Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[seafrog]

Omg i thought i'm alone... Seems that many bros facing the same problem i had.. I'm in motion mode to.. After my daughter is born, sex seems bored wif my wife.. Now she is preg wif my 2nd child, it just got worse.. Haizzz.. Envy some bros to have another partner in crime, or gals to talk too.. I just alone on my own..

[cawca]

Whatever the excuse may be.... to me, when a woman starts showing disinterest in sex with her husband, she has begun down the road of infidelity. Of course it works the other way around too.

[hornyboyboy]

Originally Posted by marktin

i totally agree
especially after having kids
sex is just routine or just no sex at all
i often DIY rather than having sex

I do agree with you.my situation is either weekend or nothing. For your info,no kids at all.How to survive? Man think with dick,woman think with time. No time no sex. Imagine when your nose is block,want to sneeze out. Wife tell you don't dirty the place,no tissue for you. This is a knn situation. So I guess the best thing is go find a tissue supplier,best if the supply is free.

[crashburnt]

I am also facing the same challenge as many bros here. I am probably to be blamed but it's just human nature I guess. Sex just turns bland after some years especially after my boy's arrival... but I am starting to experiment more now with wifey and we watched porn together recently... I am also getting a 8-inch dildos as a Xmas present for her... planning to fuck her with it while so gives me a blow job... perhaps a intro to threesome or swinging...

[zacarie]

I guess some are lucky to have wonderful sex live with their legel partner? Haha. some woman prolly are not so much into sex. Other than constantly trying to spice it up. i guess there's nothing much tt can be done unless some miracle happens.

About the over 30 being sexually fustrated only apply to some. We have quite a big age gap. so i was the young one with raging hormones. n he should have been the over 30 who needed sex. but nope. our sex live was not tt great. thought maybe it was boring.. So i started to bj him. which i did not when dating (bad experience) but enjoyed it after tt. then doggy. cowgirl.. but still if man wanna stray, they will stray. no sex n all. it's kind of an excuse for them...

[sogetsu]

Really envy those who still can have active sex life after having kids ....

Right now everything i see my wife face, the thought of her just lying there and waiting for me to finish up. And to think i go through so much like Brazilian Waxing, cracking my brains to motivate her to to spice up our sex life.

Woah man she even said need something to motivate her. Now dont know whether can make love to her or not. Sigh ......

[bleedingknight]

Going thru 'almost' the same thing. But unfortunately i am the one that is being a dead fish. Dunno why i just dont feel horny in bed...my poor wife.

[Absolute]

I am thankful that I have chosen to be single after reading all the sexual woes from so many sexually-frustrated married men here.

I have a friend who is in his 40s and his wife is also not interested in sex starting fromat least 10 years ago. But he really loves his wife and respects her choice.

His philosophy is simple: Man can live life meaningfully without sex. Look at monks. As such, he has developed a hobby he is very passionate about - motor cycles. In fact, he told me that he can clean his motorbike for one entire day without even thinking about sex or copulating his wife and other women.

His advice for sexually-frustrated married man is this: don't see sex as a must-have. Without sex, you are even healthier. Divert your mind to something more constructive such as doing charity work or pursuing a hobby. He believes that our mind is able to help you overcome your sexual desire and live a more fulfilling life.

Good luck!

[iamhappy]

Bro, you are so right that you can write a thesis about it. Having sex is once a year event? Are all Singapore girls like that? Can't blame us for having affair!

[ferragamo]

Originally Posted by sogetsu

Right now everything i see my wife face, the thought of her just lying there and waiting for me to finish up. And to think i go through so much like Brazilian Waxing, cracking my brains to motivate her to to spice up our sex life.

Woah man she even said need something to motivate her. Now dont know whether can make love to her or not. Sigh ......

we have the same problem..

Some guys say got sex already very good, but I don't know how to explain this...

I think if no sex , you can say that dulan cannot get, blame tiredness etc

But if already having sex and the wife just lie still waiting for you to finish, I find it feels worse!! It is like an insult, it hurts the male ego I guess - you feel like your wife thinks you are so bad in bed that they can't wait to end it

Dunno if anyone else understands what I mean about no sex vs going through motion sex...

[sgjoey]

Originally Posted by Absolute

I am thankful that I have chosen to be single after reading all the sexual woes from so many sexually-frustrated married men here.

I have a friend who is in his 40s and his wife is also not interested in sex starting fromat least 10 years ago. But he really loves his wife and respects her choice.

His philosophy is simple: Man can live life meaningfully without sex. Look at monks. As such, he has developed a hobby he is very passionate about - motor cycles. In fact, he told me that he can clean his motorbike for one entire day without even thinking about sex or copulating his wife and other women.

His advice for sexually-frustrated married man is this: don't see sex as a must-have. Without sex, you are even healthier. Divert your mind to something more constructive such as doing charity work or pursuing a hobby. He believes that our mind is able to help you overcome your sexual desire and live a more fulfilling life.

Good luck!

Your friend's solution is right -- for him, not necessarily for others. For some, sex is the best hobby in the world. Life is short. Do whatever feels right whilst minimizing harm to others.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by analog

Hey Bro:
At least you're getting some!!!
Many are getting nothing.

Women are really evil in this sense....
Their entire job, obligation, is to have sex with their husband. That is what a marriage license is, a document consenting to have sex with this man.

Note to all young guys, I know, i know...your GF today is a slut, she complains you can't fuck enough or often enough, she sucks your cock, takes it up the ass everything, you're in bliss. You buy a ring, you get engaged....life is great. After you get engaged sex gets even better, you are in heaven all is great, You get married, and your screwing her in every room in your new flat every day of the week, TWICE a day, its all good. She gets pregnant, you're both happy, after all, you're married. Its all good, sex continues through the pregnancy, then the baby is born, happy, happy, happy.......and it never comes back. You wait, you're a patient, modern sensitive guy, she has to heal you say to your self, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months a year.....when is she going to heal? Why she not interested any more etc....

Then she decides she wants another baby, she rapes you for a few months until she gets pregnant again, then she shuts off. Not like first time when you fucked all through the pregnancy. This time she doesn't let you touch her....and the cycle repeats.

And this is how life is with a Singaporean wife my friends. And young boys who are still in the GF/BF stage, save your advice. You have no idea how that little slut you have for a GF right now will change once you marry her and she has a kid. You simply have NO IDEA!

I went to a marriage course when I was a teenager, church related thing, married priest (yes, there are such things) and he said this:
"Couples marry with the man thinking his wife will never change and the woman thinking she will change her future husband. They're both wrong."

Cheers,
jim

Oh wat a good write-out of the problems wif women after marriage frm Bro Analog...Recommend guys intending to say "I do" to read tis before they sign on the dotted line on their wedding day.. to at least be aware...So bros intending to walk down the aisles wif their 'beloved', do be warned !..

Tis aptly but sadly describes a typical situation in most of our marriages today unless bros are lucky enough to hav wifey wif HSD which are few and far between.

Its a fact of life tat repeats itself generation after generation, time & time again, but no one seems to be able to find a solution to pre-empt it b4 it turns tragic...tats why there’s still prostitution, high rate of divorces & break-ups of the heart & the family, suicide etc...haiz...all bcos of tis ONE problem....if only all wives understand their sexual obligations to their husbands in marriage, much of the problems would have been averted...the marriage license is indeed her consent to have sex with the only man tat she marries 'till death do us part' and vice versa..

Just my 2 cents worth...

[tomvoyeur]

Seems like a common problem has resurfaced.

A couple just need to keep thinking this is their 1st time having sex lol.

[DannyBoy4]

Originally Posted by analog

Hey Bro:

At least you're getting some!!!
Many are getting nothing.

Women are really evil in this sense....
Their entire job, obligation, is to have sex with their husband. That is what a marriage license is, a document consenting to have sex with this man.

Sigh....life.

Note to all young guys, I know, i know...your GF today is a slut, she complains you can't fuck enough or often enough, she sucks your cock, takes it up the ass everything, you're in bliss. You buy a ring, you get engaged....life is great. After you get engaged sex gets even better, you are in heaven all is great, You get married, and your screwing her in every room in your new flat every day of the week, TWICE a day, its all good. She gets pregnant, you're both happy, after all, you're married. Its all good, sex continues through the pregnancy, then the baby is born, happy, happy, happy.......and it never comes back. You wait, you're a patient, modern sensitive guy, she has to heal you say to your self, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months a year.....when is she going to heal? Why she not interested any more etc....

Then she decides she wants another baby, she rapes you for a few months until she gets pregnant again, then she shuts off. Not like first time when you fucked all through the pregnancy. This time she doesn't let you touch her....and the cycle repeats.

And this is how life is with a Singaporean wife my friends. And young boys who are still in the GF/BF stage, save your advice. You have no idea how that little slut you have for a GF right now will change once you marry her and she has a kid. You simply have NO IDEA!

I went to a marriage course when I was a teenager, church related thing, married priest (yes, there are such things) and he said this:
"Couples marry with the man thinking his wife will never change and the woman thinking she will change her future husband. They're both wrong."

How true that has turned out to be.

I'm hoping once the kids get a bit older she comes back. By she I mean the woman I married because the woman I am with now is not who I married. But there is nothing any of us can do about it. Its enough to drive a man to drink....and many do.

Cheers,
jim

Hi Jim
You summarized everything perfectly.... That is exactly what happened.

I wonder if there are guys out there which are NOT classified in the above. Just wondering.... I can only guess that 90% of guys have experienced as what Jim said above.

Thanks Jim....

[kenergy]

+1 here. After 2 kids wife shut off everything. So TS situation still much better than mine as i gotto DIY all the time for 2 years straight, end up eating outside. So who's fault?