Wanted to married a China girl but i am married

[BroRelax]

Originally Posted by DNAdevil

When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my
wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me to write the
greeting words on the card. I smiled and wrote, I ll carry you out every
morning until we are old. "

Very touching.

If this were to happen to me, i will do the same..

[GreenHorny]

Whew, what a tough time u r gg thru, KC or responsibilities ah...
anyway, me and my frends always discuss that when men find a gal, they has short/medium/long term goals
short term: sex
medium term: KC/become ur gf/more intimate sex
long term: marriage, start a family
sad to say so, most PRCs gf are only able to satisfy short n medium term goals. short term: BBBJ, Cum on Face, AR, Tits Fuck, Just head to China saunas and you can get unlimited. medium term: KC, sure they know how to please guys, say things u want to listen, be submissive n stuff.
However, they can never satisfy ur long term goal, can they fight career hand in hand with you, adapt to Spore life, bring up your children with the correct values, be faithful to u forever. Pls ah, china gals r not those nice ladies u see in ancient drama who will bite their tongue to save their chasity, instead they see their pussies as the Omega Weapon, that can easily suck away ur monkey god iron rod k...
Deal with PRC for short term, deal with them for medium term if u r really skilled, n that they r not the level 99 sluts, Never deal with them for long term!!!
Wads Spore Male Population against China Female Population ratio??? dunno 1 to how many thousands yeah... so we shld be the rare n valuable ones right? Its time for us sporean males to live up to our value ah!!!

[ekemono]

When dealing with PRC women one has to open his eyes big big and think hard.

My ex-wife, a PRC, had many years back drove her own mum out of the house and left her crying on the street and no where to go at that day.
And some months back when I could not provide for my kid, she threw him back to me and went holiday with her bf. So much for a mother's love...
My Viet wife is so disgusted with her action she stop talking to her and greeting her elder sis as a form of respect. My family are looking forward to sue her if this happens again.

Not stereotyping, just speaking from experience

[FL Lover]

True loh.. Out of so many PRCs married into Singapore, only a minority of them managed to stay together for long. Its true. My friend who is working in the Immigration Dept can testify to that.

According to him, he had seen so many cases whereby the PRC married the SG guy and dumped him after a year into the marriage. The poor sg guy had to write to immigration to request to terminate the permit or PR after the divorce....

But there are also successful case. My neighbour, also a friend that I have known since childhood. He married a PRC too. But not those WLs or FLs that we know loh. His PRC is pretty, sweet looking type and has the look of a virtuous wife. True enough, his wife really takes care of his family n him well. Never did I hear him mention about $ issue or quarreling in the flat. He had a daughter with the PRC.


So in short, not say PRC is good. But the problem comes after we know the PRC who is worknig in WLs or FLs or KTVs, those already have a corrupted mindset. They had a diffierent purpose in life....

[slider_72]

Bro leecs, I see your avatar has changed. The picture is sort of sailing close to the wind don't you think? I would think it borders on treason.

I think you have totally missed the point that bro DYBJ made in his last post. Your wife hating children may well be a manifestation of her fears. Liking pets and having numerous activities may also be a manifestation of her loneliness. Of course we are all guessing here as we do not know you or your wife, but this is some food for thought for you.

At this moment, the only advice I can offer to you is to keep a mini poodle. They don't shed so you will not have a house carpeted by dog fur. Makes the cleaning up easier. Being small, they poop lesser too and don't smell as bad.

In case anybody wonder why I talking about his dog or his wife's love for dogs, is this; everyone who contributed their opinions and advice to leecs have said more or less the same thing. However, it appears to me that the collective view of the bros here are not getting through to leecs. He is simply looking for an excuse to divorce his wife. He said that theirs is now a loveless marriage. His fingers are pointed at his wife for creating such a situation. If the things he said about her are true, surely a man would be pissed off with his wife but do these issues warrant a divorce? Like we all know, it takes two hands to clap. We do not know about leecs' short-comings and whether there are any issues his wife may have with him. For all we know, his wife may have caught him in bed with a WL in the past and hence the ice palace treatment.

Enough said. Bro leecs, the path before you is already painted out for you by the numerous good-meaning bros here. These advice were all based on information you provided so if the advice were not suitable because you withheld information from us, don't blame anyone. To me, they are as clear as the white edge lights and piano keys on a Cat 1 runway. Whether you wish to land on the runway or ditch into the sea, its all up to you.

[ekemono]

Sometimes, the fear of having children may be influence by close friends and co-workers. For all sort of reason; be it commitment, money, they are worried they may end up in those bad cases they heard. And also sometimes, it may be due to the husband. Imagine if you have a rather womenizer husband and you simply can't see much future together, will you bore a child for him? Lets be fair to the ladies too.

** TS, I am not directing these at you, just speaking on the general term.**

[cunt_search]

Originally Posted by slider_72

... He is simply looking for an excuse to divorce his wife. ... all know, it takes two hands to clap. We do not know about leecs' short-comings and whether there are any issues his wife may have with him. For all we know, his wife may have caught him in bed with a WL in the past and hence the ice palace treatment.

... its all up to you.

the marriage wow "in good health and in .... til death do us part"
when u swear that, r u thinking of finally screwing your wife legally finally or go through thick and thin with your chosen loved one???

[leecs]

Originally Posted by cunt_search

the marriage wow "in good health and in .... til death do us part"
when u swear that, r u thinking of finally screwing your wife legally finally or go through thick and thin with your chosen loved one???

I do remember making that vow, because I believe its time to settle down, have a house & child in a few years time. Struggle early then can relax a bit later in life. But I was wrong. It’s not the screwing that I want. She’s like changed to a different person & she’s holding the ‘sword’ in the house. I remember 1 thing she said very clearly. She said that if we were to divorce, the house is HERS. Ya, right

I can’t even cook instant noodles with a stove. She kept the metal thing holding the pot. I gotta use microwave oven to cook my instant noodles.

[slider_72]

Originally Posted by leecs

I do remember making that vow, because I believe its time to settle down, have a house & child in a few years time. Struggle early then can relax a bit later in life. But I was wrong. It’s not the screwing that I want. She’s like changed to a different person & she’s holding the ‘sword’ in the house. I remember 1 thing she said very clearly. She said that if we were to divorce, the house is HERS. Ya, right

I can’t even cook instant noodles with a stove. She kept the metal thing holding the pot. I gotta use microwave oven to cook my instant noodles.

Bro, this is going to be my last post on this topic because I am already lost for words.

You kept complaining about your wife's behaviour, how she changed after marriage, her refusal to visit your family, keeping a tight reign over the house, pampering the dog more than you, refusal to have children, demanding that the house is hers after divorce, etc.

Logically there must be a point in time when her behaviour changed. Remember, it was you who said she changed. That means before the change occurred, she was nice and loving, willing to accompany you everywhere, willing to consider having children?

Maybe some aspects remained constant before and after marriage, like her love for pets. For those attributes where she did not change after marriage, you already knew about it before marriage. You shouldn't be complaining about it now. You went in with your eyes open so you live with your decision.

For the other attributes where you said she changed after marriage, have you ever asked yourself what led to the change? Is she suffering from work stress, depression, mental health issues which led to the change? If so, remember your vows of in sickness and in health.

If the change is not due to these factors, there must be some external factors which caused it. Were you caught sleeping around, spend more time on online gaming than with her, neglected her, are you a mummy's boy where everything mummy said means the law to the exclusion of your wife's opinion?

Like I said, this is my last post on this topic because in my humble opinion, you are still seeking some justification for your decision in wanting to divorce your wife notwithstanding the numerous posts questioning your motive for this. Tackle the cause of the disease and not just focus on the symptoms. A change in your wife's behaviour is just the symptom of the problem. In this forum, only you will know the root cause.

Apart from your repeated complaints about your wife's change in her behaviour, have you also looked within yourself and see whether there were any changes in your behaviour? Some men are the perfect gentlemen when going after their wives but changed into an absolute slob after marriage.

[NemoZai]

bro Slider.... i'd say this a thousand times... "i couldnt agree more with you." our lives are really what we make them out to be. if we are not careful, we will just hurt those we love. and it really sucks... haiz...

[FL Lover]

It is always hard to determine who is right n wrong esp when it comes to family relationships... It is even harder for us to tell u what you should do when we are the OUTSIDER..

TS, we have given u what we think and advises to what you should do. It is up to you to determine your fate. After all, we do not know the full side of the story and SERIOUSLY, we do not really wish to know cause THIS IS YOR FAMILY AFFAIRS. There are always 2 sides of the story.

We can only judge by what we understand n from our experiences. Seriously, an outsider will never n ever understand the conditions and cause to yor failure in relationship.

We can provide much advise but end of the day, pls make the most sensible decision. What you have decided might change yor life forever.

LOTS OF PPLE MAKE MISTAKES BECAUSE THEY PUT EMOTIONS INTO DECISION MAKING. Make sure both of u have tried all means of patching up the relationship before ending it.

Best of luck to you. Live life to the fullest but not regrets

[DesSia]

Originally Posted by rtcb68

Got to know this China girl and have a very good time with her for a while.
We call each other every day thought she is in China and my feeling grow alone the way. I had told her that I am married but she really dont mind and had lie to her family that i am not. I really wish to married her but i am married.
Can anyone assist me? Can I married her in China thought i had registered in Singapore? We do love each other very very much.

How to marry her when you are married in Singapore? Think about it again! You are not in the shoes before thus you do not understand. I had a china wife 3 years back!

If you insist, go to china and get married. No record will be found provided your woman betray you. They are not UN yet!

[dadada]

Dear Bro,


If you insist, go to china and get married. No record will be found provided your woman betray you. They are not UN yet![/QUOTE]

As mention, you can take a step further, get yourself a new China ID and marry with the new ID.

You will have two identity. But some connection needed.

Regards

[sushi88]

Dear Bro,

I only want to wish you well and this will be my last post on this .

Many bros have already given you many valuable advices. Its up to you to decide wat you want. At the end of the day, it is your life, and only you can decide.....whichever decision you take as long as you know its consequences and you feel you are happy, then go along with it.

Marriages are seldom (and usually NEVER ) made in Heaven.

Finally, I wish you well and happy.

[LED...]

The fact that you still bother to vent your anger and frustration here means that you still have hope (maybe very minor) in this relationship.....Cool your head, take a few days break to consider your next action. I believe your courtship take more than a few days, so it is only fair that you should give yourself and your wife a breather and chance......Even if you are the only one initiating the opportunity, at least you can face yourself without regret and shame in the future......consider having a nice non-confrontation talk with her, look for counselling, usually a 3rd party will allow both of you to see the root and accept the reality in where is the problem..........You as the man, be a gentlemen, initiate the first step if you still have the slightest unsure about leaving her.........You make the call, You make the change......