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Originally Posted by sulphur
It happens after I got into a serious relationship few years back, and now I am married for nearly a year with the same girl, I found out that my guts/balls shrunk so much that I think too much when I interact with another girl and I want her to be my FB, but the consequences keep bothering me. Responsibilities of a husband and the social impact keep going through my mind and that I am not what I used to be already.
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Know a new girl for the sake of friendship and no other intent, at least in the beginning. A girl who has interest will indicate so in due time and if she doesn't, don't push the issue. When you adopt the mindset to bed her right from the start, your actions and agenda is glaringly obvious. Girls read them and will siam you like a disease!
Sure it takes more time to get to your eventual objective (presumably to be your FB if it happens at all), but it makes for a less awkward exit if things don't go according to plan. Treat her as a friend and let her lead. And if nothing ever develops, it probably wasn't meant to be. But at least it was face saving and you got yourself a new friend along the way. Only time will tell what will happen in the future, sparks may eventually fly, who knows?
And for the benefit of girls reading...we guys are generally quite gentle and diplomatic when rejecting an unsolicited advance. So while you may feel shy about dropping a hint or are wondering what's taking that blockhead so long to follow up, go ahead and exercise your feminine wiles. If its unrequited, most of you would survive the rejection easily.