Affair with A Japanese Lady. What should I do?

[tyga]

Pass on the jap girl to me 😂🤣

[Theus]

Originally Posted by Nelsonlim

Just curious about the part where the man gets full care and control because in SG it is normally by default to the woman or shared care and control.

Thats good, that's good.
Your wife, according to you, is a good lady to have, even though in bed she may not meet your expectations.
But half of it maybe your lack of encouragement ?
Get the drift ?

[oxeso]

[Cryptor]

wah jin lucky i never encounter her when i tried dating apps. if not sure leave family for the sex then later get free green hat

[Alcas]

What have you decided to do ?
1 last tryst and goodbye my love ?

I would do that.

[Nelsonlim]

As I had expected, she texted “how are you?” Previously I would have told her my feelings, that I’ve been thinking about her, and ask her how she was doing.

But this time I just texted back “I’m fine”. To which she replied “ok”. And that was it. I’m tired of her mind games and manipulative ways. My last straw was that she lied to me that she hadn’t slept with another guy(s). In some ways I’m feeling more free and spending time to focus on myself and my family; wife and my kids.

I unblocked her on social media as I don’t want to have the feeling of hiding from her. Recently, I started to post photos of my family outings, including my wife and I together. I’m not sure if she has seen my posts but I don’t want to hide anymore. Previously I would avoid going out with my wife or have intimate moments, and even slept in separate rooms. But now since I broke up with this Japanese lady, I’ve moved back to sleep with my wife on the same bed.

Like what the bros here shared, fun wild sex is only temporary. But my wife has remained faithful, loving and respectful all these years. The only regret I have is having to keep this secret within myself for the rest of my life.

In some ways, I feel sorry for this Japanese lady, that she easily falls in love with men, perhaps as a way to seek validation and love without the commitment. She used to remark that she finds herself attracted to married men. And I used to indulge in that forbidden love affair with her. But not anymore. Because what she does with me, she does it with other men. Hence I at peace with myself and wish her the best.

[bignehneh]

Can intro to the bros here la. Haha!

[CrimsonSky]

Originally Posted by Nelsonlim

In some ways I’m feeling more free and spending time to focus on myself and my family; wife and my kids.

Like what the bros here shared, fun wild sex is only temporary. But my wife has remained faithful, loving and respectful all these years. The only regret I have is having to keep this secret within myself for the rest of my life.

Well done bro. Eating out or having a fling is something very common since age immemorial, don't need to feel bad. As long as you know where home is at the end of the day, that will be the most important.

[Bizsta]

Originally Posted by CrimsonSky

Well done bro. Eating out or having a fling is something very common since age immemorial, don't need to feel bad. As long as you know where home is at the end of the day, that will be the most important.

Yes no matter what must recognise your home

[Nelsonlim]

Update:
Going against most brothers’ advice here, my Japanese friend and I had met twice since my last post.

The first meet was just over dinner after work. We chatted casually over work and family. We didn’t have a particularly deep conversation, nor did we talk about why we were meeting. It felt awkward for both of us.

1 month later we met again for dinner. She looked more beautiful than before. Her captivating smile and gentleness. This time the conversation felt more natural and we laughed. We still didn’t talk about why we were meeting or if this would continue. I guess we both knew that we just enjoyed each other’s company without thinking about the hurt we brought to each other.

We took a cab home together. When she was nearing her place, she held my hand. After a few silent seconds, I turned my head to her and kissed her lips. I pulled away from her and it was silence again. Then I kissed her again. This time our tongues met. We bid goodbyes and went our separate ways.

We said that we would meet again the following week. However she hasn’t confirmed the date. Seeing that she doesn’t reply my texts, I can only guess that she still feels confused as I am; whether we should continue to see each other.

What do you guys think about the situation?

[kookies]

Let it go or you will get into regrettable shit soon.

[magicschoolbus]

Hands off before the burn happens.

[yang punk]

Just saw this thread today…
Obviously this jap lady is a nympho who needs lots of sex. Sex for sex sake. Words uttered in the height of passion are meaningless so don’t read too much into them.
That’s why it’s so easy for her to flirt from dick to dick !
You on the other hand must have been deeply infatuated, I wouldn’t say in love, as we men are more often ruled by our small head.
Your wife must be the submissive kind. Which wife would tolerate husband sleeping in separate room without suspicion of his infidelity? Anyway with long term marriage love has already turned into obligation.
So if you can accept the truth that there is no exclusiveness towards each other then a fuck buddy relationship would work out just fine!

[tritonyeah666]

Yes the fact the jap lady needs to wear sanitary pad daily just cause she gets wet so easily everyday, indicates she's a nymphomaniac where no amt of men can satisfy her. So just enjoy the ride of a village bicycle who happens to be hot lol

[valkyrierune]

I had a similar experience some time back and lasted more than 7 years.
Sex was the best with her indeed. But the narcissistic, temperamental, mood swing + control behavior creates a huge toll of my mental health during the last few years.

Same here, broke off and patch back more than 3 times. Usually gave in due to sex.
Eventually I had decided to call it off for good. Sex is really good no doubt. But I deserve a better mental wellbeing after much consideration.