Lost sex interest wt wife

TheGreat · #1 06-03-2007, 12:44 AM

Hi bro,

Have soemthing that need you guys advise. Has anyone lost sex interest with wife, like when make love, always cannot get hard, but when i watch porn movie and DIY, my little bro can get hard and come, but with her, always cant be hard, althought i tried very hard, we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.

can any bro share and advise....

thanks in advance.

Offspring · #2 06-03-2007, 12:49 AM

avoid porn and pcc for a week. And the next time you do with her definately can get it hard and rocking.

The question is, can u tahan for a week?

TheGreat · #3 06-03-2007, 01:20 AM

hi bro,

i tried leh, but hor, when ml, still the same loh, i guess something to do with psychologically lah, i always feel very stress went ml. Do you guys always treat yr wife as just sex partner but not wife when ml?

bigggbird69 · #4 06-03-2007, 01:30 AM

Hi bro,
u can try to spice up your sex life with role play and fantasy that u alwyas desire and get your wife to participate. That should help.

Sneekers · #5 06-03-2007, 02:03 AM

Same here... 15min into ml, soft liau. Try to spice up the session by asking her to 'moan' but said she like it to be natural. It is like ml to a 'dead wood'. How to be exciting ??

Some more, she got no initiative to ml. Everytime I have to ask her. Sian liau! During ml session also feel alot of stress. 10-15 min later, she said enough...ask me to finish up. No choice sometime have to resort to PCC. So far haven't tried 'commercial sex' but going on like that...make me very 'fed-up' and tempted.

SiaoGao · #6 06-03-2007, 02:14 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Offspring

avoid porn and pcc for a week. And the next time you do with her definately can get it hard and rocking.

The question is, can u tahan for a week?

I thought it should be watch as much porn but DON'T pcc for a week....
.....

next you do.... it will be like mad dog.....sure stand and Cum !!

Hugo168 · #7 06-03-2007, 02:17 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheGreat

hi bro,

i tried leh, but hor, when ml, still the same loh, i guess something to do with psychologically lah, i always feel very stress went ml. Do you guys always treat yr wife as just sex partner but not wife when ml?

Take a Break go on a holiday it helps go to an island

chickenpie · #8 06-03-2007, 02:23 AM

Bro Thegreat, do not try having sex with your wife for the sake of a mission, like trying for the second child.

I once gotten the same, just don't like to have sex with my wife but later I tried different ways of sex to spike up...
Maybe you have always have sex the usual ways hence you are too used to it or even tire of it. Would advise that you try out having sex the different way.

1. Try out kinky sex.
For example add sex toys or sex games during your love play.

2. View sex as an enjoyment between you 2.
Can add blindfold to your sex play can induce alot of anticipation from your partner.

3. Fantasy sex.
Have a chat with your wife what is her sexual fantasy, or else share yours with your wife.

During your preparation, it would yield better result if you stop having sex and stop watching porns movies etc to stuff your sexual hunger. Give it 2 weeks or more, and try out may be you restore you liking.

Hope that the 2cent of advise is helpful. Wish you all the best. Cheers...

madix · #9 06-03-2007, 02:49 AM

I guess you really love your wife if both of you all are working towards getting another child. And its frustrating when you can't make it happen. The more you wan to ml the smaller your didi becomes...

Take a weekend break and go for a hol with your wife.
I went taiwan recently and their hotel had 24hr cable porn. My gf and I were having a solid time together watching and f**king our braings out.

ahdee · #10 06-03-2007, 03:35 AM

agree that going on a holiday with ur wife will be a good way to relax and at the same time share a good romantic time with one another. a good suggestion and budget one is perhaps get on a short 3days2nights cruise from fri-sun...avoid bringing ur 1st child...

ur didi cannot work most likely is stress @ work and u're ml in the same old bedroom. i think ur atmosphere is playing a major factor in you.

Orgasmic · #11 06-03-2007, 07:49 AM

i do have the same problem with you at times.

Actually, many guys have lost interest in their wives at some point of another because, basically, the human frequency cannot be tuned to the same hz all the time right? Or maybe, you cant be eating chicken rice all the time right?

Quote:

Originally Posted by TheGreat

Hi bro,

Have soemthing that need you guys advise. Has anyone lost sex interest with wife, like when make love, always cannot get hard, but when i watch porn movie and DIY, my little bro can get hard and come, but with her, always cant be hard, althought i tried very hard, we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.

can any bro share and advise....

thanks in advance.

Derelict · #12 06-03-2007, 10:15 AM

Go on a Holiday like what most post mentioned herein. Some place thats cold if possible. A place you wish to go for a long time. Most importantly ask your wife not to talk about problems or family matters. If she starts just remind her she promised not to talk about home. Just enjoy each others company.

Another thing. If she is fat ask her to slim down abit. Talk it out.

Look at her. See if you like her in office attire or if you enjoy looking at her with make up on. If that is the case than I suggest booking a hotel right after work and get intimate.

Hope that helps.

gnisnal · #13 06-03-2007, 12:21 PM

This is an interesting thread...

I am so busy now that I have no time to continue on my other thread, which some bros are looking forward too. I promise another part this week, swear!!!

I have to put my 2 cents here, a bit of story. If a bit long winded, paiseh huh.

A friend of mine had the same problem. I know bros, you guy will be saying "a friend or yourself?" Anyway, just to kick off here, my friend or I not the issue, the happenings is. Let's call that person X.

X lost interest with wife, they have 2 kids and are not planning to have any more. Both in mid 30ies but still pretty presentable. After the 2nd kid, work, taking care of children and all kinds of obligations so on so forth, sex is like a subject never to be talked about. Urge of sex was still desired but no initiation was taken by either party. When taken, it is more like a matter to fulfil and not a matter of enjoyment.

Nonetheless X spoke out to wife on the issue and wife responded positively. They started watching porn together, discussed those actions and tried them out.

One saturday night, X took the courage and brought wife to a club with a dance floor. The wife was prepared by X to dress so sexily shouting out "I am available and easy." X made wife go out on the dance floor alone and see whether she will attract any interest. Of course, X has prepared and couched wife before of what to expect. Within the 2 hours, wife had six explicit hits. There may be others wanting but did dare not try. Among the six, guys approached trying everyway to lure her in.

They both went home tipsy and had the sex of their lifes.

During that time, X still cheong. But X cannot find those actions wife is willing to do with X. And that brought the manhood out of X. Wife not stupid but was so understanding and allowed it. With a condition of course, "I know what is going on, but as long as I don't see with my own eyes, it did not happen. Just be careful when fooling around. Practise safe sex. Don't bring any mess home. I am not the centre of attention here but regardless what, just don't make your kids grow up in a broken family."

Since then X lost interest to cheong.

Now if X were to be me, I will be so damn happy. My wife will kill me with just a slight believe of me fooling around. But then again, no more cheong! I cannot imagine life like that, at least for now.

So, an option here to try out. At least for the purpose of getting a new member to the family.

Adios, hehe...

surfer888 · #14 06-03-2007, 01:53 PM

If porn gives you pleasure then...
...Do what I did to have a child. Watch porn and bonk. You'd be surprised that you may even have premature ejaculations.

Plus I did it on holiday in Europe with Cable porn and did not pcc for over a month before that.

Therefore, it was a couple of the factors that the bros suggested earlier all combined. Just one bonk did the trick for me.

But NEVER NEVER tell her that you are imagining that she looks like the girl on screen. Spare a thought for her feelings. You wouldn't like it yourself if she told you that she has to replace you with another person in order to get wet.

Castrol · #15 06-03-2007, 02:01 PM

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Originally Posted by TheGreat

we both want to have 2nd child, but i find myself bad that cannot get hard with her.

dont be too hard on yourself. it will only make it harder, i mean the situation not the didi.

i think every attached guy will experience periods when the didi is not so obedient, but it will pass and your partner will smile again.