What I look for in a Fuck buddy

[5ag1_Boar]

Originally Posted by tissue

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One possessive FB started stalking me there and watching every guy that I was talking with and would start to question why was I so touchy with another guy, how come the other guy can hold the small of my back when he cannot do this..blah blah blah..

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Cheers / Tissue

Heh, if I were him, I'll promise you a good spanking later for allowing another guy to break the rule.

[yankim3]

my kissing and petting buddy, no sex yet. gets too sticky at times and wan to meet me every weekend. i took a step back and stop contacting her for 2 weeks, after that she sort of got her head clear and we meet up once in a while for some hot petting actions. but sadly, no sex yet.

[itguide]

Me 2 had a FB who wanted a discreet relationship and I told her the truth about my life and relationship and honestly I respect her and try to make sure she is comfortable and do not feel that I am making use of her. I mean FB also must show respect and love and make her feel good right?

Then she wanted to go movie, want to go dinner and lunch and said that I do not spend enough time with her. Then she started saying that she is not in a fair position. She started using abusing language and that is when I had to put a stop before things get ugly. Know when to get out is important so that your life do not get damaged. The big head must think and the heart must be able to bear the pain.

Miss her a lot and the wonderful loving time at the starting of the relation but this is the best way out.

[yankim3]

i think FB sometimegets out of hand is when one party cross the line. its not easy to remain clear the position each one is playing. things turn ugly when one gets too processive and wans the other for him/herself only. or when one party wans to pull out and the other dun.

[euks]

SPOT ON! You got all the important points right!
Looks like you are a good FB player too.

The reason I started this thread was because I heard or witness too many FB relationship ended up really messy. Myself included.

Feelings usually develop during a FB relationship. Follow the rules, control our emotions and let the emotion explode into a wild and passionate night.

Your last point is the holy rule of all FB relationship. There are too many examples of guys misleading or manipulating their way into the pants of the girls while the girls usually resolve to emotional blackmail for commitment.

One thing that most FB players tend to neglect is being really discreet. Keeping quiet is not enough, even your body language should not suggest to anyone else that two of your had been intimate before.

Originally Posted by tissue

the reason we are different from animals is because we can control our actions......

That's lust talking, not real affection..

Kinkier ones would start whispering into my ear (at a disco, remember?) what he is going to do to me later that night and I would be eagerly anticipating his next actions....

This is merely a sexual game played by 2 consenting adults, with achieving orgasms frequently as the final goal..

Lastly, I firmly believe that no lies or false promises should be given to either party just to get the person into bed..

Cheers / Tissue

[tissue]

Originally Posted by euks

One thing that most FB players tend to neglect is being really discreet. Keeping quiet is not enough, even your body language should not suggest to anyone else that two of your had been intimate before.

Hi euks,

Thanks alot for the nice compliments.

I was pretty wild and may I say, quite a player and had about 12 FBs during the wild young days..I guessed it because I am a girl, which makes it easier for me to get more FBs..

I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull and rubbish so having FB was the best choice..I dun really feel good at ONS as I still need to have some basic positive feelings of a guy..I can't just screw a guy that I just knew..But, I did give out a sympathy screw to a guy who liked me for the longest time but that's another story..

There were times when I alo slipped and developed affection for another Fb and it still did not work out after all..

Many people cannot separate sex and emotions but to be fair, having a partner who enjoys sex as much as we do is really an added incentive..

Anyway, I needed to act and say. I love body language..Maybe because I was single and being naughty and wild, I love to let people guess what is actually going on between a guy and me...Natural born cock tease..I cannot help it..Even now, I still flirt harmlessly with men..I love it when some guy who is after me sees me talking to a FB and when they asked who is that, I will always nonchantly reply: someone I know...Maybe better then I know you....HAHAHA...That's me..

But my policy is to not kiss and tell so I guessed that's why my FB's liked me for being discreet enough and keeping everything a secret...

Nice talking to you..

Cheers / Tissue

[tk-king]

u will never know when u get 1
n u will never know when u gonna lose it

the most impt thingy is understanding n sextifaction
esp when both r attached

[tissue]

Originally Posted by sagiboar

Heh, if I were him, I'll promise you a good spanking later for allowing another guy to break the rule.

Hi Sagiboar,

I did get a spanking because I was talking to much to a guy but that was another FB!!

Cheers / Tissue

[asdfghjkl]

good to see so much contribution from sis.. please type even more!

[desk13]

It's getting more exciting

[Kyser Soze]

Originally Posted by tissue

I was pretty wild and may I say, quite a player and had about 12 FBs during the wild young days..I guessed it because I am a girl, which makes it easier for me to get more FBs..

I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull and rubbish so having FB was the best choice..I dun really feel good at ONS as I still need to have some basic positive feelings of a guy..I can't just screw a guy that I just knew..But, I did give out a sympathy screw to a guy who liked me for the longest time but that's another story..

12FBs, sis you really beat many bros here hands down. Somehow I'm still waiting for a 'sympathy screw' from a girl. Just kidding. But you are right. A woman needs feelings for a man in order to screw. While a man needs good looks and body of a woman for a screw. Men and women think differently. What matter most in the game of fuxk buddies is to satisfy both parties sexual urges without emotions come into the picture.

[josperm]

Originally Posted by tissue

Hi euks,


I used to be a commitment phobic but I have HSD so being single was not an alternative for me.. Thus, I needed FB to survive.. I hated the relationship bull

what is HSD?

[HardCock]

Hi All,

This FB thingy to me is a little foreign. I must admit I never had one. Maybe I dunno how to differentiate a GF from FB, haha...just kidding.

The notion of having a buddy for sex is pretty exciting to me. But u noe, it's not easy to identify one. For example, I have a very close female colleague (not my gf). We can chit-chat almost everything (cliche). Cut it short, I began to feel sexual tension whenever I am with her. However, I do not know how she feel. One wrong move, I could be condemned in the co. Well, dun eat and shit at the same place. Haiz, how to tell she's game for it?

[orangeapples]

Originally Posted by HardCock

Cut it short, I began to feel sexual tension whenever I am with her. However, I do not know how she feel. One wrong move, I could be condemned in the co. Well, dun eat and shit at the same place. Haiz, how to tell she's game for it?

Hmm..I do disagree with what you have said though.. Firstly, having an intimate relationship in the office is safer than you think. Well, your colleagues will never find out because if they do, both your careers will be down the drain. In that case, I guess your girlfriend/wife will never find out because of the same reason. While it is unfair, the girl always gets more flak and might risk being labeled as a slut. The guy is always forgiven, given time. Therefore, unless you are having a discreet relationship with a chick who is willing to give up everything, including her reputation, then you should be relatively safe. If you think that she might be psycho and risk everything, then I feel you should not proceed.

However, I guess that it is important to remain one or two steps ahead of the game regardless. I always remind any FB/flings/ONS that even if she told my fiancee and my engagement is annulled, I would never consider her. In fact, I would never contact her again nor want to see her face or hear her voice again. Thus if she did develop feelings for me, she would risk not seeing me again, if she wanted to further the relationship.

To answer bro hardcock, from my experience, I would advise you to take her for dinner or supper, then ask her if she would like to come to your place. One of my tactics, after the dinner,on the way of sending her home if i gauge that she might be reluctant to come by my place, I would say that I needed to go home urgently. Reasons can range from my home is nearby and I need to take a leak immediately and I would send her home soon after or I need to get my bank details to my brother urgently etc. Another tactic would be to tell her that you have some pictures/art/music/gourmet coffee etc I would like to share with her, and if she'd like to come. She will likely say "no" the first time but I will be persistent and insist, spending at least 5 minutes before giving up. After completing whatever reason I had if I had given any, I would proceed to ask her if she would like a cup of coffee, to which I would normally serve Irish coffee. If she declined, I would serve a glass of wine or something like that. Either way I would serve alcohol. After some drinks, I would let her know that I am feeling a little tipsy and I need some time to rest first if she asked about being sent home.

It is during this time when I normally make a move. Will normally start off with a few compliments, try to get the mood going. I will edge closer to her and try a little body contact and gauge her response. At this point of time, I try to engross her in the conversation. Some examples of compliments resulting in physical contact: "What color are your nails (touch her hands), do they match your feet?" and touch her legs gently, or "Wow, your skin is so smooth, and size of your fingers" and hold her hands and exclaim "Your hands, they look so small!" and proceed to compare your hand sizes. Once I can feel that there is sufficient physical contact without any negative reaction, I would try to maintain physical contact longer, by leaving my hand on her thigh or holding her fingers or playing with her hair or having my arms around her. I would then choose an opportune time to interrupt the conversation and ask her if she would like to kiss me. The thing is if she is offended or shocked or whatsoever, I will just nudge her gently and said I was joking. I would say that I found it amazing that she was so engrossed in the conversation and I just wanted to say something to shock her. If she was hesitant, it means that she is actually considering the proposition. I would ask her if she was a person who would like to try new things. If she said no, I would ask her if she was a romantic person. Then I would proceed closer to her and take my chance anyway. In the event that she forcefully tries to resist, I would stop and apologize profusely for carrying a joke too far and I hope she would not be offended and would accept my apologies and forgive me. Well if the kiss is successful, then it is time to take it up to the next level. Don't wish to elaborate further.

I do not worry about my approach because it involves a girl in my apartment with me alone. Just the two of us. If she were to cry foul because of anything that happened that night, it would be hard for anyone to believe her. A couple alone in an apartment. People will question her intentions more than mine. Either way, I am a gentleman at heart and I will not enforce myself upon anyone who is not willing. Do not have that kind of fetish and do not think i will acquire one in the future. I will only have sex with a willing party.

I am just sharing an example of my experiences and this should not be used as a guide. Do take my advice with a pinch of salt. I feel that every girl out there is different and as such I have catered my approach towards every girl differently. Girls like to be appreciated and treated well with respect. Treat them well and I believe you will receive equal treatment. Another to note is, I am lucky to be staying in a apartment all by myself (my fiancee is currently pursuing her studies in another state) and I have used this to my advantage. Thus, you should cater your approach accordingly to your advantage. You really do not want somebody interrupting your "private time". Another thing to keep in mind is to be confident in your approach at all times. The moment you stutter and lose your confidence, you lose your game, you lose the moment and you have lost your chance. Good Luck!

[orangeapples]

I would like to say that the above post was dedicated to Imom who has pestered me for a FR on my Taiwanese colleague. Also, to brothers out there, please do not think of it as a sure guide to lay girls! There are a lot of other factors that exist and has to be considered. I am just sharing my experience. Cheers