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[iluvbreast]

Originally Posted by kryptoz

like what bro iluvbreast said, some women dont get orgasm from sex but can get it from grinding, fingering or toys.

question on the pregnancy, was it an abortion or miscarriage? as for condoms, it may be possible that they are too tight. try using ones that are >55mm.

Eh? I thought Redmys already said his wife went through an abortion? what were you thinking when you posting?

[iluvbreast]

Originally Posted by Redmys

Courtship was ok, like most couples normally do, she will initiate BJ at times and will do naughty things like blowing me while I was driving or suggest sex in public places. It was a time where we donÂ’t get much privacy because none of our parentÂ’s houses are friendly towards hanky panky, there are usually people at home. You know itÂ’s when you canÂ’t have it then you will think about it more and then builds the desire to initiate sex?

At one point she got pregnant and went through an abortion, I started to cut back on the times to have sex due to guilt. Sex dropped greatly after that and I donÂ’t do very well with condoms as I get soft easily after itÂ’s put on, I really wonder how some guys can be so horny and stay hard. And bro thanks for being sensitive about my sexual performance, I have to admit IÂ’m not the kind who can bang long and hard for 20-30mins. I spent most of my teens and early adult working and studying, I donÂ’t go clubbing or try and pick up girls. I have many female friends but I always try to do the right thing and make sure things remain as friends and donÂ’t escalate to FWB or more. With utmost honesty here, there are really girls who are attracted to me and I also had thought about it, I just didnÂ’t want to make things weird to take any actions.

After married for so many years, really donÂ’t feel that kind of desire anymore, especially when wife walks around naked at home and witnessing each otherÂ’s bathroom habits. Sometimes we just fart in front of each other, if you know what I mean? Felt like roommates / flat mates instead of lovers and most of the things we talk about are either money or work related.

I am not sure whether sheÂ’s lying about not achieving orgasm with me only or never encounter one at all in her life. She doesnÂ’t like getting licked down south or nipples sucked. The impressions I got is that she doesnÂ’t have any spots that are sensitive. Had tried to talk about it a few times in the past, she kept saying none, only suggested she like to be forced (what does this mean? For exp bros and sis if you can enlighten me). And a big clue I got was my wifeÂ’s ex is ang moh who fucks alot with her (and with other girls). He was her colleague at work, different dept and higher rank than her, and many occasions they will have 2-3hrs lunch to fuck in that guyÂ’s rented condo (since he is an expatriate). Maybe she like big tool males and donÂ’t dare to tell me and hurt my ego?

She was my 3rd girlfriend before becoming my wife, my past relationship are mostly long term and lost my V to 2nd girlfriend. We are not sexually active also. I am a normal guy who gets turn on sexy girls and watching porn, only thing is I really donÂ’t know how to satisfy girls and be a good lover in the bedroom.

I engaged in paid services yesterday thinking I will have a great time, but end up it was the same thing as how I have sex at home. The only difference is the FL is committed to making me feel good while with wife it should be mutual. I paid for 2 shots but couldnÂ’t finish the 2nd shot. 1st shot lasted 1min after penetration.

I really envy couples that can live together and still engage in intimacy.

Well I don't have your experience....so I can only guess perhaps deep down you still feel the guilt about the abortion? It seems logical right? after all (I assume) you have children now and that could be one of them?

I read that your wife would initiate BJs, public sex, naughty things according to you. Then what about you? Did you initiate or suggested anything?

Condoms this much I can share with you, so did you try everything in the market before you said you don't do very well with condoms? I can tell you I did, and why not? It is like wear clothes, you must try it. Some don't like the latex small, some don't like the Japanese brand (like me I find them pretty tight ), some don't like the British brand etc etc, the thing, you should try them all.

You mentioned your wife walks around the house naked ...(lucky you, I wish my mrs would do that ) then? don't just you go up to her to give her a hug and fondle her? I mean those are parts you have exclusive access to isn't it?

You said your wife like to be forced, maybe what she means is she prefers to submit herself to you...so just have sex with her when you are ready and don't ask her if she feels good while you are doing it? After all you are forcing right?

[kryptoz]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

Eh? I thought Redmys already said his wife went through an abortion? what were you thinking when you posting?

if the baby is stillborn, then it would need to be aborted. like what you mentioned in your following post, then it may cause guilt/sadness/grieve.

[Redmys]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

Eh? I thought Redmys already said his wife went through an abortion? what were you thinking when you posting?

Ya it was an abortion.

[Redmys]

Originally Posted by iluvbreast

Well I don't have your experience....so I can only guess perhaps deep down you still feel the guilt about the abortion? It seems logical right? after all (I assume) you have children now and that could be one of them?

I read that your wife would initiate BJs, public sex, naughty things according to you. Then what about you? Did you initiate or suggested anything?

Condoms this much I can share with you, so did you try everything in the market before you said you don't do very well with condoms? I can tell you I did, and why not? It is like wear clothes, you must try it. Some don't like the latex small, some don't like the Japanese brand (like me I find them pretty tight ), some don't like the British brand etc etc, the thing, you should try them all.

You mentioned your wife walks around the house naked ...(lucky you, I wish my mrs would do that ) then? don't just you go up to her to give her a hug and fondle her? I mean those are parts you have exclusive access to isn't it?

You said your wife like to be forced, maybe what she means is she prefers to submit herself to you...so just have sex with her when you are ready and don't ask her if she feels good while you are doing it? After all you are forcing right?

No children at the moment, not planning one for multiple reasons.

I’ll try my best to initiate sex at home. Still sorting out the mental issues that I’m having knowing that my wife might be unfaithful. I tried to take revenge and balance the scales last week by going to FL dome 1 and paid a whore for sex, thinking I will have a great time etc. Sadly it didn’t really help and I think the money can be well utilized in other areas. I guess some things are not for everybody as I needed emotional connection to engage in sex. I seemed to lose this connection with wife, hence although I have exclusive access to her, I am not turned on at all.

[tsar666]

Originally Posted by Redmys

No children at the moment, not planning one for multiple reasons.

I’ll try my best to initiate sex at home. Still sorting out the mental issues that I’m having knowing that my wife might be unfaithful. I tried to take revenge and balance the scales last week by going to FL dome 1 and paid a whore for sex, thinking I will have a great time etc. Sadly it didn’t really help and I think the money can be well utilized in other areas. I guess some things are not for everybody as I needed emotional connection to engage in sex. I seemed to lose this connection with wife, hence although I have exclusive access to her, I am not turned on at all.

it’s best to solidify your doubts bro on matter of infidelity at your wife’s end, in regards to your own’s choice as to get it on with FL to balancing things out…hoped prep yourself with the logic of 2 way streets or what goes around comes around. I’d say to be upfront is the best route, gotta be delicate on handling this sort of situation. Best come with a plan and crap loads of contingencies should the returning answer comes without hesitation.

forgive never forget, it should prepp you better in days to come, should you never fail to learn mistakes you’ve been thru..till then have a good sin bud

[BoxerBoy]

Originally Posted by Redmys

No children at the moment, not planning one for multiple reasons.

I’ll try my best to initiate sex at home. Still sorting out the mental issues that I’m having knowing that my wife might be unfaithful. I tried to take revenge and balance the scales last week by going to FL dome 1 and paid a whore for sex, thinking I will have a great time etc. Sadly it didn’t really help and I think the money can be well utilized in other areas. I guess some things are not for everybody as I needed emotional connection to engage in sex. I seemed to lose this connection with wife, hence although I have exclusive access to her, I am not turned on at all.

Bro, u should change your mindset that external med are there to enhance your sex life, better than zero sex. VirRed is a med to make you even harder, delay spray is to help u last longer in sex. All these will help to gain back your confident when you see your wife begging for more or when she is surprised by your sudden change and urging for more.

Blue wiz all these are colourless, to help your wife got more sex urge, but whether she will initiate sex or not, is another issue. I understand that you want to have more feeling in order to stay hard during sex and enjoy more, but a change of mentality like trying out sex toy, making your wife like a sex slave in bed, bdsm might help u enjoy and view sex in a different way. Perhaps some changes to the normal sex life between you and your wife might helps to create new interest in sex.

Personally I got no issue to get hard during sex, but I still use Vigred, delay spray and sex toy during my session with my gf, to enjoy sex to fullest. Really no harm trying all these bro.

As for spending money on FL, my advise is u want play no issue, but dun bring any disease back to your wife. Since visiting FL is not an issue to you, why not try out the things I mentioned on your wife to see any improvement?

[iluvbreast]

Redmys,

I think you have a lot going through your mind right now, after reading your post(s), I suspect you are drained psychologically by suspecting your wife maybe be seeing someone outside, and she like white men with big cock while you think your member is undersized...

Go read up on wikipedia, there is no significant difference in the penile size across races...probably if you are large size then I suppose the dick will be longer?...I was in a turkish bath and I have seen some ang mohs with smaller dicks compare to mine, even though we are about the same height.

The eastern european ladies I fucked (working and non-working) were pretty tight, I mean can you imagine if they were take in a massive dick?

If you don't mind me asking (again), do you initiate sex with your girlfriends (your first, second and third, who is now your wife) or most of the time do initiate sex with them or you are the passive type who wait for them to hint to you or ask you to have sex?

Regarding your post about having a great time by going for commercial sex...welcome to the real world. The working lady is not committed to let you have a good time...they are there to earn your money, it makes sense doesn't it?

You are maybe 1 of many men fucking her that day, do you think they still enjoy having sex with you? Put it this way, if she can let you cum within a minute she will try to finish you in 30s by simulating you more...makes the job easier.

I humbly suggest maybe to see a doctor (about your psychological health) or google some sex therapist? Please don't think of it as something shameful or weird, it is pretty much like sending your car to the mechanic is something is wrong otherwise how do you get it fixed?

My own experience was there was a period I was having low to no libido, so I went to see my family doc, who examine me physically, taking blood pressure, checking my heartbeat and if I was on long term medication as well as my job, lifestyle etc etc.

He diagnosed that I was probably under a lot of stress to the point that I was not even resting well...so he prescribed me with some medicine to help me sleep better and some Viagra and told me to take the sleeping medicine for a 3 nights to sleep better, and wait 24-48 hours before having sex, and take 1/2 a Viagra before fucking.

Turns out the doctor was right, because according to him, the Viagra only helps to make the blood flow better, so more blood to the penis then erection is better, and there wasn't anything wrong with me physically, my problem is psychological, I could get some counselling if I want to.

[iluvbreast]

Originally Posted by kryptoz

if the baby is stillborn, then it would need to be aborted. like what you mentioned in your following post, then it may cause guilt/sadness/grieve.

From his post I think it can hardly be a case of stillborn.

[Splitter100]

What other fetish you have for wife?

Bra pics
Panty pics
Sex pics
Showering pics
Public Exposure
Drunk pics
Changing pics
Sleeping sex
Sleeping pics
Lingerie wear at home

What else?

[LoveForTuaNehBu]

Haiz I also very sian twice or thrice in 4 years .. even ask me to go find girls outside to settle if needed... Idk how the marriage can sustain with a kid as well....

Really no sex for a high libido guy is a very big torture.
.. eating outside have feel but can't eat that often ..

[Splitter100]

Originally Posted by LoveForTuaNehBu

Haiz I also very sian twice or thrice in 4 years .. even ask me to go find girls outside to settle if needed... Idk how the marriage can sustain with a kid as well....

Really no sex for a high libido guy is a very big torture.
.. eating outside have feel but can't eat that often ..

You have license to eat outside
Good wife

[darylcch]

Originally Posted by mikestc

Hi,
Married man..just want to know how often do you have sex with your spouse? For me i have it 2 times in a week... so far satisfied la... wife also ok with the frequency since we both busy at work and kids

Really depend
- how long have you been married
If u say u just married and 2 times per week.. then u very lousy
If u say u already married for 10 years.. 2 times per week is a godsend

[X30R]

Man marries woman thinking she will never change.
Woman marries man, thinking he will change.

They both end up being wrong.
Haizzz

[LoveForTuaNehBu]

Originally Posted by Splitter100

You have license to eat outside
Good wife

If your wife say you dare? Haha... They say 女人都是口是心非。。

Dunno whether it's a test or what not.. really mental torture