Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Sha_Gua75]

Originally Posted by SingViet

wah, finally appear after so long

Always around. Just dont bother to post

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by xyman

Oohh.. Back in Singapore?.. want to join me in Jan? Now 'bx' sweet to me again... Headache. Thought I can look for other syt.

YES ... I shoud be going 1st week of January ...

[volcano]

Originally Posted by PAPA YONG

Just thought of helping those really serious about living in Vietnam. I will be flying into HCMC, for fun and business - I can arrange a get-together with brothers interested to meet the husband and wife at their place in District 7, near the Lotte Mart.

Just don't tell them where you guys were gathered. Let me know for those interested

i also live near that area....

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by volcano

i also live near that area....

Me too...along Tran Xuan Soan D7...hihi....anyway we shall be having Xmas Dinner right...

[69ASIMO69]

waoh... me too in D7 huynh tan phat

[shysaint]

All live so near ... easy for gathering ....

NOT like me .. so far @ Binh Duong ....

[dodgyboi69]

I frequent HCM a lot bcos I have a lot of friends there. I recently found someone that I think is worth my time and effort. After breaking off with my ex, I got acquainted with T on Facebook. I kinda knew her because she works in the same bar as my ex. We chatted every night about random stuffs and our fave football club, Manchester united. I was very weary of her because I just got cheated from my ex. Out of impulse, I bought her a man united jersey because she's actually the first woman that I know who loves United and actually understands football.. And I bought that out of friendship. So when I went over to hcm, I passed her the jersey but have no intentions of anything further than friends. She was pretty weary of me as well when I gave her the jersey and gave me the "what the FFF" look.. I then got interested to one of her other colleague, V. We went out a bit as a group and the relationship between me and V blossomed. On my next trip, I spend almost all my time there with V and left T out of the picture. T called me out and asked me how come we never hung out. I told her that I was busy. I then make an effort to meet up with her together with my godsisters and V. My godsisters did not like T because of the longstanding feud that they had long before I came into the picture. So from the start, they already bad mouth T to me. I took everything with a pinch of salt because girls will be girls when they bitch fit! After the meeting, I kinda insulted T by calling her a fake but that was only meant to be a joke. T cried. I was so in shock and called her when I got home. She asked me why I didn't call her when I come hcm cos she thought we're friends. And did my godsisters bad mouth her and all.. I decided to tell her the truth. I told her that I'm going out with V. She cried on the phone. She didn't talk to me for the next few days when I was in VN.. It was then I realized that she actually have a liking for me. Me and V did not work thru. On my 3rd trip, I stopped going out with V because we are simply worlds apart. And I started going out with T. It was a beautiful. Of course she gave me a hard time cos it's obvious that in the back of her mind, she knows that she's the 2nd choice after V. I tried so many tests on her to check her sincerity. I also give her the ultimate test of giving her 10m every month to support her even though we're not an item yet. She rejected and called me stupid instead. I was impressed. Cos that's the end game for all VN girls who go for money. We talked every night when I'm in SG and when I'm in VN, she'll be with me almost every other day. Even my ex never done this before. But we're still not an item. She just came out of very bad relationship with an ang moh who she was a victim of. We had our ups and downs like a normal LDR couple like trust issues and misunderstanding. 

Then on my 4th trip, something happened. She told me a little lie. After work, she told me that she wanna go home but ended up having supper with her colleagues. She really wanted to go home but her colleague psychoed her to come and show face to the new dj who wanted to treat the staffs to supper. She stayed for 20 minutes and left for home. She then text me when she got home. But I have no idea of her little outing. So the very next day, I met up with my god sisters and they told me that T went out yesterday and didn't go home right after work. They then told me that there're rumors that she likes the new dj. I was affected. I got paranoid. But I didn't confront her. She then got the wind that I knew about it and texted me. I replied by saying "why did you lie" and I got no answer for her. That made me even worse cos I thought that's it laa.. I then went to her bar cos I already promised a few friends. She did not even talk to me. Wondering what went wrong, I just drank up.. After she finish work, we talked. She told me that she did reply my SMS and even should it on her sent folder. It was a misunderstanding. I asked her why she lied. She said that she didn't need to report everything to me cos we're not together yet and said that it's just for 20mins or so and don't wanna complicate things. After that we made up and everything went well.
But all hell broke loose when my friend SMS her that she is a money grabber scum, prostitute and all those nonsense. It basically spoiled the day for us. She cried profusely for half a day. It was bad. So bad until I have to call in my Vietnamese god mum to talk to her. She told her all her feelings for me and all the issues that she had with me but she just can't stop thinking that she's the 2nd choice and that all my friends think that she's a cheat like my ex.. I'm all lost.. Any advise? 

[happy000]

I am curious - in fact very curious. How come you are looking for a gf at entertainment outlet such as bar etc.

Don't you think that finding a gf outside of the entertainment circle will be more fruitful?

Originally Posted by dodgyboi69

I frequent HCM a lot bcos I have a lot of friends there. I recently found someone that I think is worth my time and effort. It was then I realized that she actually have a liking for me. Me and V did not work thru. On my 3rd trip, I stopped going out with V because we are simply worlds apart. And I started going out with T. It was a beautiful. Of course she gave me a hard time cos it's obvious that in the back of her mind, she knows that she's the 2nd choice after V. I tried so many tests on her to check her sincerity.

Then on my 4th trip, something happened. She told me a little lie. After work, she told me that she wanna go home but ended up having supper with her colleagues. She really wanted to go home but her colleague psychoed her to come and show face to the new dj who wanted to treat the staffs to supper. She stayed for 20 minutes and left for home. She then text me when she got home. It was bad. So bad until I have to call in my Vietnamese god mum to talk to her. She told her all her feelings for me and all the issues that she had with me but she just can't stop thinking that she's the 2nd choice and that all my friends think that she's a cheat like my ex.. I'm all lost.. Any advise? 

[volcano]

Originally Posted by dodgyboi69

I frequent HCM a lot bcos I have a lot of friends there.I'm all lost.. Any advise? 

bro,from ur posting...i feel that u r not green in Vietnam....u should be able to detect or filter off any bad intension from the gal if u can keep r head cool....

btw...how often do u come HCMC???...fortnightly or monthly???...if u r unable to do that then i wouldn't encourage u to have long distant relationship with the gal....furthermore she is working in a bar....temptation r too high in this kind of places....i am afraid that u will be heart broken in the future if u plunge urself too deep into that love web....

anyway....u should make the choice urself carefully....above its just my humble advice to u......

[volcano]

Originally Posted by 69ASIMO69

waoh... me too in D7 huynh tan phat

ooooooooh.............tats a very long stretch of road.....

[volcano]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

Me too...along Tran Xuan Soan D7...hihi....anyway we shall be having Xmas Dinner right...

very very near to me....maybe we can just meet along the river banks for coffee instead of travelling to windows 4....kekeke.....

i have booked a room for 25 pax.......

[dodgyboi69]

Originally Posted by volcano

bro,from ur posting...i feel that u r not green in Vietnam....u should be able to detect or filter off any bad intension from the gal if u can keep r head cool....

btw...how often do u come HCMC???...fortnightly or monthly???...if u r unable to do that then i wouldn't encourage u to have long distant relationship with the gal....furthermore she is working in a bar....temptation r too high in this kind of places....i am afraid that u will be heart broken in the future if u plunge urself too deep into that love web....

anyway....u should make the choice urself carefully....above its just my humble advice to u......

It depends on my availability.. I usually go hcm every month. It's kinda my getaway spot. Sometimes even 2 or 3 times a month.
I know that she works in a bar but I guess they're still girls too. Temptation is too high for them but I guess it's worth the risk. I've done enough intel and tests on her and I'm a kind of person who has trusts issues.. So far she passed the test with flying colors. I might just take the plunge. Still deciding.

[dodgyboi69]

Originally Posted by happy000

I am curious - in fact very curious. How come you are looking for a gf at entertainment outlet such as bar etc.

Don't you think that finding a gf outside of the entertainment circle will be more fruitful?

I understand what you mean. These kind of things just happen. I wasn't looking but it just appeared in front of me so I gave it a try. I'm more of a guy who enjoys freedom but if these kind of things open up, ill just give it a shot. No harm trying.. Maybe harm to your wallet laa.. Hahah.. But it's kinda a life experience. But this girl happens to be different from all the rest including our Singapore girls. I just wanna be with her..

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by dodgyboi69

I understand what you mean. These kind of things just happen. I wasn't looking but it just appeared in front of me so I gave it a try. I'm more of a guy who enjoys freedom but if these kind of things open up, ill just give it a shot. No harm trying.. Maybe harm to your wallet laa.. Hahah.. But it's kinda a life experience. But this girl happens to be different from all the rest including our Singapore girls. I just wanna be with her..

We always feel that our Viet Gal is different from others. She is always better than Singaporean gal, different from other Viet FL and better looking than other Vietnamese spouse you have come across. Viet gals are not stupid, they know when you are testing her and how she should react to gain your trust so that she can cut you apart in the near future. This is the reason why so many marriages with viet ladies are falling apart these days. Often, we do not realise and refuse to admit that we want to marry this viet gal because she's damm good on bed, or she can give a damm shiok BBBJ. New is fresh and is always attractive. But when the freshness fades away after marriage, when her family knocks on your door every other week to ask for financial support, you will start to realise the decision made may just not be right.

But of course, things may turn out to be good too. She may just be a loving wife, a good make love partner and possible a good mother. But chances are so slim, take the plunge and pray for the best? Is it just too risky? Marriage is not about signing the marriage certificate, have sex when you feel like it. Its about responsibilities. Many fail to realise this and end up in divorce.

I used to cheong frequently in Saigon and in Singapore. But after marriage and having kids, i cut down drastically. Now, lagi worse. I have not stepped into a bar, pub or disco for the past few years. Not that i am that broke and cannot afford , i will rather save the money for my kids to enjoy. Happiness is being able to spend time at home with my kids and wife. Happiness is when i invest my money, earn more, provide good life for my parents, wife and kids. Cheonging is a thing of the past.

Think about it, are you ready to start a family? Are you ready to support your wife and maybe have kids? Are you financially stable? Are you ready to stop cheonging and have a good family? Points to consider, points to note but realistic and practical

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by volcano

very very near to me....maybe we can just meet along the river banks for coffee instead of travelling to windows 4....kekeke.....

i have booked a room for 25 pax.......

hahaha...windows 4 is just to pamper myself with internet and surfing...oso to meet frens...can always meet you alone there in D7 but my daily morning pilgrimage to windows 4 remain...