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in my personal opinion...VB placed son as no. 1 and daughter as no. 2 in their priorities...
if you are referring to helping her own family in Vn while kids are young then yes...this will happened...
But in the event of a divorce with foreigner husband, they will always want the daughter as the daughter will be money spinning machine for them when she grows up
Nowadays, a lot of VBs are working in the food courts, but how many take out portion of their money to help their own family (children and husband)? All worked because they need to send money back to VN every month. I have also seen numerous VBs who have viet bf but yet lie to their Singapore husbands that the viet guy is her relative in VN. Overboard to the extend of bringing the viet bf over to Singapore.
One can say i am very negative about VBs, but it will also have to depend on what are your expectations of your viet spouse. I have been married with my bx for over 11 years, have 3 kids, my bx already got her Singapore passport since 2009. Constant contact with Vietnamese due to my business in VN. Seen and experienced too much of them. It took me many years to change the thinking of my bx, but i do it through REASONING. I will explain to her about what is correct and show it to her via news reports and other real life examples. I keep my wife posted on the latest international , Asia and Singapore news. My wife watches Phoenix Chinese News Channel daily daily for news and to further improve her Mandarin. I see so many Singapore man being controlled totally by their viet spouse. What we Singapore man see are mostly acted infront of us, when these VBs come together, they will show their true colours and talk about how much `money` they have digged from their Singapore husbands and whether they have other bfs outside. Yes, there are some good ones there but its really rare to find one.
Agreed with you but how much to give and how much to take, it really hard to measure. I never force my BX to agree with me all the while but I wanted her to respect my decision. If my decision at fault, let me know where Im at fault.
I had few friends which married VB and I told them to tell them what you want and what you can provide 1st before marriage. If not, they will be no peace in the family. One didn't heed my advice, in the end, end up full of credit card debts and now waiting for him to wake up (from his dream) and divorce with his BX.
Its good to let the VB know what she can expect after marriage, but often, the life they are having are still better than what they have in VN province. If any Singapore man can tell his bx that he will not give monthly allowances to her family and not help her family to buy motorbike or build house, i am sure the VB will not want to marry the Singapore man too. I know of a few Singapore man who always sing praises of their Viet spouse and always say their bx never take money from them. But as time passes by, they will leak some info like they have to give allowances monthly, buy motorbike for her family and even build house for them. Everybody wants face, but to the extend of that is too much. Think about it, if the money for building houses and buying bikes are saved up, the Singaporean husband and her VB can have a much better life. I always say why Singaporean husbands are always broke, wife cannot help in family expenses but yet need to give to her family. Still got extra request for house and bike, earn also not enough for them to spend. Children educated wrongly, do badly in school. With all these, so how to expect Singaporeans to look up on us? All these years, i have friends and relatives who asked me why i married VB? They looked down on me. But they all think otherwise now with my kids receiving academic excellence awards yearly, i staying in condo and driving new cars. This is possible because my wife and i share common goals and we work towards it.
In reality, a happy marriage, both parties need to give and take.
Depending, some husbands will give more while others, wives will give more. It is always very difficult to force someone to agree with u all the while.
Totally agree with you. They must also have a common goal and work towards it.
But they all think otherwise now with my kids receiving academic excellence awards yearly, i staying in condo and driving new cars. This is possible because my wife and i share common goals and we work towards it.
congratulations on your children academic success...cheers...
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congratulations on your children academic success...cheers...
Bro, not easy hor. P1 to P3 , I give tuition. Now at P4, i have problems trying to understand their maths, its so different from our time. Thus have to engage tutor. Investing in children's education is our responsibility.
Known a VB. When I leave HCM call me and ask for V20m for a bike.
Tell her off...... You got a bike a already... How many you want.....
I almost call her a liar........
They literally took as Singaporeans as ATM. Some meet lousy man and hated Singaporeans.
Must learn to outsmart them, but base on my assessment, most Singaporean cannot tame them.
Recently message me say sad and lonely......I just tell her I recommend a bf for you.
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Originally Posted by SingViet
Its good to let the VB know what she can expect after marriage, but often, the life they are having are still better than what they have in VN province. If any Singapore man can tell his bx that he will not give monthly allowances to her family and not help her family to buy motorbike or build house, i am sure the VB will not want to marry the Singapore man too. I know of a few Singapore man who always sing praises of their Viet spouse and always say their bx never take money from them. But as time passes by, they will leak some info like they have to give allowances monthly, buy motorbike for her family and even build house for them. Everybody wants face, but to the extend of that is too much. Think about it, if the money for building houses and buying bikes are saved up, the Singaporean husband and her VB can have a much better life. I always say why Singaporean husbands are always broke, wife cannot help in family expenses but yet need to give to her family. Still got extra request for house and bike, earn also not enough for them to spend. Children educated wrongly, do badly in school. With all these, so how to expect Singaporeans to look up on us? All these years, i have friends and relatives who asked me why i married VB? They looked down on me. But they all think otherwise now with my kids receiving academic excellence awards yearly, i staying in condo and driving new cars. This is possible because my wife and i share common goals and we work towards it.
Know a Vietnamese beer lady in Tampines. She told me she single and friend me with Facebook. Saw a photo of her in wedding gown.....
Later I found out she is married. Fucking liar.
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Originally Posted by SingViet
Nowadays, a lot of VBs are working in the food courts, but how many take out portion of their money to help their own family (children and husband)? All worked because they need to send money back to VN every month. I have also seen numerous VBs who have viet bf but yet lie to their Singapore husbands that the viet guy is her relative in VN. Overboard to the extend of bringing the viet bf over to Singapore.
One can say i am very negative about VBs, but it will also have to depend on what are your expectations of your viet spouse. I have been married with my bx for over 11 years, have 3 kids, my bx already got her Singapore passport since 2009. Constant contact with Vietnamese due to my business in VN. Seen and experienced too much of them. It took me many years to change the thinking of my bx, but i do it through REASONING. I will explain to her about what is correct and show it to her via news reports and other real life examples. I keep my wife posted on the latest international , Asia and Singapore news. My wife watches Phoenix Chinese News Channel daily daily for news and to further improve her Mandarin. I see so many Singapore man being controlled totally by their viet spouse. What we Singapore man see are mostly acted infront of us, when these VBs come together, they will show their true colours and talk about how much `money` they have digged from their Singapore husbands and whether they have other bfs outside. Yes, there are some good ones there but its really rare to find one.
But in the event of a divorce with foreigner husband, they will always want the daughter as the daughter will be money spinning machine for them when she grows up
Bro,u long time no post but once u post,is always full of 'punch' of hard truth of Vietnamese which i always nod my head and agreed.
Know a Vietnamese beer lady in Tampines. She told me she single and friend me with Facebook. Saw a photo of her in wedding gown.....
Later I found out she is married. Fucking liar.
Dont be mad,telling lies is a norm for them cos they dont find themself wrong in telling lies and most will twist and turn when they know u found out the truth haha
Ask them to apologise,haha hard loh,their vietnamese 'pride' is stronger than anything
Known a VB. When I leave HCM call me and ask for V20m for a bike.
Tell her off...... You got a bike a already... How many you want.....
I almost call her a liar........
They literally took as Singaporeans as ATM. Some meet lousy man and hated Singaporeans.
Must learn to outsmart them, but base on my assessment, most Singaporean cannot tame them.
Recently message me say sad and lonely......I just tell her I recommend a bf for you.
Know this vb and recently I went to her kampong stayed over night. Her parent house really cramp, no bed room, many people stay. I volunteered to buy her a bike but she said her priority is a nha rieng because really no place to stay. I asked her to find out the cost and let me know but she worried I can't cope.. that is the story.
Know this vb and recently I went to her kampong stayed over night. Her parent house really cramp, no bed room, many people stay. I volunteered to buy her a bike but she said her priority is a nha rieng because really no place to stay. I asked her to find out the cost and let me know but she worried I can't cope.. that is the story.
You should be a really rich fellow. You should be the VB's HERO
02-07-2014, 01:36 PM
Children educated wrongly, do badly in school. With all these, so how to expect Singaporeans to look up on us? All these years, i have friends and relatives who asked me why i married VB? They looked down on me. But they all think otherwise now with my kids receiving academic excellence awards yearly, i staying in condo and driving new cars. This is possible because my wife and i share common goals and we work towards it.
