Just needed a channel to vent

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Wanna start again?
It's been a while.
Wat u say may be applicable in skippyland!
Pre-nuptial crap but here, not recognised
When was the last time u looked into the mirror to notice your skin colour?
You go there too long you start to tink u ang mo gao liao ah?

Pre nups may not be recognised in singapore yet but it's just a matter of time.

The divorce rate amongst the young has reached an all time high and it'll only get worse. Very few people in Singapore give a shit about their marriage vows anymore. They're more concerned about the apps on their iphones than they are about the state of their marriage.

http://www.singstat.gov.sg/stats/keyind.html

In the meantime, the old farts may still be married but they spend a lot more time fucking whores than they do on keeping their marriage alive. The evidence is plain for all to see. Just look at the contents of this forum.

When in comes to extra marital sex, it's pretty obvious that sinkies are a lot worse than their western counterparts as the opportunities for commercial sex are far greater.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Pre nups may not be recognised in singapore yet but it's just a matter of time.

Ah ha, thus this is not in context unless its accepted by OUR aka SINKAPORE society!

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

The divorce rate amongst the young has reached an all time high and it'll only get worse. Very few people in Singapore give a shit about their marriage vows anymore. They're more concerned about the apps on their iphones than they are about the state of their marriage.

http://www.singstat.gov.sg/stats/keyind.html

Yeah, thus moral values are all screwed in a united colours of Benetton society that sinkapore has become....just like the US of A and Ozzyland!

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

In the meantime, the old farts may still be married but they spend a lot more time fucking whores than they do on keeping their marriage alive. The evidence is plain for all to see. Just look at the contents of this forum.

When in comes to extra marital sex, it's pretty obvious that sinkies are a lot worse than their western counterparts as the opportunities for commercial sex are far greater.

What you do outside, stays outside.
What is your family vows, aka man's responsibility stays that way.
Look at our stupid puny island, young execs get job, buy car, 10yrs loan and not even enuff disposable income to spend, thus always seeing posts on how much one jug, tips how much, ST how much.......WEAK man!

[hamsapkwai]

Originally Posted by Yaphets

Nope I'm not a Muslim. I'm Chinese.

Anyway, thanks for the consolations. I didn't expect any replies actually. Last night, she rejected my hugs and last efforts to be a good husband for the remaining days we are married. I guess there isn't any room for negotiating or contemplating a reconcile.

Brother that shows how much you understand women.

She`s staring divorcee status in the face in the coming months and you expect her to respond to your hugs?

You have done her a lot of hurt and women don`t forget things like that in a hurry and a hug does not right all the wrongs.

You guys got to sit down and really talk and in your case its gone real sour and a professional mediator is needed to save the situation.

For without a referee you both will be going for each other`s throat at the sound of the opening bell.

And be ready to accept responsibility for any perceived wrongdoings in the session.

[plmnc]

i also du lan with my wife...!!!!!!!

i think i on the verge of divorce liao.. i staying together for my daughter only...

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

As for your relationship it's pretty obvious there is no mutual respect so my advice is to end it as soon as possible. Affection and the lovey dovey side of any marriage fades over time but respect for each other is paramount for a relationship to last through thick and thin.

The fading part I've read u commented a few times, can u elaborate on the underline, perhaps by quoting some examples to enlighten bros here?

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by plmnc

i also du lan with my wife...!!!!!!!

i think i on the verge of divorce liao.. i staying together for my daughter only...

Sometimes,mit doesnt hurt to play smart.
Just stay cool, give her her space n try to avoid engaging her as much as possible.
Gonna explode, go somewhere else to chill
I understand how u feel, trust me cos we in da same boat!

[owl888]

TS, be a MAN. Keep the innocent baby! Please show your sincerity be repentant to your wife on the abortion part......

Also, I think both of u need to be separated for cooling down period of say 3 months to seriously think about divorce.

Juz my 2 cents

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by goodpartner

The fading part I've read u commented a few times, can u elaborate on the underline, perhaps by quoting some examples to enlighten bros here?

If you meet someone that you admire for qualities that go beyond your sexual needs, then the element of respect is established and it's cemented into the relationship right from the beginning.

On the other hand, if you marry a girl primarily because she's pretty, gives great blow jobs and has a nice tight pussy, then the chances of the relationship lasting are much slimmer. Once the sexual aspect of the relationship sours as it invariably will, the relationship is done for.

My partner in life has the same interests and hobbies that I have. We do things together and in some areas, she's more skillful than I am. I respect her for that. She, in turn, respects me for my patience in pursuing my goals and "never say die" attitude towards life.

Sex is the least important part of our relationship. We are best friends first and foremost. If we get to 80, we'll still be the best of friends long after my dick has shriveled up.

It is for this reason that I always advocate NOT marrying a whore, especially one you fucked commercially before you started the relationship. There is no way that mutual respect can exist in such a relationship. She'll forever view you as a whoremonger who pays for sex and you'll forever view her as a prostitute. The relationship is doomed from the beginning. Once the sexual aspect of the relationship sours as it invariably will, there's nothing left to hold things together and many factors that will invariably tear things apart.

[plmnc]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If you meet someone that you admire for qualities that go beyond your sexual needs, then the element of respect is established and it's cemented into the relationship right from the beginning.

On the other hand, if you marry a girl primarily because she's pretty, gives great blow jobs and has a nice tight pussy, then the chances of the relationship lasting are much slimmer. Once the sexual aspect of the relationship sours as it invariably will, the relationship is done for.

My partner in life has the same interests and hobbies that I have. We do things together and in some areas, she's more skillful than I am. I respect her for that. She, in turn, respects me for my patience in pursuing my goals and "never say die" attitude towards life.

Sex is the least important part of our relationship. We are best friends first and foremost. If we get to 80, we'll still be the best of friends long after my dick has shriveled up.

yes, i agree...but my wife's temper really volatile....sigh

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by plmnc

yes, i agree...but my wife's temper really volatile....sigh

Get a new one. Why put up with shit. Life is short.

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If you meet someone that you admire for qualities that go beyond your sexual needs, then the element of respect is established and it's cemented into the relationship right from the beginning.

Thank you for the elaboration, so we better draw a list of items why (if any) we respect our partners outside of sex/lovy dovy feelings before committing to a long term r/s. Good adviCe.

Still, it'll be a relentless pursue for that pretty babe who can give great BJ, AND also have great respectable qualities. Guys being guys, where physical attractive usually comes first.

I also better see why u think pros will not garner any respest right from the start, althought it seems some here "respect" the pros for the very same reason (for working as a pros to help the bigger 'me')

Originally Posted by plmnc

yes, i agree...but my wife's temper really volatile....sigh

Bro, case in point, can u list out what qualities you RESPECT your wife for? Maybe that has changed over time, but what did you respect of her before u decided to tie the knot years ago?

[observer85]

Hi bro, saw what u wrote. i rarely comment on things but for ur case, i really wanna to voice out wat i think. Pls dun zip me as this is only my personal OPINION. Thanks

To me, Marriage is not just like 2 kids playing. it's a promise make for life !! And since u urself can say tat, u still think tat the day when u 2 get married was the happiest day of ur life, then y u dun TRY UR BEST to save this relationship? Why wanna to asked her to abort your unborn child !?? Do u know that it's ur own child u are gonna kill, do u ever put urself in ur wife shoes and think how will she feel if someone were to talk her tat ?? The unborn child are innocent, how can u just decided to kill it off just cause u claim tat u are not in a good relationship with ur wife now?
Since u say u really love her, why not tell her to keep the child and both make an agreement to work to improve ur relationship for the child?? i'm sorry to say this but i really dun think Bro Yaphets are trying hard enough to fix this problem.... Pls go do some real meaningful things to save e relationship instead of wasting time to write all this rubbish and emo one conner blaming fate !!!
Below are just my personal tho, pls dun be officered.

I'm a unhappy married man. Recently, I really cannot tahan my wife anymore and decided to divorce her. We have one kid and currently another one in her womb 8 weeks old. However, we both decided to abort it because we don't have time to take care of the second one. And also we both know that our relationship is getting sour. So giving birth to another one doesn't make sense at all. I just needed a place where no one knows me to vent out everything. Below is my exact sentiments and words I wanna tell her after the abortion and before we divorce.



I'm sorry for being selfish. No amount of apology can ever make up for what I have done and will do. Although I know that we can never be together for the next decade, I still want to give you the best of the remaining days we have left. Call me selfish, call me asshole, call me bastard and whatever names you can think of. Because I can only nod in agreement. Today, you let me rekindle how it feels like to at the initial stages when we were still dating. When I would hold your hands, let you lie on my shoulders and hug you tight when you sleep. I almost wanted to U-turn and tell myself why not forget about separation? But when you snapped at me upon lending me your phone made me realize that no matter what, we cannot really live together for long. I'm tired of you and I bet you are tired of trying to please me. And so I thought it would be better for us to free ourselves of everything and live the life we individually desire. I'll always remember you for who you are, rest assured. And I sincerely hope that you will be able to pick yourself up from this and live life courageously unlike the past you. Upon typing this very sentence, it felt heart wrenching and I honestly felt like I needed to protect you from all harm there is. But to do that, perhaps I have to sacrifice myself. Perhaps I love myself more than you. Perhaps I've never truly opened up my heart and tried to accept you for who you are. Perhaps I'm blinded by my destiny and am not satisfied with the simple pleasures of life. I really don't know. But knowing that I slightly teared while typing out this heart felt message makes me wanna delete and never let you see this. I feel like going back all the way and don't ever hurt you and all. Because I can imagine the pain and agony that you will have upon receiving this whole long message. Am I wrong? Or am I just plain selfish? All I wanted is just a new start. Flashes of our memories suddenly appeared out of nowhere. Not that we have many to reminisce. I feel sorry that I have broken the vow and pledge to love you forever, for rich and for poor, for better and for worst, in sickness or in health, to love and to cherish till death do us apart. I'm sorry for being a loser. But I swear that the day we married was the happiest day of my life. Although I did not really show it. I know I don't show a lot of my feelings to you. I'm really sorry.

[miniskirt]

Originally Posted by plmnc

i also du lan with my wife...!!!!!!!

i think i on the verge of divorce liao.. i staying together for my daughter only...

whatever things you can go have a good talk with her and don't do the wrong things and regret for life.

[sgjoey]

Only two of you can decide whether or not you should remain as a couple. Do take the time to consider carefully what you wish to do.

As for the abortion of the foetus, I think you made the right decision. No point bringing a child into the world if he has to struggle against the odds in a single parent family. Contrary to what people say, human life is not that precious especially when it is not even fully human yet. Thousands perish every day in the world for one reason or another, and the world doesn't really care. Precious? There are already 7 billion humans in the world. Unless a child is really wanted, it is better for him not to be born.

And no, abortion is not murder because it's a foetus, and not fully human yet.

[SmsEs]

Do not murder. Give the baby to me. In some place, that's good money.