Why do guys cheat?

[Botakhead]

Lonely and married woman can also find solace in outside makan too, just make sure that you're not the one to get caught first.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Botakhead

Lonely and married woman can also find solace in outside makan too, just make sure that you're not the one to get caught first.

Women cheat as much as men do.

Equal Opportunity Cheating: Women and Men Cheat at Same Rate

June 21, 2011

By KIM CAROLLO via GOOD MORNING AMERICA


Although the most recent high-profile infidelity scandals all involved cheating men, a new study finds that women cheat at about the same rate as men, though often for different reasons.

Researchers from Indiana University in Bloomington administered questionnaires to more than 900 participants in order to determine the factors that most often lead to infidelity among both sexes.

Women who reported not being happy in a relationship and feeling that their partner didn't hold similar sexual beliefs were more likely to be unfaithful. For men, one of the biggest factors that led to cheating was sexual excitability.

For both men and women, not caring about consequences of their actions and a fear of poor sexual performance also made them more likely to cheat.

"You may not have same performance concerns with somebody you don't know very well," said Kristen Mark, lead author of the study and a doctoral student at Indiana University.

She added that 19 percent of women and 23 percent of men reported cheating, statistics that seem to reflect a closing of the cheating gender gap. Research from the 1990s found that only about 10 percent to 15 percent of women reported being unfaithful. Relationship experts, however, debate the implications of these data.

"Those sorts of findings depend on how you ask the questions and who you're asking," said Scott Wetzler, vice chair of the Department of Psychiatry and Behavioral Sciences at Montefiore Medical Center in the Bronx, N.Y. "There are no data that I know of to speak to that."

The study authors acknowledged that one of the limitations of their research is they didn't specifically define infidelity.

"[W]e don't know what specific sexual activities our sample considered as infidelity," they wrote.

But despite this limitation, other experts say women are definitely closing in on men in the infidelity area.

"I still see more men than women who have had affairs, but I woud agree from what I see in my practice that women are catching up," said Susan Heitler, a clinical psychologist in Denver and co-founder of a couples web site called Power of Two.

Numerous Reasons Why More Women Cheating

"One reason the gender gap may be closing is because of more women being out in the workplace," Heitler said. Work relationships, she explained, may lead women and men into forbidden territory.

"[There's] too much time working closely together, in private spaces, taking a break and talking about personal matters, and also travel which makes too much time away from the spouse and from the restraints of normal family routines," she said.

Experts also believe the ever-expanding reach of cyberspace has led many more women to seek out relationships outside their current one.

"I think that the online world is becoming a bigger and bigger part of people's lives," said Wetzler, who is also the author of the book "Living With the Passive-Aggressive Man." "In that sense, it allows for people to act on infidelity."

"Also, the Internet makes it easier to connect with old flames," Heitler said.

Mark and her fellow researchers didn't focus on the closing gender gap in their study. Instead, she hopes the bigger message will be that traditional beliefs about why people cheat may not be true.

"Previous research has shown that marital status, income or employment play as a big role in infidelity, but we found they weren't as important as other characteristics, such as sexual excitability and unhappiness in relationships," she said.

[Smallandstrong]

Originally Posted by leen843

I guess men cheat on their wife coz the love & sparks no longer exist, whats left is only the relation or the kids that's still bonding them.

When the men cheat, its a challenge & also a thrill to them as this also prove that they still have the charm to hook & fuck other women besides the wife.

I myself discovered my hubby flirting around, how upsetting this is to me! :[

I guess there are more factors to it than this.

While I don't hook and fuck other women besides my wife, I have been tempted aplenty. Not just the opportunities presented here in SBF, but even at work.

And no, I do not see myself as a saint.

Perhaps it is time to spice up your bedroom activities. A quickie in the morning maybe? Or a good long BBBJ to catch him offguard just moments before he wakes up.

[Shawning]

*sigh*

I grew up in a family that is so messy. My dad cheated on my mom. My uncle cheated on his wife. My cousin was such a womaniser that he cannot settle down with one woman for a year. Every year cny he'll bring new gf and everytime he told us she is the one. I got scared that i pledged to study well get a good job and remain a spinster.

Well, i m lucky that i m a late bloomer. As teenagers no boys wud ever desire me. I was called a lamp post during my uni years, boys in my class made jokes that locomotive can make a u-turn on my chest *lol* i can laugh at it now. But it was painful then. So i was a virgin till i was 21. Because at the age of 20 my body started to take shape.

Well, with the history tagging my background, i was afraid of relationship. And when i lost my virginity, i lost confidence in myself, in life. Him whom i gave myself to was no difference than those scumbags in my family. I lost confidence. I lost hope. That was when i decided to join a european airliner as a cabin crew. To start a new life. That helps me collect the peices of my heart and move on with life. But no regret ) as i found my mr. Right <3

God gives us rain so that we can get the rainbow.

[milkandcookies]

I think there are good ones too but just that you need time to find. Finding a good guy is just like winning 4D or Toto. :P

[yeongmsc]

I think guys r born to b more horny. Some guys can control, some cannot.

I was a temp staff in at HP spore 6 or 7 years ago. HY division a third r pinoys, many india Indians, about half sporeans.

Many of the pinoys r 20s - 30s yo. Many r married back home & work in HP on contract basis.

We had a team bonding day at the east coast resort. There is a pool at the resort. At tt time place not so run down & still attracts a crowd.

As usual we had team bonding games in and beside the pool. Many of the pinoys where two piece bikini. Not the sexy type bikini but still two piece.

When pinoys play, sometimes they can carried away. The men, me included, can see their dark nipples from top of their bikini cup. If a few men can glance at the nipples, I think some of the pinoys would know too & maybe warn their female colleagues to tighten or adjust their bikini but none did.

Then we had a game w ballons. As I was a temp, I participately wildly w the pinoys. Other temps joined in. Most of the Singaporean colleagues just watch by side or did not participate.

I remember I was sandwiched between 3 or 4 female pinoys & Indian girl. They were not syt type & u wld got get aroused even if u see them in bikini or even if they were naked in front of u.

But I was in my swimming trunks & luckily I wear a board shorts. My cock was grinding the butt check of the Pinoy in front & the body of another Pinoy was behind with her body pressing my back. My hands also get to rub the body of Pinoy in front to pass the balloons.

I had a massive hard on. I believe tt it is possible Pinoy in front may feel my hard on but pretend & carry on. To her mayb this is normal in Pinoy culture.

[KaniNababe]

Originally Posted by Watermelonn

yes, why do guys cheat?
why they only portray that they are single? why they constantly looking for a gf when they already have one?

Humans are greedy. That's why men and women cheat

[Fapatron]

I don't think guys enter a relationship with the thought of cheating already in their mind. Something must have happened between him and his girl for him to start thinking about cheating...maybe the girl refuses to "help" him out or the relationship has gotten boring and stale.

[happywoody]

most guys cheat.
those who don't either:
1. have a strong conviction religiously;
2. or some strict personal belief
3. are physically not capable
4. are financially strapped
5. live in a country where adultery is punishable by death
6. are married to a nymphomaniac

also, it takes two hands to clap. a girl just reminded me:
" a good man is hard to find; but a hard man is good to find!"

[FallenLove]

Originally Posted by HCKing

guys love challenges. n cheating and not getting caught is a great challenge.

Does it mean that even if there's no need to cheat but still get to f**k both at home and outside, men still will not stop cheating?

Why then would so many folks say that if u keep your man happy, he will not stray?

Trying to make sense of it all.....

[acidicavex]

Originally Posted by FallenLove

Does it mean that even if there's no need to cheat but still get to f**k both at home and outside, men still will not stop cheating?

Why then would so many folks say that if u keep your man happy, he will not stray?

Trying to make sense of it all.....

Depend on your man is he easily content and sextify easily or he is those that keep needing to find fresh hum and fresh pattern.

If he is easily content than u just have to fed will him well and drain him dry.

If he those with higher expectation than tough luck.

Vice versa it the situation go for women also.

Men can do it without love But a women need to have love to do it.…. However it is changing there are women that screw like men out there now.

[tryherout]

This is great!!

[betlobang]

Guys cheat for the trill of excitment.

[big321big]

It is common to think that it is the guy's fault for cheating. But most of the time, it is the couple's fault. Think about it, if you cut a guy out from sex, ANY GUY, he is bound to cheat. If you cut a lady out of emotional support, care, and love, she is bound to find it elsewhere.

So my thoughts are, do what is required of you, as a couple, communicate frequently, align expectations, and nobody will cheat. Why would any guy cheat if one day you arrive home, your wife is dressed up in sexy lingerie kicking you with killer heels and un-zipp... I mean... Why the hell would you cheat?

[FallenLove]

Originally Posted by acidicavex

Depend on your man is he easily content and sextify easily or he is those that keep needing to find fresh hum and fresh pattern.

If he is easily content than u just have to fed will him well and drain him dry.

If he those with higher expectation than tough luck.

Vice versa it the situation go for women also.

Men can do it without love But a women need to have love to do it.…. However it is changing there are women that screw like men out there now.

Haha... Long learnt that men want variety. But question is if can eat side dish as well as main course, why still not contented?