My Current Situation

[D-joker]

I seldom post on sammyboy but after reading ur story, i start to think abt my old days. Think some of us will really understand what u r going thru nw as we hav also go thru the same thing. And the story almost everytime same 1. Very sweet, romantic yet very sad. Sometimes u will even hav the 相见恨晚 feeling. Nvrtheless, for me i choose to follow my big brain n b rational. Hw many pple in sg marry ktv gal n go happy ever after. Of coz hav but percentage very low... Which is y i choose to leave my gal at that time. And after tat, i banned myself from ktv n even if i go, i will nt call gal coz i very scared of getting into the same shit once again. I knw if i go into the same shit again, i may nt b tat lucky this time round. So nw i m happily marry with my wife with 1 kid. Anyway, jz hope tat u make a choice tat u wont regret. Its ur life, make ur choice.

[acidicavex]

Originally Posted by D-joker

Sometimes u will even hav the 相见恨晚 feeling.

Same thought bro

[japboy]

[Junmai]

Have u asked yourself what is the objective u are looking for?

Put yourself in the gal shoes and see what are the things u want in life. Go with your head and heart!

Me too arrived at this very junction and faced with the options to choose which directions? I hope your decision to come make u a happy guy in the future.

[D-joker]

Originally Posted by acidicavex

Same thought bro

Then also hav the 问世间情为何物， 只叫人生死相聚 and 天长地久有明尽，此情绵绵无绝期feeling too. Nowadays i always sing 大哥 to remind myself i cant go on those old ktv life and 梦醒时分 to savage those good old memories...

回忆过去，痛苦的相思忘不了。
为何你还来波动我心跳。
爱你怎么忘了，今夜的你该明了。
缘难了，情难了。

[RobinGL]

Been BZ this week with tons of work. My Team is back working hard and will have less time writing. Nevertheless, will find time to write. For those brothers who advice me, i will keep that in mind.

Thank you readers.

[KLGL]

I read through your entire thread and will continue to read your newer postings, thanks for sharing your experience. Hopefully more of us here will be able to draw a clear line between commercial and genuine relationships.

The affected kids that will stand to lose a lot. It is also very tough for them especially during growing up through teenage years to be without either motherly or fatherly tender loving care. I'm speaking from personal experience.

Best of luck bro, do keep us updated.

[japboy]

somethings are never meant to be....

you met her at the wrong place at the right time.... like my frenz said.. you found a cow on the way back but dun bring the cow home....

in this kind of situation, do let your big head take over... first and foremost your wife and kids will be the most affected.. next will be your family as your in-laws will blast your parents and everyone..

lastly, it'll be you... you are gonna live with the stigma of marrying a ktv gal (should you choose otherwise) for the rest of your life... it will not be easy for you and her.. i've seen such cases and ppl pointing behind their back and gossiping...

not to say that all KTV gals are bad or whatever but if you have not known her past and probably you can start a clean slate... but she also has a kid of which she's held ransom by her hubby in chine and it's a bottomless pit...

best way to break it off is for her visa to expire and let her go back and then time will heal everything.. hopefully....

[owl888]

Originally Posted by japboy

best way to break it off is for her visa to expire and let her go back and then time will heal everything.. hopefully....

TS said 2 years WP....so gonna b a long long time loh

[japboy]

Originally Posted by owl888

TS said 2 years WP....so gonna b a long long time loh

Sala.. The story started from oct 2010.. ONI 1 yr nia...

[smartke]

Originally Posted by owl888

TS said 2 years WP....so gonna b a long long time loh

agree... she jus came bk in Mar 2011.

so, if she got 2yrs WP, siao liao... really long long time to go...

[RobinGL]

Dear Bro,

My purpose of this threat is to highlight the danger for KC. This could lead you into deeper relationship which it is too late to salvage.

Many think that after their visa expire everything will be fine. But this is not the case. It the begining of the trouble. Never underestimate the power of women.

I will contine later, need to rush progress report, if not company got no money to pay my salary.

[RobinGL]

Continue………..
Three months in Singapore and she is going back for her son birthday. On the day before she left, she work till 3 am while I am doing the packing up for her. I know that she will be back as she make very little money during the three months. I was broke at that time and she dare not ask me for money. Most of the money was loss in CASINO.

She brings with her about a thousand dollars only. I promise that I will remit some money during pay day and she agreed. I have sex with her the last time before sending her to the airport and it was 4am and her flight was 6am.
While at the airport, I have the feeling of losing her and she will never be back. I thought she will cry when we separate but I end up crying. I know that I am going to miss her. Time up and time for her to board the flight and I hugged her hard before she go.

I went back home with her remain things in my car and now it time for me to make up to my family. I went home every day except for genuine overseas assignment. Once at home, I will be moody and I felt loss. Being the facts that my wife nagged a lot about my work and keep asking me for money. (never tell your wife too much about your work and let her know how much you earn)

I keep thinking about her and I called her at least three times a day. At first I thought that the love will die off but instead it glows stronger. She stayed with her parent and every day she would go gamble with the neighbour. She spend money like nobody business but lucky she win a lot when she is there.

In her absence, I cheong intensively with my buddies but I stopped calling gals to sit with me as I am afraid that she know. There are some changes in me and I felt that KTV is no longer fun. Suring the one month, I was like hell as my mind keep thinking about her. I either work late or go cheong. Sometime, I ended up in the pub drinking alone.

She promise to come back in three weeks but ended up a month. Before she came back, she told me that she need money and the money was supposed to pay for the rental but was remit to her. I waited and waited for her confirmation to come back. I even when around looking for house but was unable to secure the house as she need the money

Every day was so slow for me and week after week pass and finally she asked me to booked for a tickets. I was overjoyed and booked for a ticket but was cancel was she told me that she is extending her stay because of her son.

Finally she is coming back before my birthday, I quickly booked a ticket for her and waited for her return. On the night before she return, she came to the town and check into a hotel for the night, I talk on the phone with her whole night as she is afraid being alone in the hotel.

The day finally arrived and I keep looking at my watch while working, I took half day leave to fetch her but my boss want be at the office at 7pm for a dinner with a client. WTF so coincidence.

I arrived at the airport an hour early just in case her flight arrived early which I know it never would. I keep looking at the screen and finally her flight landed. I waited excitedly and keep looking around to spot her. …………

[Iemanishere]

Bro, we all love it and can't wait for more.. Cheers

[RobinGL]

Continues……………
I cannot find her and was looking around anxiety, suddenly someone tapped on my shoulder and I turned around and saw her. She was hiding from me and upon seeing her I kissed her and hugged her hard. I was very happy to see her. We hold hand all the way to the car park and inside the car we began to kiss each other.

I sent her to our rental room (I resort to borrow money to pay for the rental). She was tired and I have to rush for the dinner. I assured her that I will be back early to love her (get what in my mind). I have a quick dinner with my client, at that moment I find the client long winded and every time he talk, I look at my watch. Time to go and I speed back to our rental room.

When I come back, she is all dress up ready for work.

M: Lau Po, where are you going?
S: Working
M: what the rush, you just touch down today.
S: no money
M: take a rest today lah.

She hugged me and play with my 2ic, I am very disappointed then and had a quick sex with her. I dun enjoy that kind of sex as I know that she had sex with me just to pacify me. She shows me the undies that she had bought for me. Total of six undies and one of them is red in colour. I was very disappointed that she is going to work. I dress up and wait for her.

S: Lau Gong, you angry issit?
M: No, but very disappointed.
S: (Half way through her make up), ok lah, I accompany you ok. Dun be angry.
M: (the whole atmosphere already gone but I still want her to accompany me)
S: I undress again.

We talked about her son, her family and she show me video of her hometown. We were talking non-stop in bed naked. As I do not enjoy the first sex, I did it again.

Two days later was my birthday, my buddies planned for my birthday. We had dinner cum KTV. One day before my birthday, this customer of her call her and date her out on my birthday. She asked me permission as this customer always give her big tips.

The next day when I back from work.

S: Lau Gong, my customer date me out on your birthday. Can I go?
M: Silent
S: Angry issit?
M: Of course lah, it my birthday your know. My buddies wanted to celebrate with me.
S: But he my big customer.
M: Then you asked him to marry you.
S: That day, I packed up my clothes and she begged me not to.
(She always have a way with me, as she know my weakness)
S: Ok, I dun go.

The next day was my birthday……..and early in the morning I received a call from my two kids.

Kids: Daddy, Happy Birthday.
M: Thank you so much and I love both of you. Give daddy a kiss.
Kids: muccccccccccch
Kids: Daddy, you coming home for dinner?
M: Pause for a while. Errrrrrr daddy wont be home but promise to bring you out on Saturday ok.
Kids: promise
M: promise

It brighten my day after receiving the call, the clock tick and soon it is time for celebration……I drove back to our rental house.

M: Lau Po, I’m back.
S: Happy Birthday, Lau Gong (and she kiss me)
M: Are you ready. We have to go now, I’m going to be late
S: Lau Kong, I have something to say.
M: (Happy Mood and I though she going to give me a surprise)
S: My customer called again and I promise him that I will be there. But I will go dinner with you.
M: WTF, you promise me and you let me down, you need money issit?
S: Dun be angry ok.
M: how not to be angry, I took my car key and left the house and she was chasing behind
S: I already turn the customer down and dun be angry.
M: silent

During the journey we did not talk. We arrived at the restaurant and pretend to be happy, I was late and guess what………..(I mention before, answer on next posting). We very chatting and laughter, some of my buddies “Tao Bao” to the KTV. As my buddies know her, she chatted a lot with my buddies.

I am so fed up and do not what her to be with me. Spoil my mood twice within a span of three days. I told her that she can go and accompany her customers. She keep asking me I will not get angry and call her customer. I pretend not to.

After our dinner, we proceed to the KTV and my buddies were walking ahead of us. She took a taxi to meet the customer. While inside the life, my buddies asked where she is and I told them that a customer date her.

KNN, my “Ta Ge” birthday and she not around. Why that customer got money we dun have issit. Can her come back, we each pound 100. In order to save her face, I told my buddies that she want me to enjoy without her around.

While inside the KTV, mu buddies could see that I am moody as I drink a lot quietly. I pretend to be happy and even fool can see thru. I sms her.

M: You go and die and I am going to call many gals.
No reply

Within five minutes, I sat with three gals…………..