Toxic relationship

[seekerJ]

Wow.. It’s been over 6 years since my last update. Reading back my post and recalling the experience, really brings back the scary memories.
It was a tough breakup because I was very resolved to breakup but she was super insist not to. She even begged me to stay and said she will change. So we continued on for another year but still the same old problems resurfaced. I asked her what’s our problem, she can’t even answered it. Probably she knows she’s the problematic ones and we were stuck in this cycle.
She even threatened me to commit suicide and ran off to any block to jump. I almost scared till death, keep searching for her like playing block catching. I keep calling her mobile and she did pick up. I told her I will call the police if she doesn’t stop it. Thankfully I found her and I was struggling to manage this relationship.
Good thing was that she agreed to move out my place but she found another place that very near me. Seems like she still want to hang onto this relationship.
I thanked for Covid CB period at April 2020, that we can totally not meeting each other and slowly we drifted apart and she start to accept our breakup and move on her life.
In 2022, in Facebook I saw that she found another guy (the guy probably divorced with a 10 years old kid, based on his fb profile) and got married in 2023. There’s a video showing their ROM and that guy had tears that he able to found her and get a 2nd marriage.
I wasn’t sure did she changed after these year and really found the right person. But I still wish her the best and even more to that guy.
Breaking up with her was the best decision I made, I found myself back again. Not that depressed and walking on ice guy. I’m much much happy as a single man, even now.
Thanks for the guys sharing your experience that you had been through and encouragement with your listening ears. I’m just luckier to pull myself out in time and not fall even further. For those facing similar issues, don’t go through alone, speak to someone and get a neutral 3rd party to assess the situation and find the root causes to solve it. If can’t, it’s better break up and move on. Your mental health is important, don’t stuck in toxic relationship, pull yourself out asap.