husband leaving me, please advise

[saintdevil]

think my advise might have come a little late.
Sorry haven been logging in here for a while busy with real life.

Sis advise me,

allow to me say this.. there is no better way to solve a issue than to face the truth.

Your husband and someone else's wife is hooking up.

in that sense, its no longer a 3 person issue. 2 family are at the verge of breaking up because of 2 person's passion. Does the other side of the family.. aka the colleague's husband know about this yet? maybe you should let them know as to make things come into the light.

There is no right and wrong in everything we do, but every decision we make we alone have to bear the consequences.

Your husband tired of hiding? How about you tired of guessing?
If he has come clean hoping to save the marriage, then by all means be with him.
But no.. he come clean hoping he never have to hide anymore.
What is he after? he can now come back home late without finding excuse? you ask him where he go, he will just say mating with his colleague?

in short,
If he is sorry and want back, forgive him move on.
if he is not then
1. you can accept sharing him with another,
continue as you are
2. you cant accept then move on.
get a divorce, its better then keeping a body without a soul.

[yang punk]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

My advice to "adviseme" is to post your message in SingaporeBrides: A Singapore Wedding Directory for the Singapore Wedding Couples and http://flowerpod.com.sg in order to get feedback from a female perspective.

Hey Sam...give her a break lah. The fact that this thread is getting so much response means that we fuckers here don't mind to have her seeking advice here. Her problem has to do with sex...her husband needs for thrill in the office, his lover's need for the orgasms which she can't get from her hubby who may also be screwing around behind her back...and finally TS herself because of religion, old fashion upbringing, etc., may be a prude in bed.

See...it all boils down to sex! Too much or too little... I believe this thread not only may be useful to TS but to many of us too...sometimes our conscience needs to be prick every now and then!

[bunnyrabbit]

well let's look at this from another side..

all along the topic have been the husband infidelity..what about we look at her situation as well? maybe things have happen between them that we do not know about. her family pressure on him? extra incessant nagging about things that are not important? what makes a man escape from the house and reality is the challenges of having the pressure to meet expectations, yet the wife only knows how to expects more and more..

sometimes when the wife family problems crops up, the wife would wants the husband to solve it for her. this is all good provided that it is one that he can solved. if the wife starts blaming him cos he cannot solve it, thru no fault of his and not only once, do you think that he would want to explain and face it? we all know gals like to pin the blame on someone else instead of themselves, not all but most of them.

can you really blame the husband for eating out? yes this is wrong but when you are home wishing for someone to hear you out, what you get is nags plus problems of not your own? i rather stay away and work rather than go home..

it really takes along time for some thing to happen before a guy really stay away from his child and home. who does not want to see his child smile and hug him when he back from a days work?

[freebiez]

i have been the unfaithful one before and i came clean too...but after much fight n counselling, it still takes 2 hands to clap and the 2 of you must really work it out. we stuck with each other n managed to have a happier non fighting moment anymore...understand the needs n feelings of each other better after the huge fight.

1 more thing, wife gave me her 1st CIM n tries to wear more sexy lingerie than before..even better sex than before too...u might wanna give it a shot.

[Unrepented]

Originally Posted by adviseme

hi corny123

wish me well as i find my footing.
and cherish your gf. not many girls approve sbf. i can imagine the number of woman scorning at me for asking a bunch of chee kor peks (no offence) for help.

Hi,

I empathize anyone who is in your predicament.

1. For me, I do not take offence in your comment in the quote above. Men who don't post in the sbf are also chee kor peks. In a nutshell, out of 10 men, 9.5 are chee kor peks regardless whether they post here or not. Otherwise, where all babies come from? (except those thru artifical means). Difference in men lies in the skill and discipline in "Self Management and Impression Management".

2. Pertaining to your case, my advise is do not "Force or Threaten". Men's ego will not find it appatizing. And importantly, "Do not BEG" this will place you in a disadvantaged position, both current and future.

3. Remember Uncle Sam's "Tips for samsters"

[Frankiestine]

People Elvis has already left the building...time to let this thread die a natural death..

[tigerbob]

Hi,

Please don't feel sad about the issue. Afterall, it is your husband who is not fateful towards you. Just think about your 5 years son...he meant more than your useless husband...getting in an affairs with other woman.

I wish you the best...it would be good to end this relationship early if it really can't work it out.

[Lauteko]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

My advice to "adviseme" is to post your message in SingaporeBrides: A Singapore Wedding Directory for the Singapore Wedding Couples and http://flowerpod.com.sg in order to get feedback from a female perspective.

I do agree with sammyboyfor for this issue. Don't rely entirely on advise you received here. We are no expert. Many of us here are just more interested in juicy stuff instead of giving advise. But I do see some bros here giving some advise the best they know how. Again, it's not the best as prescribed by expert. Just take whatever given here with a pinch of salt.