Understanding Vietnamese Life Partner

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by coper99

dude,, all these problems oni hv 1 concrete solution.. STOP sendin them MONEY n e truth wil surface sooner than u hv expected..,

To WL...no money means goodbye to you...hello new bf...so many Sinkies want to hug her and give her money...so no loss to her la...

Originally Posted by naemlo

I am in Vietnam to find a different ger.

Wish you good luck...another ger fell victim to your charm...

Originally Posted by Seletar

No money no more friendship, no love, very realistic

khong co tien khong co chiim....translate no money no honey...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by carmeo88

My wife going back next week will be buying a 21 sony TV, wonder how much would it cost there.

should be cheap ...

I brought a Samsung 42" plasma plus + High-Fi System + Display Table for about $1500 or less , can't remember ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by Seletar

Bro,
She wants a queen size bed so that when I go there, I can sleep with her. Bro can highlight to me roughly how much a queen size bed cost? Normal type lah, not Dunlopillow or King Koil, otherwise my ATM card will spoil. Actually I think single size mattress put on the floor will do. Why must waste money buying Queen size bed ? I don't mind sleep on the floor.

Another thing she don't have a T.V, but she does not ask lah, any body know how much a T.V cost over there ? If want so many things I will die cock standing.

Bro ,

Bro Hurrican is correct, no need to buy a bed ..... just a big mattress is good enough, easy maintenance ...

my wife house also no bed, just a queen size mattress where she sleeep with her mum ....

So now I brought a queen size mattress (not the good type) for 500k dong , so that when I am there she can sleep with me in the hall and her mum in the room ...

[shysaint]

Originally Posted by SingViet

not trying to scare you bro, but such things happen too frequently. so what if you install a camera and caught her for something you are not willing to see, you cannot do anything to her. just be careful and cautious

Bro Hurricane and Bro Singviet ...

You really scare the hell out of him ..

[xyman]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

khong co tien khong co chiim....translate no money no honey...

In Vietnam context is, 'got money is ongxa, no money is dou ma'

Just came back from hcm, the massage girl told me she earn around USD2,000 a month and she give all to her father mother. She say they are only happy when she give money to them, they know what their daughter is doing and do not feel shameful.

This trip also confirm that those girls that can make it will stay in hcm, only 2nd class and rejected come over Singapore, or those that manage to find a good husband to settle down.

[xyman]

I went hcm during the weekend and went out with 4vn girls to disco, all work in Singapore before and 3 was caught before. Was in the cab with them when one of the girls received a call from her boyfriend I think. She told her bf in mandarin that she going out to buy things and will call him later. The funny thing is everyone, including me and the cab driver, keep quiet and never make noise.

That day I was drunk and my vn girlfriend call me in the cab. She ask me if I am with any girl or not and I say no. I pass the phone to the cab driver and he told her I was alone while the 4 girls keep quiet behind. I just think that is quite funny cos no one need to say anything and will coordinate with the rest.

It also make me wonder if my girlfriend is really home when she is talking to me. So many times the vn girls will tell their bf that they not feeling well and at home when they are actually in my car and going to hotel with me. It also make me think if my vn girl is doing the same to me.

Originally Posted by automobile

Firstly happy new year 2011 to all bros and wish u guys the best for this year.

I have been in contact with a viet gal for about one year ever since she was deported back from Spore and i am seriously looking for some advice from the viet bros who are married to vietnamese or have been in a serious relationship with vietnamese...

I would like to thank in advance any bros who bother to read and replies to my thread whether good or bad comments , greatly appreciate as long as it comes from the heart.

Here is my story :

Got to know this viet gal in Spore in dec 2009 ... she was deported back in may 2010 until now we have been in contact ever since.... we speak to each other on a daily basis... i have been up to vn to vist her 4 times ever since she was deported back .. but honestly i dunno much about that place..

I have asked for her father her hand in marriage with her around he replied to me saying that if you are serious bring your parents up to discuss.. i have been to her province in "tien gang" and have seen her relatives but seriously i think all these do not mean anything special..

Her family is quite big.. she have 2 elder sisters now ... 3 small kids .. one is her daugther which is 9 years old the other two belongs to her elder daughter who passed on and the husband is not around.. she have an elder brother and a younger sister , her mother and her father who is very very sick now... all these i seen with my own eyes...

So far from my knowledge , the 2 elder sisters r not working but they are married already .. her bro , her younger sis and mom are also not working.. She say she is the only reponsible one taking care of the family .. her mom , dad and the 3 small kids...

i can tell that money is very important to her.. she tells me she is in debts.. but i dunno how much truth is there in that.. she asks me for money like on a regular basis once or twice a month ... in the past i use to quarrell and get pissed off with her over this money issue constantly.. until now at this level i have accepted money is important to her and give her some allowance every month...

She tell me she is in debts .. which i seriously dunno.. she ask me to help her settle her debt .. which the amount is the same as the allowance i give her.. so now the allowance money i dun give i just give money to settle her debts monthly which in the end makes no difference actually.

I can feel that she cares for me.. she have expressed her feelings of wanting to come back to singapore and have a future with me...but i really dunno if she comes back to spore will she cock up anot ... she have asked me questions like :when i come back spore where do we stay ? will your mum and siblings accept me ?

Than sometimes she tells me that she feels that she is wasting my time because of her sitaution .. sometimes ask me to wait sometimes tell me to just do whatever i want..

she also have expressed her feelings of wanting her daughter to come to singapore to stay or whichever as long as we three are together...

The bad thing is .. she have lied to me many times before.. she is not totally honest with me.. ... She have vietanmese guy at vn i have caught her a few times already... i found out when the viet guy called me and send me stupid smses.. how did he get my no? ... surely when he was with her together la ... i think he does not like what is goin on between me and her... i questioned her about this.. she told me he and her used to be lovers.. is he something more to her are they together or just fling? i really dunno la... i know she really cares for me sometimes when i see the things she do.. but sometimes when all these happen i really dunno what to say ...

Many people tell me slowy take my time to see.. but the more i see the more i get blur....

bro's any advice.. the bro's who are married to viets or have been with viets in long relationships.. what do u think.. am i in a tragic comedy ????

[xyman]

Originally Posted by Seletar

Last night about mid night time I received several smses from a friend of my gf, she said in the sms that my gf lied to me many things and she told me becareful of my money. This girl who sms me is the one who introduced my gf to me. They quarrel over certain things, and this girl spills the beans telling me my gf has 5 men including me and many more lies.....

I realised bro, Hurricane told me do not trust WL. And another bro, forgot who, may be is Volcano or Shysaint told me, just believe 50%. I am confused, last night did not sleep at all. Is it the girl who quarrel with her jealous I give my gf money or my gf bad mouth her ?? Why this girl don't tell me earlier before I lost my money ? Bro, pls help me

I have actually propose to shysaint on maintaining a register of vn girls who we have relationship with. This list is keep offline and kept and maintain by a few senior samsters. This register will have

1) name of your vn
2) last four digit of your girl hp
3) the period which you and her together
4) the allowances thar you give her
5) events or things that happen that make you suspicious of her.
6) where she usually work at

But to prevent any abuse or providing fake info, anyone that want to register to have access will need to provide their own telephone number and their true name.

What do you all think? With this list we will know a lot of things.. The vn girls also help cover up for each other. They can tell me my girl is bathing or sleeping and later you see another friend they tell she doing other thing when in the end you see her coming coming back to home from shopping.

[volcano]

Originally Posted by automobile

she have lied to me many times before.. she is not totally honest with me.. ... She have vietanmese guy at vn i have caught her a few times already..

u have already know the answer isn't it???

[volcano]

Originally Posted by xyman

So many times the vn girls will tell their bf that they not feeling well and at home when they are actually in my car and going to hotel with me. It also make me think if my vn girl is doing the same to me.

why r u together with her when u cant even trust her on this kind of matters???u r just making ur life miserable isn't it???

n paiseh,no offence to the bros here,if i might sound too straight forward on the next issue....for bros that always claim that the WL is ur gf or lover....pls always bear in mind whats their main motive in coming over to work....its MONEY!!!!
they will like to have a bf who can shower them with love n concern,but they will also find other ways to go earn money....of cos there r rare cases where the WL is really good hearted but is being 'forced' to work bcos of difficulties...but bro,the amount might only be 5%.....

telling a white lie is sometimes better then telling the truth....hence,believing a white lie sometimes can let u have better sleep in the night.

[volcano]

Originally Posted by xyman

Just came back from hcm, the massage girl told me she earn around USD2,000 a month

earning more then 40 million dongs as massage gal?....quite difficult for me to believe....may i know which is that massage place?if she can take back 40 million dongs then she must have earn at least around 50 million dongs...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by xyman

In Vietnam context is, 'got money is ongxa, no money is dou ma'

Just came back from hcm, the massage girl told me she earn around USD2,000 a month and she give all to her father mother. She say they are only happy when she give money to them, they know what their daughter is doing and do not feel shameful.

WL has the biggest hobbies that is telling lies...telling lies and naming big sum earned is to see which stupit sinkies willing to pay them more........

WL think their chim made of vang...

I quote "IF you can trusts WL then pigs oso can climb trees..."

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by xyman

I went hcm during the weekend and went out with 4vn girls to disco, all work in Singapore before and 3 was caught before. Was in the cab with them when one of the girls received a call from her boyfriend I think. She told her bf in mandarin that she going out to buy things and will call him later. The funny thing is everyone, including me and the cab driver, keep quiet and never make noise.

Everything can stage and plan as long as you informed them you are coming...try to go and visit without informing her...omg...guararntee you see things she cannot stage and plan...hahaha...

[Hurricane88]

Originally Posted by xyman

What do you all think? With this list we will know a lot of things.. The vn girls also help cover up for each other. They can tell me my girl is bathing or sleeping and later you see another friend they tell she doing other thing when in the end you see her coming coming back to home from shopping.

I dun think this makes sense....if dun trusts her...then dun bother to be together...dun think any bro bother to spy on other bro gf..oso they stay diff places...how to handle this logistically...

In Vn...just pick a decent ger to be gf...dun pick WL...

[SingViet]

Originally Posted by xyman

In Vietnam context is, 'got money is ongxa, no money is dou ma'

Just came back from hcm, the massage girl told me she earn around USD2,000 a month and she give all to her father mother. She say they are only happy when she give money to them, they know what their daughter is doing and do not feel shameful.

This trip also confirm that those girls that can make it will stay in hcm, only 2nd class and rejected come over Singapore, or those that manage to find a good husband to settle down.

I think I mentioned about this several years ago. Only left overs WL comes to Singapore to work , the young, pretty and sexy WL can earn good $ in HCMC.

[Seletar]

Originally Posted by Hurricane88

WL has the biggest hobbies that is telling lies...telling lies and naming big sum earned is to see which stupit sinkies willing to pay them more........

WL think their chim made of vang...

I quote "IF you can trusts WL then pigs oso can climb trees..."

At first I dun believe, I thought she has changed after knowing me bcos I sent her money, but behind me she went H.K worked 2 weeks, she told me she went back grand mother house and the village there don't have socket to charge hp battery.So she called me everyday from public phone, I was con by her, I did not notice the incoming call no. All these are told by my gf's friend, they quarreled already.Lucky I discovered early, now stop all money remittance. Bro, Hurricane is right, dun trust WL, a lesson learnt, dun trust W.L