FB - Should I accept?

[steamer]

to the threadstarter,

as long as both understand the rules of engagemnt of being fbs and abide by these rules. Feelings are fine as long as you keep them under control and knw that you can never cross the line.
And also dun forget discretion is paramount.

Juz sharing experience.

[block11]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

You already answered the question yourselves with the above statement. If you cannot separate out your emotions then you are only heading for trouble..

must agree with bro monster... its a no no for married ladies without prior experience in FBs or flings. clear your heart of emotions before you decide

[audisingapore]

Hi TS,
What is your needs?
If your needs is sexual satisfaction then I suggest the following

1. Get yourself a prepaid sim card
2. Get yourself registered with any online dating

there you can find FB without commitment and he do not know
you and you do not know him and chances of meeting again very rare.

Do be a FB with someone who know you that may haunt you
later.

[maclye]

Hi TS,

serious consideration hav to be taken care of when u make ur decision. 1st of all, wats wrong with u and ur hubby? no more love? did u 2 talk over? mayb u just need to put in a bit of an effort to find out why? there is no way a man in this world that do not like sex unless his brother is not functioning well or impotence. so talk over ur problems with him, see is things get better...

A FB needs commitment too. Do use safety precaution even u think he/she is safe.

Take care and make ur decision wisely!

[TommyPingPong]

Originally Posted by Liquid@cid

Ya you should go for it

But before that maybe you try to visualise this.....
.....

2) Your husband found out about your FB and wanted a divorce, you are deprived of your child custody, ppl ard you started pointing fingers at you for being such a slut, sleeping ard, your child despise you when he/she grew up knowing that his/her mom is a bitch who prefer sex over her family and thus never wanted to see you again...... den how???

3) ....
Before you make stupid decision, think....... guys can fxxk without feel yet still can get organism, but woman will only enjoy a good Fxxk when she had feel for that guy, are you sure you can just take him as your FB without any feel for him???

Agree alot with point 2 and 3. Woman most at loosing end if found out having an affair. What if your husband decided to entrap u into this? You will lose everything....

[danielpng]

yah, TS sis.. i think you should work out something with your hubby rather than to find comfort from some other sources.. Afterall, both of u went thru the weddings vows and promised to stay with each other no matter what happens..

so in my opinion, u shd talk to your hubby.. communication is very impt.. dun give up.. jia you..

[Snail]

Originally Posted by TommyPingPong

Agree alot with point 2 and 3. Woman most at loosing end if found out having an affair. What if your husband decided to entrap u into this? You will lose everything....

this is true possiblity, ur husband may be laying a trap for you as i have heard of such horror stories. simply put, if u are the one found to be cheating, he gets the kid and doesn't have to pay you alimony. you will suffer as u will be heart broken by 2 man, possiblly pregnant or with STD/HIV and everyone (families included) will call u a slut.

if all u need is just sex, get a vibrator or other sex toys. i can recommend u a good discrete shop to get ur toys from.

otherwise, another suggestion would be to just have ONS with random man, or paid sex, much like what members here do when they engage FLs or GL. They rather pay money, bonk and forget then get involved in a 3rd party r/s to ruin their lives forever !

[OC.SIN09]

Dear bros & sis,

Frankly I'm surprised and heartened by most of your advice. I didn't expect that most of you to advise me against it. From the threads that I read, most bro are looking forward to have FB/s! (**Please don't get me wrong, I'm not here to look for FB.)

To the bros/sis who advised me to work out with my hubby, actually I started the thread with no intention to discuss about my marriage problems but I think I should explain a little so that you can understand better.

My marriage
As mentioned earlier, I'm married for 20+ yrs.
My hubby is my 1st and only man till now. I married young at the age of 20. I'm in my early 40s. My son is in army now.

My hubby is a nice man but he is also a private and cold person. All these years with him, he has never once celebrated any special occasions (birthday, anniversary, mother's day etc) with my son & I. He values his freedom alot so there is no call or reporting on where or what he is doing. I have long accepted that this is his character. As years go by, we just drifted apart. We seldom quarrel or argue as we don't really get to see each other much due to our hectic work schedule. Besides work, he is engrossed in his own hobby and activities (not cheonging GL/clubs/pubs) outside work hours. If I were a typical SG gal, believe me this marriage won't last till now.

As for sex, we are still active with at least twice a wk but it is always satisfying him 1st not me. Since he is my only sex partner, I have no way to compare until I came across the porn videos & the stories in SBF. We talked about it before but it is still the same, he cum then clean up and continue to sleep leaving me high and dry!

My only consideration for giving up the marriage is hurting both his and my parents. I have a close relationship with my in-law. I do not wish to hurt them unnecessarily.

My heart is numb towards him after all these years of 'desertion'. So it is a matter of time that we go seperate way...

[bochapsing]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

You already answered the question yourselves with the above statement. If you cannot separate out your emotions then you are only heading for trouble..

Originally Posted by see see only

.

If you want to make love with him and keep your family - then dont try

If you want to have sex with him only - then go ahead and make sure dont get yourself into big trouble - you know what i mean.

But a gentle reminder, our feeling is not easily control, you may think that you have no string attached while stepping into a quick sand of love.

Life short enjoy it before it is too late and give us FR if you dont mind

well said...

rule #1: FB relationship should never involve emotion... 2 FBs r together only for 1 purpose, to HAVE SEX... not to MAKE LOVE... it's a physical relationship, nothing more...

if u dun understand or cannot fulfill rule #1, u dun need to think more... just keep clear... FB relationship with emotion attached is going to cause trouble to both parties eventually...

if u can fully understand and stick to the rule of the game, u r most welcome.. we need more supply of lady FB to meet the high demand by the hungry and horny wolves out there...

[OC.SIN09]

To bros & sis who advised me against going into FB r/s with feeling, I understood and thankful for your advice. Your messages have me started to think more deeply and what I hope to get from the r/s.

I need sometime to digest all your advice and think them thru'.

[OC.SIN09]

Originally Posted by steamer

to the threadstarter,

as long as both understand the rules of engagemnt of being fbs and abide by these rules. Feelings are fine as long as you keep them under control and knw that you can never cross the line.
And also dun forget discretion is paramount.

Juz sharing experience.

To bro steamer,
From your expereince, how do you keep your feeling or rather how your lady FB keeps her feeling under control?


To bro bochapsing,
You mentioned:
rule #1: FB relationship should never involve emotion... 2 FBs r together only for 1 purpose, to HAVE SEX... not to MAKE LOVE... it's a physical relationship, nothing more...

From woman pt of view, I cannot imagine having sex without emotion. Not even with Andy Lau! We are just not made in this way.

From reading the SBF, it seems that there are many bros having FB r/s. I wonder how the lady FBs in those r/s manage their emotion? Are they all hardcore players so no danger of involving any feeling?


Juz side track a bit, can any bros share how to multi quote when replying?

[daringwolf]

TS, I guess the rest had already spelt out the rules of getting a FB or becoming one to the other persons. If you are not ready to "commit" or stick to the rules, don't start. Not to mention that you said you are attracted to him and if you can't control your feelings, don't start at all.

It is always easy to say that we are looking for FB with NSA but I guess not all of us can really stick to the rules of no feelings involve. As times goes by, you will start to care for each other and it is not going to be NSA relationship anymore.

I had been in such situations before and I was deeply hurt by the relationship. However, that does not stop me from continuing to look for one now because I guess I am looking for someone to talk and share each other's frustrations about our other half. Whether if the "FB" (Shouldn't call my potential this as I am not really looking for a FB) and I are going to go beyond any sexual relationship is another matter. Think thrice before you decide. Ultimately, is the guy worth to be your FB because do you know him well? You could be just his "scores" which he can boasts to his friends. Just my two cents worth...

[peanut123]

I am very pleasantly surprised by the mostly level headed responses SBF bros are posting in response, urging TS to be careful and to reconsider. I expected a bunch of responses to go "Give me your contact" or "Just go and have sex and post pics".

Anyway, to TS, here are my thoughts :

1. As one of the bros pointed out, a guy who asks a married woman to be a FB is scum. He is deliberately endangering your family with a breakup just to have his free sex. How can you possible have feelings for such a monster ? I can certainly guarantee you that he will dump you after he's had his fun and you will feel stupid and dirty.

2. If your family should find out, you will be in trouble. There are a hundred ways you can slip up and let the cat out of the bag. Your SMSes, photos in your phone, phone call history, a change in your behavior, coming home fresh and showered ( from your hotel room ) at the end of a long "working" day, even a change in the way you dress will trigger alarm bells in your husband who knows you so well.

3. If your teenage child should find out, then I'm afraid you will definitely lose him. Do you want your own child to call you a slut and to not acknowledge you ? A teenager has fragile ego and yet is opinated, and I'm sure he does not want his mother to be sleeping with another man. The shame of it. You might not care about losing your husband, but I'm very sure you do not want to lose your child.

4. If this guy asks you to be his FB, you can jolly well be sure he has asked other women too, though he may deny it. So, if he's sleeping with different women, you are just 1 toy out of his many conquests. Do you want to degrade yourself to be someone else's sex toy ? To be used at will and discarded when done ? And you do risk getting some nasty STD or HIV from him, and passing it to your family. Is it worth it just for some fun ?

I would say : DON'T DO IT !

[naturegreen]

Originally Posted by peanut123

I am very pleasantly surprised by the mostly level headed responses SBF bros are posting in response, urging TS to be careful and to reconsider. I expected a bunch of responses to go "Give me your contact" or "Just go and have sex and post pics".

Strongly agree with this peanut! Keeping my comments short now as I just got zapped for giving logical comments earlier on, so learning to keep it short and also most of the logical comments already said by other SBF bros/sis

[Wynhan]

Dear jie jie, pls do think about your teenage child. children don't like to stay in a broken family.