Why do men stray

[waterbottle99]

The situation/surroundings affects one's person.

[redtemo]

Quoting A malaysia mp who once said this in a speech

"We men Go to work in the morning,many things we see distract and tempt us,wehn we go back home..we request the wife but the wife will say "wait i am cooking.wait i am going to visit relatives...so we men have no choice but to go to private place to sastify our urges"

[FrOsTy-CoLd]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Well since we men like to use the analogy of food as a comparison, all I can say is I don't get to eat home cooked food that why got no choice but to "ta bao" all the time....

Franky, you are cute

[FrOsTy-CoLd]

Originally Posted by HungerAwaken

Hi sis,

Just my opinion.
Sweating is not limited to men. It is the nature of HUMAN.
Allow me to ask u one silly question.

Let's say u have one food u like very very much.
Only thinking about it make ur mouth waterful'
But if u eat that food and that food alone for about a month everyday whenever u r hungry and whenever u have to eat.
Will it b ok?
Even a small potato chip(hopefully it is not the one u choose in above scanerio) from outside may make u jump, right?
Another example, will u wear the same dress all the time everyday for the rest of ur life or just only for a month?
U will hate that dress what so ever much u loved it before. Right?

I think it is the same.
But, just my opinion, IF u don't want ur guy to swary, there's lots of things u can do.
Just make sure he taste the different taste with u everytime.
It is not limited to sex.
Yes men like SEX. but when comes to life, I think the understanding, commitment, and caring plays lots of game!
I once read in a book which they call that as sex with emotion. interesting right?
They said physical sex and emotional sex will make a happy and healthy relationship. (I'm not sure healthy means no swearing or not, but it is what I understand like that)

Hope it answer ur question
And also hope I dont irritate anybody

Thanks for ur time!

hi bro, you have your points, agreed to some extend

[FrOsTy-CoLd]

Originally Posted by Ravenzou

Agreed with some of the Bro reason given here, as ppl tends to get bored with regular stuff and take things for granted, so we seek something to spice up our life.

Also we also want to fullfill our sexusl desire and dreams too

hi bro, are you bored with "home cooked'?

[FrOsTy-CoLd]

Originally Posted by rob_onny

IMHO, the reason(s) may b 1 or more of the following:

1. Home's Abalone turned bad...
2. Suddenly felt like eating outside Abalone when home have no stock...
3. Felt like eating 2 or more Abalones in the same meal...
4. Abalone being sent as a gift... so don't waste it...
5. Felt like eating different origin of Abalones...
6. Can't resist young & tender Abalones...
7. Can't resist another Abalone when it's packaged w/powerful Squid, large Papayas & pretty chrysanthemum...
8. & etc...

Bro Rob, like the way you put it, hehe.
Is home abolane dried abolone? can be special too hor, if you know how to prepare it

[FrOsTy-CoLd]

Originally Posted by Chanelfingers

Many many reasons... Main answer she is not really what he wants at that moment of time..So he eats out...

He want pink nipples, she dun have
He want slender waist, she Lost them
He want D cups, hers is A B C
He want moaning, she scared children hear
He want threesome, she laughs at him
He want variety, she Ask him to do dishes instead of sweeping
He want Cosplay, she won't fit
He want OL, she housewife
He want lingerine, she say costly
He want foreign talent, she is not
He want bbbj, she says smelly
He want Syt, she milf
He want rough sex, she hits him
He want variety, she is not versatile

hi Sis, looks like i fit all the "he wants",

[rob_onny]

Bro Frankiestine, did u really pack (ta bao) outside Abalone home?
I @ most only dare 2 eat Abalones outside leh...

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Well since we men like to use the analogy of food as a comparison, all I can say is I don't get to eat home cooked food that why got no choice but to "ta bao" all the time....

Dried Abalone need skill & extra effort 2 make it soft & gd 2 eat leh...
I scare produce not enough Abalone juices may hurt both Abalone & Hotdog...

Originally Posted by FrOsTy-CoLd

Bro Rob, like the way you put it, hehe.
Is home abolane dried abolone? can be special too hor, if you know how to prepare it

[orneryjoe]

Wanting to mate with more than one partner is inherent in males as well as females.

What restrains us from doing so is our cultural paradigm of monogamy -- something which begain roughly twelve thousand years ago with the discovery of agriculture. Then land was gradually parcelled up and the idea of exclusivity begain to take hold in more and more areas, including sex partners.

Before that, for hundreds of thousands or even millions of years, our hunter-gatherer, cave-dwelling ancestors had no sense of ownership of anything. Therefore most things, including sex partners, were shared within small troops of people, moving from one place to another. This way of behaviour is still observable among our closest animal relatives -- the chimpanzees and the bonobos.

Most people today attempt to conform to the monogamy ideal, often with lots of tension inside because it is so much against our earlier practice of multiple male and multiple female mating pattern. The result everywhere in modern society is high divorce rates, serial monogamy (people marry, divorce, and remarry), extramarital flings, commercial sex and obsession with pornography. The price exacted in term of bitterness and broken hearts is immense -- all because we do not understand our nature better.

Why do women seem to stray less than men? Because in a patriachal society, the men control the women. And the women are cowed by the men. If allowed to behave spontaneously, women would probably be even more open than men to accepting multiple partners!

Ask yourself this question: during sex, who mostly makes the louder noise? For anthropologists, such vocalizations by women is an invitation to other males to entice them to participate. Moreover, men cum once, twice or thrice at the most and fall back exhausted. For uninhibited women, multiple orgasms is normal and she is naturally well-equipped to take on successive male partners within a short time. Again, this is routine behaviour among chimps and bonobos -- our closest ape relatives.

The way to happiness lies in behaving more in accordance with our nature. Is this likely to happen in the near future? For the majority of humans, unfortunately, no, because culture exerts a powerful hold over most of us. But for a few daring and enlightened souls, it is possible to break free from our cultural constraints and do what comes most naturally. We have just one life to live after all, so we may as well live it to the full.

[Mike_JustDoIt]

I may be over-simplistic here. There are usually "push" and "pull" factors involved when guys (or ladies, for that matter) stray in a relationship ... From what I can see, many a times, both factors are at work ... the "push" factor usually boils down to a perceived loss / lack of affection from one's partner (which could be the lack of intimacy, settling into mundane routines, boredom, loneliness etc), whereas the "pull" factor is the opportunity / temptation to obtain this affection and gratification outside the relationship ... It is up to the individual's willpower, social pressure, religious / moral values etc to keep one from swaying under these forces ... More often than not, we succumb ...

[Rain-Men]

I thought of it as some sort like traveling. Sometimes, we need to take a break and take a plane or cruise out to some other countries. It's exactly like why we stray....take a break. After a "good holiday" and recharged, we will be back to our country for a while before we decide to fly or sail away again.....my three cents' worth..

[Stud00]

OMG... ROFL.. this is hilarious.. good one!!

Originally Posted by Chanelfingers

Many many reasons... Main answer she is not really what he wants at that moment of time..So he eats out...

He want pink nipples, she dun have
He want slender waist, she Lost them
He want D cups, hers is A B C
He want moaning, she scared children hear
He want threesome, she laughs at him
He want variety, she Ask him to do dishes instead of sweeping
He want Cosplay, she won't fit
He want OL, she housewife
He want lingerine, she say costly
He want foreign talent, she is not
He want bbbj, she says smelly
He want Syt, she milf
He want rough sex, she hits him
He want variety, she is not versatile

[Fav69]

My view ... when you use the word "stray" its someone betraying his/her current relationship in term of getting emotionally involved with a third party.

To pay for services to others for sexual satisfaction but have no intention of engaging any further emotionally would merely be " a transaction " ... the basic demand & supply story.

People tend to stray because the most exciting part in any relationship between opposite sex is the " courtship " period. The very act of identifying a target or being targeted, the challenges of proving that you are still able to attract or be attractive, the numerous acts and deeds in getting into the good books of each other, the surprises, the sweet nothings ...the romance...and of course, the humping.

Being married and eventually staying together is a totally different ball game altogether .. the fun fizzle out, the sex becomes a routine, the usual is expected, boredom set in and plus there's are in-laws, out-laws, kiddies, money, etc. Problems aplenty. In fact, one will start to get irritated with partner's habits, opinions and start to ponder ... " What the shit did I get myself into now ? "

Thus when the temptation of " courtship " present itself again, some strayed ... but I, too must add, some don't. It all goes down to how one is able to justify , to himself or herself, why the need to start the ritual once again.

Jus my thots ... Cheers !

[FrOsTy-CoLd]

Hi Bros and Sis,
Thank you so much for all the replies.

I argees that women plays a part in the straying as well (for those relationship which involve 2 married people).

Why some man prefer to have affairs with only married women? While others, any women also can?

How about women who are having affairs? do they prefer married man only?

[ChaYen]

How about:

I get a thrill when I'm going at it because I know I'm not supposed to be doing it.