keep an dog and pamper it as if it were a substitute child. That is women's behavior. Only women hold delicate little dogs and fawn all over them like a mother fussing over a baby. Because it is the women who dont like children who behave like this.
Go back and reread bro leecs posting. His wife places the priorty of the dog above him and his parents. Feel damn sad for him.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

She did not really put priority on the dog.
Never read things so literally.
This is a very lonely woman, she sought solace in the dog like he sought solace in the WL
Same idea different implication.
Have you ever tot that she may actually fear bearing kids?
There's a million and one possibilities but it all depends on both parties
The posts above clearly illustrates one party goin into a marraige and many things was taken for granted
That's Y i say, u dun marry outta love
Like the water in the cup theory.....
You swallow....cos you love her blah blah
One day, for everytime you swallow, one pebble drops into the cup of water.....sooner or later, water sure overflow..........looking away may not always be a bad thing

[leecs]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

She did not really put priority on the dog.
Never read things so literally.
This is a very lonely woman, she sought solace in the dog like he sought solace in the WL
Same idea different implication.
Have you ever tot that she may actually fear bearing kids?
There's a million and one possibilities but it all depends on both parties
The posts above clearly illustrates one party goin into a marraige and many things was taken for granted
That's Y i say, u dun marry outta love
Like the water in the cup theory.....
You swallow....cos you love her blah blah
One day, for everytime you swallow, one pebble drops into the cup of water.....sooner or later, water sure overflow..........looking away may not always be a bad thing

My wife is not a lonely woman. She has many activites. She loved to have pets since young. That’s why when the chance come, she’ll grab it.
She does not fear bearing kids. She hates them to the core, BIG TIME!!! Every time when I tried to talk about baby, she’ll shun away & change other topics.
You’re right. Shouldn’t marry outta love. I now regret marrying early. I don’t know when the water will overflow.

[HCKing]

Originally Posted by leecs

My wife is not a lonely woman. She has many activites. She loved to have pets since young. That’s why when the chance come, she’ll grab it.
She does not fear bearing kids. She hates them to the core, BIG TIME!!! Every time when I tried to talk about baby, she’ll shun away & change other topics.
You’re right. Shouldn’t marry outta love. I now regret marrying early. I don’t know when the water will overflow.

bro be strong and settle yr marriage problems nw 1st, dont b wishy washy when comes to r/s. since u already regretted so faster do somthing abt it and get it over with. u r still young can still start anew anytime but best if u can throw all yr problems off yr shoulders and start focusing on earning $$ nw than involving in r/s again as it will just be a pure waste of yr youth and energy. when yr career is stable and gt $$$ there will be lots of girls 4 u to choose.

be careful with yr decisions nw, make sure dont do things u will regret again in future.