husband neglect me after marriage. need advise.

[letsdo69]

Get to the root of prob. Best to talk I out. For me.. Once in love.. Will not care about size.

[HelloAngel]

Sex and love are separate matters. You can love someone without the need for sex or you can have sex without love too. Both are just needs that a human would like to have. Yes, sex is important in a marriage cos physical closeness do equates love to some people but it may not be a necessity for others. Some married people just do not like sex. They will show love in other ways sans the sex part. If your hubby shows you love in other ways, you cannot say he don't love you just because he doesn't like to have sex with you. At the other spectrum, some married men have sex with other women but still love their wives and family.

So you can either talk to your hubby about it again or see a counsellor to help both if you. Alternative find a fb to fulfill your needs. It's not the best solution but if it's just to fulfill a need, why not? Be careful not to fall in love with your fb cos it will complicate matters. Remember that sex, love and commitment are all separate components. The ideal relationship would be to have all three fulfilled with one person. Since you can't, then do it alacarte.

Oh and yes losing some weight might be good. Guys are born visual creatures so dolling up and taking care of your body would be a positive step. All the best TS!

[wondertimeman2]

How old your hubby?
He could be suffering from ED..or he has another woman. ...Need to communicate

[focaccia]

Got a friend sis also face same problem as TS but slightly better situation

She complained that her hubby stopped sex totally after giving birth which I might understand why. But to stop sex after marriage, I do not understand. Could there b other changes in life that TS hubby encountered so sex was rejected?

[samster101]

Nothing on planet earth will stop a man from wanting sex. Good mood, bad mood or no mood. Look around here for many examples. He is either getting it elsewhere or he has become gay.

[plumcot]

Originally Posted by samster101

Nothing on planet earth will stop a man from wanting sex. Good mood, bad mood or no mood. Look around here for many examples. He is either getting it elsewhere or he has become gay.

Yes agreed with you.

[knn03]

May I suggest that you don't get too aggressive in your demand for sex....sometimes sex is also a 'hunting' process for guys and if he feels that he is the prey instead of the predator, it might not be so exciting for him.....

[hil169]

'love you no matter how you love' is subjective. Men are visual creatures afterall. To maintain oneself even after marriage is no a want but a need. Signing on the dotted line is the ending of one chapter and the beginning of the next chapter. Both require the partners, husband and wife, to put effort into the relationship, be it maintaining yourself through diet and workout or showing TLC, the idea is to remain attractive to each other. No one likes a lazy person imo..perhaps you can work on both (diet and workout to lose weight, and showing more TLC or seduce him subtlely)

[Wrigley]

Originally Posted by samster101

Nothing on planet earth will stop a man from wanting sex. Good mood, bad mood or no mood. Look around here for many examples. He is either getting it elsewhere or he has become gay.

Well said bro.

[Wipedout]

By the way, it's a fallacy to claim that only men are turned onn visually. See this article http://seedmagazine.com/content/arti...d_for_monkeys/

'The researchers found that while straight men are only aroused by females of the human variety, straight women are equally aroused by all human sexual activity, including lesbian, heterosexual and homosexual male sex, and at least somewhat aroused by nonhuman sex.'

That's right, women get turned on watching animals fuck, much moreso than men.

[Marooner]

Originally Posted by Wrigley

Well said bro.

Agreed here as well

[Superfluid]

I'll be frank with you and tell you he's getting it elsewhere.
Or... he could be having some medical condition.... or worse, financial issues.

But don't jump the gun yet... If he want to, he will admit to you... and once or twice is not considered as initiative. You can give him surprise blowjobs. It works for me... i die die have to fuck, right?

Try shaving or waxing... as in totally everything gone if you have not done so before. It works wonders too.

Last but not least. Losing weight is a hard and long process, but it benefits you in more ways than one. Get some motivation from friends to slim down.

[WaitingHere]

Originally Posted by Marooner

Agreed here as well

Agreed here as well too

[Yardstick]

Very strange... after the very first post to start the thread, TS just disappear...

[sensualshirley]

Give good blowjob!