Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[bernardlee]

Having a sexless marriage is very demotivating. I wonder my wife still love me or not. Now working so hard everyday is just to feed the family and pay the bills. Still got to do most of the housework. This marriage is a bloody trap and a curse. Marriage is not worth it. Can someone tell me how to find my goal in life now? Got to salvage the remaining of my life.

[bfreemen]

Originally Posted by Klein76

I had been thinking about it too, my is sexless marriage more on my MIL who stay with me keep stiring my family,badmouthing me and brainwash my wife to severe tie with my parents, i am also not allowed to bring my kids home to see my parents and i also not able to visit them on cny, wonder is there such a things in this world? knn let her stay with me still stir up my family. so i seriously wonder should i give up this marriage or not? by the way i had been a good husband and dont eat outside i think i am better being off single if not for my kids, i cant tolerate this anylonger!

monster in law !!!

[joncheong]

Originally Posted by tamtam

As for me, I have tried so many ways to salvage my marriage, example : Go holidays without childrens following, go out dating after children slept, heart to heart talk, etc....

It never worked !

So now i have made up my mind, i only live for my children...She is not in this equation anymore. I felt cheated the moment i marrys her.

Now i just make myself very happy bonking any kind of ladies i want, then go home be a nice father, there is no need to be a nice husband anymore.

My marriage really sucks big time !

The followings realities are what i have suck up all these years:

1) Buy a car for wife to use : you dont get to fuck her
2) buy and stay in condo : you still dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays with kids : you dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays without kids : She shopped till drop, too tired, she wont allow you to fuck her.
4) etc....still dont get to fuck her

On the other end...
1) If you willing to buy a car for fb, you will get alot of fb queueing up...
2) rent a condo for fb/girlfriend...They let you screw her anytime of the day, 24/7
2) provide fb/gf with some living expenses...they stick to u like glue.
3) Bring then for short cheap trip....they worshipped you, probably let you screw any hole on her body.
4) She bathed and powder herself while waiting for you to come over to spend time with her.

I will happily spend my money on my mistress and get good returns.
I used to go home with my sperm tank full and cannot release...how frustrating ! But now my sperm tank is always empty hehe.

I go home happy nowaday. Not a good solution for all, but it works for me.

i'm sorry to hear that buddy. Good that you found a way to deal it by banging any girl you want but still keep the family intact for the sake of your kids. kudos to that cos many would just straight divorce the wife.

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by tamtam

As for me, I have tried so many ways to salvage my marriage, example : Go holidays without childrens following, go out dating after children slept, heart to heart talk, etc....

It never worked !

So now i have made up my mind, i only live for my children...She is not in this equation anymore. I felt cheated the moment i marrys her.

Now i just make myself very happy bonking any kind of ladies i want, then go home be a nice father, there is no need to be a nice husband anymore.

My marriage really sucks big time !

The followings realities are what i have suck up all these years:

1) Buy a car for wife to use : you dont get to fuck her
2) buy and stay in condo : you still dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays with kids : you dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays without kids : She shopped till drop, too tired, she wont allow you to fuck her.
4) etc....still dont get to fuck her

On the other end...
1) If you willing to buy a car for fb, you will get alot of fb queueing up...
2) rent a condo for fb/girlfriend...They let you screw her anytime of the day, 24/7
2) provide fb/gf with some living expenses...they stick to u like glue.
3) Bring then for short cheap trip....they worshipped you, probably let you screw any hole on her body.
4) She bathed and powder herself while waiting for you to come over to spend time with her.

I will happily spend my money on my mistress and get good returns.
I used to go home with my sperm tank full and cannot release...how frustrating ! But now my sperm tank is always empty hehe.

I go home happy nowaday. Not a good solution for all, but it works for me.

Bro I understand hw u feel! Sometimes it sucks being turned down too many times. U feel like "huh? how come my partner dont give in to me"....

ANd worst they dont find themselves at fault, find us always asking for sex. Then I wonder why they got married. They nvr kw sex is an important part of marriage.

Why during courtship they kw sex is imtp, they can do anything to keep the relationship. Just because they kw if no sex we might break up, now after married they dont hack care.

[ahpui99]

Originally Posted by tamtam

As for me, I have tried so many ways to salvage my marriage, example : Go holidays without childrens following, go out dating after children slept, heart to heart talk, etc....

It never worked !

So now i have made up my mind, i only live for my children...She is not in this equation anymore. I felt cheated the moment i marrys her.

Now i just make myself very happy bonking any kind of ladies i want, then go home be a nice father, there is no need to be a nice husband anymore.

My marriage really sucks big time !

The followings realities are what i have suck up all these years:

1) Buy a car for wife to use : you dont get to fuck her
2) buy and stay in condo : you still dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays with kids : you dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays without kids : She shopped till drop, too tired, she wont allow you to fuck her.
4) etc....still dont get to fuck her

On the other end...
1) If you willing to buy a car for fb, you will get alot of fb queueing up...
2) rent a condo for fb/girlfriend...They let you screw her anytime of the day, 24/7
2) provide fb/gf with some living expenses...they stick to u like glue.
3) Bring then for short cheap trip....they worshipped you, probably let you screw any hole on her body.
4) She bathed and powder herself while waiting for you to come over to spend time with her.

I will happily spend my money on my mistress and get good returns.
I used to go home with my sperm tank full and cannot release...how frustrating ! But now my sperm tank is always empty hehe.

I go home happy nowaday. Not a good solution for all, but it works for me.

Dude! So sorry to read about your situation. It really sucks man and i hope u and your wife be ok some time in the future.

[Brainstorm]

Originally Posted by tantan1234

Why during courtship they kw sex is imtp, they can do anything to keep the relationship. Just because they kw if no sex we might break up, now after married they dont hack care.

Because you signed the papers already mah and she isn't an old lady being left on the unwanted section of the shelf already. If you choose to leave now, she will kill you through the Women's Charter. Which is why she isn't afraid you will leave.

Before marriage, she is afraid you will leave her for someone else which is why she opens her legs to maintain your interest. If the way to a man's heart is through his stomach, then the way to a man marrying her must be through her legs.

I find it laughable when ladies say they are afraid of growing old. How many women maintain their looks and figure after marriage? These ladies aren't afraid of growing old lah, they are just afraid of growing old as a single woman. Once the ladies are married, they don't care how wrinkled or saggy they appear to men lah... Ladies can be so full of bullshit.

[asig]

Originally Posted by lightweaver

Just my 2 cents. I'm a freelance wedding photog and it's a blessing to partake in couple's wedding vows. There is so much love and hope. If ever u feel down, take a look at ur wedding photos. Remember those moments and how u got here where u are. Sometimes we just lose our way. God bless to the bros here

This is so beautiful.

Whenever I feel like its the end for me and my gf, I'll think of the time we went through to get where I am today.

[tantan1234]

[QUOTE
I find it laughable when ladies say they are afraid of growing old. How many women maintain their looks and figure after marriage? These ladies aren't afraid of growing old lah, they are just afraid of growing old as a single woman. Once the ladies are married, they don't care how wrinkled or saggy they appear to men lah... Ladies can be so full of bullshit.[/QUOTE]

Wah bro nice! U hit on the spot! The open leg and the growing old theories.

[Rickey]

Originally Posted by bernardlee

Having a sexless marriage is very demotivating. I wonder my wife still love me or not. Now working so hard everyday is just to feed the family and pay the bills. Still got to do most of the housework. This marriage is a bloody trap and a curse. Marriage is not worth it. Can someone tell me how to find my goal in life now? Got to salvage the remaining of my life.

So sad to learn tat Plans A, B & C of Bro Widrz did not seem to work in Bro Bernardlee's case ...My empathies for him, Bro Hotcoffee, Bro tamtam, Klein 76 n all other bros who hv shared here in tis thread abt having tis 'sexless' problem wif their LSD wifeys...wish some1 can help bro Bernardlee in tis difficult problem of his..

May i appeal to these wifeys to jus hv a little bit more heart for their HBs who are the ones they had chosen to marry in the 1st place..to those few who hv treated their HBs wif love n respect, thank you v. much...imho to the 'sexless' wifeys, tink a little more sex is not too much to ask or beg for to help bring ur family closer tgt i/o being one of the causes of ur family break-up i.e. the heartache of a Divorce or "eating out" by ur HBs will NOT benefit either party really...the wifeys concerned may tink tat it is a WIN situation for them but if one tinks carefully it is actually a lose-lose situation for both parties ..

I wish all HBs n wives will be able to live tgt in love, peace n harmony.. ever after.. for the sake of their families n children...let not SEX be the obstacle in the way...

[SniperIV]

After reading all the story , really kudos to all bros.

But end of the day just think about the kids.
At least at the end of the day they go home still can call you Pa.
Very sad case if a kid has to grow up without a proper parents.
Espcially a father.
Just thinking about my past have to live a life of lies, have to lie to others that my dad was a pilot flying around the world. thats why cant come to my school grad Etc,etc.

Not trying to invoke or flame just my humble past.

[analog]

Originally Posted by lightweaver

Been with my sg ch wife for 14 yrs since we were 20 and married for the past 6. We made an active choice not to hv kids.

Then why get married?
Sorry bor, just doesn't compute here.

Cheers,
jim

[analog]

Originally Posted by tamtam

As for me, I have tried so many ways to salvage my marriage, example : Go holidays without childrens following, go out dating after children slept, heart to heart talk, etc....

It never worked !

So now i have made up my mind, i only live for my children...She is not in this equation anymore. I felt cheated the moment i marrys her.

Now i just make myself very happy bonking any kind of ladies i want, then go home be a nice father, there is no need to be a nice husband anymore.

My marriage really sucks big time !

The followings realities are what i have suck up all these years:

1) Buy a car for wife to use : you dont get to fuck her
2) buy and stay in condo : you still dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays with kids : you dont get to fuck her
3) Go expensive holidays without kids : She shopped till drop, too tired, she wont allow you to fuck her.
4) etc....still dont get to fuck her

On the other end...
1) If you willing to buy a car for fb, you will get alot of fb queueing up...
2) rent a condo for fb/girlfriend...They let you screw her anytime of the day, 24/7
2) provide fb/gf with some living expenses...they stick to u like glue.
3) Bring then for short cheap trip....they worshipped you, probably let you screw any hole on her body.
4) She bathed and powder herself while waiting for you to come over to spend time with her.

I will happily spend my money on my mistress and get good returns.
I used to go home with my sperm tank full and cannot release...how frustrating ! But now my sperm tank is always empty hehe.

I go home happy nowaday. Not a good solution for all, but it works for me.

Good for you bro! Glad you've worked out a system that keeps you sane.

Cheers,
Jim

[analog]

Originally Posted by bernardlee

Having a sexless marriage is very demotivating. I wonder my wife still love me or not. Now working so hard everyday is just to feed the family and pay the bills. Still got to do most of the housework. This marriage is a bloody trap and a curse. Marriage is not worth it. Can someone tell me how to find my goal in life now? Got to salvage the remaining of my life.

Bro:

END IT! Be a man, you don't need to put up with that kind of shit.
Refusal to engadge in sexual intercourse with your spouse is grounds for divorse.

Call a lawyer and start the rest of your life.

LEAVE.

Cheers,
jim

[vertex]

Originally Posted by analog

Then why get married?
Sorry bor, just doesn't compute here.

Cheers,
jim

because i guess for him marriage is a commitment to the woman he love?

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by analog

Then why get married?
Sorry bor, just doesn't compute here.

Cheers,
jim

Think they dont like kids. It's normal. One of my friend told me he dont like kids. Find them noisy, hate the responsibity. Thus he and gf decided not to have kids.