Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by volcano

it shld be child care centre...depends on whether if its local or foreign.
normal local child care is quite cheap...mostly less then 2 mills..

foreign child care can be abt 500 Usd.

volcano kor kor...thank you sharing ha...

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by Seletar

Volcano kor kor,
My vb send her 3 years old boy to school everyday

Which of your vb got a boy liao? Never heard before. New find?

[curious76]

A growing number of marriages between Singaporean men and Vietnamese women are ending speedily in annulment, lawyers say.

Some men claim their wives ran away just days after the wedding, before consummating the marriage.

Many have told lawyers their brides refuse to have sex, demanded payment for it, or said sex would have to wait until after the women obtain permanent residence here.

One man saw a lawyer to dissolve his marriage after his bride asked for $80 to have sex the first time.

Most men feel the women just want to work here, and are not interested in the marriage.

Source: ST

[jackbl]

Originally Posted by jackbl

I dun understand some words here. Can KT or someone help out in the following words which I can't find in dictionary? Thanks

đũ đe
đũ đễ sắc xao

Originally Posted by profx

I think most likely is write wrong, should be "đủ đễ sắc sảo"

Originally Posted by profx

" I'm not a beautiful nor ugly girl . But I'm falling in loving u . I'm waiting for your love . Why don't u do things that I hope. I feel regret when I love u so much . I love u more than I love myself . Why I am so stupid like that . Maybe , my love is not enough for u ,?? How can I help u to forget your ex gf ?? I try my best to do that ... I'm sorry I can not control my emotion . I dun want your pitiful love .

Hi Profx,
So can I say that đũ đe=falling; Chua đủ đễ sắc sảo= not enough???

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by curious76

A growing number of marriages between Singaporean men and Vietnamese women are ending speedily in annulment, lawyers say.

Some men claim their wives ran away just days after the wedding, before consummating the marriage.

Many have told lawyers their brides refuse to have sex, demanded payment for it, or said sex would have to wait until after the women obtain permanent residence here.

One man saw a lawyer to dissolve his marriage after his bride asked for $80 to have sex the first time.

Most men feel the women just want to work here, and are not interested in the marriage.

Source: ST

this type of news makes genuine marriage between Sinkee men and Viet women much tougher in Sinkie land...haizzzz....bad press...

[profx]

My guess for "du de" in 1st sentence is "enough to"
Du de iu a roi = enough to fall in love already

"chua du de sac sao" i read as "not good enough"

I cannot handle the sign well so always read without it.

Originally Posted by jackbl

Hi Profx,
So can I say that đũ đe=falling; Chua đủ đễ sắc sảo= not enough???

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by profx

My guess for "du de" in 1st sentence is "enough to"
Du de iu a roi = enough to fall in love already

"chua du de sac sao" i read as "not good enough"

you mentioned you started learning TV in March 2014...now your tieng viet looks not too bad...

Originally Posted by profx

Since after i meet her and ask her to be my gf, she said she want but only condition is no sex. So i am wondering if she the type who is very conservative girl who does not want pre-martial sex. That is why i ask her if she is a virgin. But to my surprised she is not.

what happened to this online dating gal...any update...

[profx]

Because keep chatting with VBs online, write easier but difficult to pronounce.

She ask for school fee in exchange to bed her, i drop her and change target. These days mainly meet student for language exchange.

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

you mentioned you started learning TV in March 2014...now your tieng viet looks not too bad...


what happened to this online dating gal...any update...

[lanpar]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

this type of news makes genuine marriage between Sinkee men and Viet women much tougher in Sinkie land...haizzzz....bad press...

It is the social responsibility of the press to remind both ignorant and sincere Singaporean men to tread the Wetnam relationship path with caution.

Furthermore, thesundaytimes even mentioned that the issue of Vietnamese women and their short-lived marriages have been reported in Vietnam itself. This renders a certain degree of objectivity in the newspaper report and not just simply a one-sided VB-bashing.

Besides hearing from many cheongsters' sharing in this forum, we are getting the picture from the Singapore lawyers who have experiences working directly on the marriage annulment cases.

With new initiatives aimed at transnational marriages, hopefully we will see genuine relationships between Singaporean men and Vietnamese women prevailing more in the long run.

[curious76]

More Viet women's marriages annulled
Singapore men tell lawyers wives refuse sex unless they are paid or can get PR

By Theresa Tan

A growing number of marriages between Singaporean men and Vietnamese women are ending speedily in annulment, lawyers say.
Some men claim their wives ran away just days after the wedding, before consummating the marriage.

Many have told lawyers their brides refuse to have sex, demanded payment for it, or said sex would have to wait until after the women obtain permanent residence here.
One man saw a lawyer to dissolve his marriage after his bride asked for $80 to have sex the first time.

Most men feel the women just want to work here, and are not interested in the marriage.
Some annulments are initiated by the Vietnamese women too, also on the grounds of non-consummation of the marriage.

The Sunday Times checked with 10 lawyers who handle family matters. Most have seen a sharp rise in the number of annulments involving Vietnamese women in recent years.
They also said that over the past few years, the number of annulments involving Vietnamese women far outnumbered cases where the women were of other nationalities, such as those from China, Myanmar and Thailand.

There is no breakdown by nationality in publicly available data on annulments.
The issue of Vietnamese women and their short-lived marriages has been reported in Vietnam itself. In August, Tuoi Tre newspaper had a report headlined "When foreign husbands fall victim to Vietnamese brides".

It said that some Vietnamese sought foreign husbands in countries such as China and South Korea, and would walk out when they were not happy and look for another foreign husband.
The report said these women wanted foreign husbands "merely for money" and some had been married three times in short order.

In Singapore, lawyer Gloria James-Civetta, who handles a few such cases a month - double what she used to see - told The Sunday Times: "I feel that some of these women are using marriage to get into Singapore, to either look for a better match (than the man they married) or to find work here.

"It's very common for the men to tell me that their Vietnamese wives do not want to have sex with them until they get permanent residency."

A blue-collar man in his 30s told her he had to wait for sex while he applied for permanent residency for his Vietnamese wife. When the application was rejected and his bride refused to consummate the marriage for a few months, he decided to annul the union.

Other lawyers have dealt with Vietnamese women seeking annulments. The women usually turn up with new Singaporean boyfriends who pay their legal fees.

Lawyer Beatrice Yeo said: "These women are young, pretty and trendy, with many carrying Chanel or Louis Vuitton bags. They claim their husbands did not want to touch them or have sex.
"We can only warn them not to lie. Beyond that, we really don't know if they had sex with their husbands."

Her firm has seen a surge in such cases in the past year and she now handles five to six annulments a month involving a Vietnamese wife.

Lawyers also suspect that some marriages could be shams, with the women paying the men to marry them in order to stay here for work, usually in the vice trade.

Lawyers said the unions run into trouble swiftly, with many men - usually blue-collar workers in their 30s to 50s - seeking legal help barely months into the marriage.
Some of the couples were introduced by friends or marriage brokers, while others met online.

Most married after just a few meetings or a few months.
Some men tell the lawyers they were shocked to find their runaway brides working in the sex trade.
Ms Yeo had a client, a professional in his 30s, whose marriage unravelled within weeks. His attractive Vietnamese bride, in her 20s, would not return home for days on end and he did not know what she was up to. When he found her working as a masseuse, he annulled the marriage.

Ms Yeo feels the authorities should look into the issue. "Some foreigners may be making use of annulment as a quick way to get out of their marriage if they feel they cannot get any benefits from it," she said.

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[curious76]

Originally Posted by volcano

troi oi Uncle Seletar...u call me kor kor........wu siao bo


it shld be child care centre...depends on whether if its local or foreign.

normal local child care is quite cheap...mostly less then 2 mills..

foreign child care can be abt 500 Usd.

May I know how much those teacher who is working there get?

[Kim91]

Originally Posted by lanpar

With new initiatives aimed at transnational marriages, hopefully we will see genuine relationships between Singaporean men and Vietnamese women prevailing more in the long run.

Thats why ica now allow potential couple to submit applications before marriage so that the girl know if got chance to get ltvp or pr not.. reduce sham marriage...

[curious76]

Originally Posted by Kim91

Thats why ica now allow potential couple to submit applications before marriage so that the girl know if got chance to get ltvp or pr not.. reduce sham marriage...

Is all depends the guy got pay a lot of taxes.. If he like yangyin pay taxes to govt his spouse will get pr no matter if she educated or not

[BronzeGod]

Originally Posted by volcano

troi oi Uncle Seletar...u call me kor kor........wu siao bo


it shld be child care centre...depends on whether if its local or foreign.

normal local child care is quite cheap...mostly less then 2 mills..

foreign child care can be abt 500 Usd.

Just returned you +11 bro.

Thanks for the up.

Any bros want to exchange, just up me and I will return favour as soon as I can

[sunhuan-con]

Originally Posted by curious76

A growing number of marriages between Singaporean men and Vietnamese women are ending speedily in annulment, lawyers say.

Some men claim their wives ran away just days after the wedding, before consummating the marriage.

Many have told lawyers their brides refuse to have sex, demanded payment for it, or said sex would have to wait until after the women obtain permanent residence here.

One man saw a lawyer to dissolve his marriage after his bride asked for $80 to have sex the first time.

Most men feel the women just want to work here, and are not interested in the marriage.

Source: ST

This news will affect those matchmaking business.