Sexless Marriage...

[kenwee]

Brudders,

I actually think that low sex or sexless marraiges after children is the norm. Its just that guys don't talk much about it in real life cause it makes us look bad.....

From my own personal observation, if you want SEX, delay marraige as long as possible. I remember an side-kick to Wil Smith in the movie "Bad Boys" say
"Being married means sleeping next to a beautiful women but getting none!"...How true.

In my own case, sex has always been generally good, if not great. The problem is frequency. She cums 90% of the time (I not bluff) so its not as if I'm farked up in bed......its just that "sex" is programmed to stay in a woman's mind after she's got what she wants....i.e. marraige, baby etc.

Remeber that women go through profound physical changes during pregnancy and it probably affects them mentally and have hormonal changes as well. But problem is, we guys are still the same horny devils we were before marraige.

So, to fill up the gaps, I chiong. Strictly commercial stuff. Ain't proud of it but there it is.....the dangers are there, but honestly, I don't see any other way since celebacy is NOT an option for me. Neither is PCC's till I get friction burns on my dick.

And don't know about you guys but I get real moody and angry when I don't get my qouta...........I get pissed at everyone and everything......so the way I figure it, I have NO CHOICE but to chiong to save my marraige.......Yup, for all my problems, I want to, and have to stay married......for the little ones.

Don't think getting emotionally attached to other women is the answer....if you think about it, what happened with this spouse will probably happen with whatever women you take as a substitute supposing you divorce your current one and remary.

Just my 2 cents worth.

[packardbell]

Originally Posted by gent

Any married man here experience this??

I am currently in such a situation... after my first kid, my spouse totally avoid having sex with me. She is giving 100% to the kid now. It seems to her that sex = baby! If no plan to have baby, then no need sex! Ridiculous right!!

Had been trying hard to convince her(that sex is part of marriage) and even prepared to go to visit experts on this but she refuse to go. Claiming that sex is the least priority in her life... I am very annoyed and depressed by all these comments.

Those who encounter and overcome this before, please enlighten me...

Sad to hear that and it is happening not only to you. Is sex with wife
really that important to the extend of divorce. I do not think so. If boil
down to the fact of what is love. Gent, I think you need to seriously
find out the cause of her not wanting sex. I have a fren that her wife
does not want sex with him bcos she somehow found out that his
husband flirt around, but she keep it to herself and thus does not
want to have sex with him (keep the marriage). Another friend, same
as no sex with wife because the gal does not want to get pregnant
bcos she a career women and she does not like to tak pill or
husband use condom. She think sex made her tired and she
can't work to tbe best for the next day. So you see, there are
many cause, what is your, plse review and solve it. Only you
know actually how to resolve it, we all can advise and contribute
in one way or another. I have heard of married couple stop
having sex after 2 children at the age of 38yo (wife) and still
very loving.

[ricardo]

wow after reading thru i find myself lucky. will never complain again liao.

me now expecting 3rd kid.

b4 1st kid ... normal sex .. wife conservative time so nothing fancyful. same as b4 marriage but high frequency.

after 1 kid ... slow down a bit but gets more exciting during each session but of course less time to do lor. then kid bigger 2-3 years old. plan to have 2nd one but difficult coz me always travelling and stress at work. wow ... this period best one ... she very motivated ... can do all sorts of thing to get me going ... really shiok.

after 2nd kid ... very very busy ... she not really interested but understand my needs so get a little here and there. then start to play fancy dressing ... somhow she feel sexy with them ... so getting interesting ... suddenly knnccb ... accident kena pregnant again ... so now sexless ...

3rd one due soon after that close factory liao ... but expect frequency to be low as well lah ... 3 kids leh ... but just last week she bought a pair of ultra sexy underwear ... think got glimmer of hope

to threadstarter ... me take long time to make wife understand ... now i think she enjoy as much as me ... at least that's what i hope lah.

[spenceryap]

To the thread starter (Gent),

Thank you for bringing this up. After 2 kids, I hardly have any sex. Once a month if I am lucky. It sucks and I attribute this to unnecessary quarrels and frustration.

To some of the bros in here, I do not think that we need help. Its them (the women) who actually need help. In my humble opinion, their maternal instincts take over to look after the kids which is great but they have forgetten that marriage is a balance. Some shield themselves from sex by using the kids as a excuse. I feel that if sex is not taken into serious consideration at marriage time, we are left with resorting to porn, websites such as this, affairs, ONS, HCs, geylang and what have you. At times, this can actually break up families. So to those who think that sex is not a reason to consider, better think again.

[Assworshipper]

After reading all the experiences you bros have with your wives, I'm surprised and relieved that I'm not alone! Personally I don't think "conservative" is the word that should be used to describle most of our wives here. It's more like being selfish!!! Only think about themselves and not us! I feel that making love to us, the husbands, is the basic duty that a wife should have.

Yes they may have kids to take care or other things to mind but surely out of 365 days a year there bound to have a time when they want sex right?

I'm not saying that I don't love my wife... I really love her... Yes I do but sometimes I just find that women are just plain selfish!

A ferocious tiger will lose it's aggressiveness forever after being caged for a long time. I just don't want it to happen to my little brother as well...

[Frankiestine]

I guess there are basically two school of thoughts here, while one feels that a marriage can survive without sex and can managed itself well based on love alone. There are others like yours truly here who feels that sex in a marriage strengthens it. For me, sex with my wife helps to strengthen the initimacy that I feel for her. What is love between a man and woman if there is no intimacy. If sex is just monotonous and based on bang, slam, wham and damn it's over, wat the dif doing it commercially thou I don;t deny there are some commecial ladies out there who really gives you a much better value fuck then your own wife.

[darylcch]

At least I am not alone, no wonder birth rate getting lower and divorce rate getting higher...Singapore wife thought they are damn capable; can work and earn money to support herself mean everything. Sometime, I just think over, why she need a husband. She will laze around at home doing nothing. Taking care of housework and kid all done by maid. She will use money to pay for all these so that we guys cannot say much things.

My sex with my wife getting more and more boring. She don't even like to kiss while having sex. Reason: Around brush teeth.
Cannot lick and suck her breast. Reason: Later need to wash up.
Must lick and suck for her. Provided must brush my teeth first.
Will not suck for me. Reason: Don't like the taste and smell.
Do not like doggie style. Reason: very painful and cannot lie down on bed.

When watch some newspaper article or tv show regarding sex life, will just walk away and say I am pervert watching and reading all these.

I guess all SB bros have similar problems as me...

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by darylcch

My sex with my wife getting more and more boring. She don't even like to kiss while having sex. Reason: Around brush teeth.
Cannot lick and suck her breast. Reason: Later need to wash up.
Must lick and suck for her. Provided must brush my teeth first.
Will not suck for me. Reason: Don't like the taste and smell.
Do not like doggie style. Reason: very painful and cannot lie down on bed.

When watch some newspaper article or tv show regarding sex life, will just walk away and say I am pervert watching and reading all these.

Hahaha for a minute there i was beginning to believe that we could be sharing the same wife or she probably has some lost twins sharing the same genes...

[darylcch]

Haha....GIVE ME A FIVE!!

Maybe we should ask the gals in this forum to give us their piece of mind....or are there any married gals reading this forum???

[emperor]

I think these women are stupid. If only they realise how much power and influence they wield................

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by emperor

I think these women are stupid. If only they realise how much power and influence they wield................

tats true bro, like a prc once told me that it is so simple to get what a woman wants is to give a man what he needs..but she had noticed that most singaporean woman are much too arrogant and stupid to realise that...

"THE WAY TO A MAN HEART IS THRU HIS DICK"...

[Shiokday]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

"THE WAY TO A MAN HEART IS THRU HIS DICK"...

not forgetting that great boobs oso can win a man's heart...

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by Shiokday

not forgetting that great boobs oso can win a man's heart...

lidat this one courtesy of me to u...but this one probably i suffocate to death if my face under it..

[guymelef]

man love for sex,woman sex for love.its hard for a man to love a woman in long term without sex.hope tat bro with this problem can solve it fast or love wun be ard anymore.......

[sugardad]

Well... , I so damn happy that I now realised that my wife is not the special one. Ok, let me put it this way.

This is what is wrong. I am lucky if I hav it from her 12times a year!!!!!

A little background will help you guys to figure out whats wrong.

I left sg to work in Malaysia after my first marriage(no kids). During then I met my current wife, everything was great and sex was definately good. We got married, had two kids there after. Suddenly she refuses sex after the second.

I am somewhat consider not too bad. Own business, with OK income, a semi-D house, got maids, 3 cars and two shop to collect rental. In terms of finance, there is no problem. We are somewhat close cos we share a few hobbies.

For the first year, I was puzzle why? then 2 nd year, I threaten that if she don't comply, our marriage is gona break down. Things improved but back to sq1 3 months later. So as every qtr goes it had become from bad to worse. I may hav to buy 4D if I am gonna hav sex witth her.

See where its all heading, the fustration, the anger. So I started fooling around, like 1 niter la, WL, HC and GF. My wife was driving me nuts till I literally dont care and cont the relationship with my GF cos the ego I got in return was to prove that 1) I am stil an attractive man 2) I can still hav GF as and when I want too. 3) And I am a good fucker ( with wife 3 min with GF 30 min ).

She later plead with me and promise to change again if I don't fool around anymore. So, wife ma, deal made and accept and again was bluff into it again and again.

So what do I do now?? I still F around but I really wipe myself clean. And she still refuse to hav sex with me.

Let me tell you a bit of my wife. She is a beautiful and sexy woman. 34 B/C, 24 and 34. Stands at 1.55m and weigh 48kg. Stunning long hair The last time she went to a GYm, there were still single guys aftering her.

You guys are still not too bad and for me,can see cannot touch for 9 damn years cos she runs around naked in our bedroom and some what consider sexy dressing when we are out

All our friends think and envy me but who the hell knows what I have is worse than a rubber doll.

Don't tell me abt talking cos till today, I am still talking to her and all grounds are covered still she refuse to see a doctor or counsellor. My 2nd last trump card is to get my mum to talk to her when I send them to a long holioday in Europe.

Guess what, on top of all this, we are still a happy family.