Wanted to married a China girl but i am married

[Megatronzombie]

Originally Posted by leecs

haha! its not the bonking im after if i go china! PERIOD!! just wana have her company for a few days & forget all the shit im having in singapore for a moment.

haha! My wife wont wan a baby. If she wants, we wont be having sex with condom for so many years. Just last year without condom. But still not pregnant. Maybe im weak or shes weak or shes been taking pills? I dont know.

Bro, just hear me out for 10 seconds... ok maybe 20 ;p

Take care of your current loveless situation first before you get messed into another. That way your head and conscience is clear.

Secondly, at 30, its the time for you to hit it out and get going on your career and earn your retirement at 40 - 50. There is no time for these kind of relationship situation. Which brings me back to point 1 which is, solve your marriage first.

Thirdly, sit down one night and seriously ask yourself, dun be afraid, why did you marry your wife in the first place and where you see you two will be in 10 years time? Will you be happily holding hand grow old together or will there be no conversation, eyes avoiding each other everyday kind of life?

hope the above helps. I know its generalising a bit but i cant go any deeper than that. Only you can Good luck!

[colins]

Originally Posted by leecs

haha! its not the bonking im after if i go china! PERIOD!! just wana have her company for a few days & forget all the shit im having in singapore for a moment.

haha! My wife wont wan a baby. If she wants, we wont be having sex with condom for so many years. Just last year without condom. But still not pregnant. Maybe im weak or shes weak or shes been taking pills? I dont know.

Of cos its not the bonking, its NOT THE BONKING you want what. Its the assurance that you are on the right path on divorcing your wife and going on with her. Its the assurance that you are right, somehow in choosing her over your wife.

Child issue is out la, bro DYBJ. There isn't an issue with that at all. It is the fact that the wife is treating his pleads in a nonchalantly manner. Cannot give him the pride he wants. All the comparisons with his friends, it is obvious.

leecs doesn't even know what he is talking about. But dun worry leecs, your PRC girl will tell you whatever you want to hear. In fact she knows you more than yourself to even give you what you want. None of this hocus pocus wife child shit. We ain't giving you anything you want. Nothing you can earn here, not respect certainly. You may notice we din even talk about how you are KC-ed by the PRC girl, although that is common knowledge.

Do tell your PRC KTV girl story, if you dare.

[leecs]

Originally Posted by Megatronzombie

Bro, just hear me out for 10 seconds... ok maybe 20 ;p

Take care of your current loveless situation first before you get messed into another. That way your head and conscience is clear.

Secondly, at 30, its the time for you to hit it out and get going on your career and earn your retirement at 40 - 50. There is no time for these kind of relationship situation. Which brings me back to point 1 which is, solve your marriage first.

Thirdly, sit down one night and seriously ask yourself, dun be afraid, why did you marry your wife in the first place and where you see you two will be in 10 years time? Will you be happily holding hand grow old together or will there be no conversation, eyes avoiding each other everyday kind of life?

hope the above helps. I know its generalising a bit but i cant go any deeper than that. Only you can Good luck!

Take care of your current loveless situation first before you get messed into another. That way your head and conscience is clear.
Thanks. I will take care of this 1st

Secondly, at 30, its the time for you to hit it out and get going on your career and earn your retirement at 40 - 50. There is no time for these kind of relationship situation. Which brings me back to point 1 which is, solve your marriage first.
Im now working very hard & earning as much $$$ as i can. I hope i can solve my marriage, but my feelings for her has somewhat died down.Not due to my PRC gal. But due to her attitude.

Thirdly, sit down one night and seriously ask yourself, dun be afraid, why did you marry your wife in the first place and where you see you two will be in 10 years time? Will you be happily holding hand grow old together or will there be no conversation, eyes avoiding each other everyday kind of life?
She wants to live the 2 of us for the rest of our lives. .

[DO_YOU_BJ]

See how point 3 contridicts point 2?
Ok me wash hands.......Sofitel rooms balcony door can open one.....hehehahaha

[leecs]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

See how point 3 contridicts point 2?
Ok me wash hands.......Sofitel rooms balcony door can open one.....hehehahaha

haha..........

[Megatronzombie]

So deep down you already have your answers..

by the way... i learnt something many years ago when i too was busy pursuing career and money in my 20s... never ever neglet your other half, they will never appreciate the diamonds, jewels or properties yyou bestow on them not because they dont understand but because when they first started off with you, you have nothing but yourselves to give and thats what they love about you, not your properties bla bla bla. Know what i mean? If a girl get satisfied with material wealth, she probably wont be there for you at the worst of your times.

Originally Posted by leecs

Take care of your current loveless situation first before you get messed into another. That way your head and conscience is clear.
Thanks. I will take care of this 1st

Secondly, at 30, its the time for you to hit it out and get going on your career and earn your retirement at 40 - 50. There is no time for these kind of relationship situation. Which brings me back to point 1 which is, solve your marriage first.
Im now working very hard & earning as much $$$ as i can. I hope i can solve my marriage, but my feelings for her has somewhat died down.Not due to my PRC gal. But due to her attitude.

Thirdly, sit down one night and seriously ask yourself, dun be afraid, why did you marry your wife in the first place and where you see you two will be in 10 years time? Will you be happily holding hand grow old together or will there be no conversation, eyes avoiding each other everyday kind of life?
She wants to live the 2 of us for the rest of our lives. Im not able to give her that.

[colins]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

See how point 3 contridicts point 2?
Ok me wash hands.......Sofitel rooms balcony door can open one.....hehehahaha

Many many contradictions other than this la.

Just now its wife dun want child, now it is her attitude.
Just now dun want child but can go raw, no pregnancy also dun know why, got pills or not also dun know.
Ask wife what she wants but in the same sentence want to go China very soon, like get the answer from wife also boh lasah.
Want to marry the girl can say still need to know her more....

Best of all, no story yet. Just "I really want this, and you wont understand cos its not this that I want, is it actually that..." kinda meaning.

Come on mr leecs, tell your story.

[Saint Dogbert]

You cannot have your cake and eat it. Either go for a divorce or forget about marrying her.

[cunt_search]

Originally Posted by TanChinKu

Sigh... it is because greedy guys like you that cause me to be left on the shelf

agreed 100%; one leg two boats
beware split in centre

[cunt_search]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

Let me tell you t....

You do not marry someone
1) to buy a HBD flat like many young couples do and live to regret it FOREVER!
2) cos you wanna have babies
3) cos you love her
4) cos she's a good fuck

You marry someone
1) cos she's reliable
2) cos she's got integrity
3) cos you know she'll be with you through thick and thin no matter what in sickness & in health or wealth
4) cos you know she will be a good mother and can take care of the family and share your burdens and contribute to the family wealth
5) cos she's also mentally ready to settle down and have a family of her own

....

Bro , I like your analysis and dissection of the topics
Honours Student Calibre

BTW, Thanks Bro Colins for upping my points; will return favor when capable

[kogi]

Originally Posted by leecs

She wants to live the 2 of us for the rest of our lives. .

Plus the dog.
She doesn't treat you well, she don't want to have kids with you, she don't want to socialise with your side of the family. She don't want to make the first move to break up but she's poking you in the back to be the bad guy to initiate it by challenging you to divorce.
One simple question. Which does she treat more lovingly. You or the dog? You know what your decision is.
No need to factor in the PRC girl to this. That issue is a sideshow to the main event. You may even realise there are many other fish in the sea once you are free.

[mebirdie]

After reading I find that you are a problem as well.

You are finding an excuse to divorce your wife.
First you get married to form a family.
Now you want to married another girl to kick off your wife.

Whether you want to divorce is another thing.
Do not mix around with the PRC appearance.

You can divorce but you may not have to marry the PRC girl.

[HairyBottom]

Originally Posted by leecs

Take care of your current loveless situation first before you get messed into another. That way your head and conscience is clear.
Thanks. I will take care of this 1st

Secondly, at 30, its the time for you to hit it out and get going on your career and earn your retirement at 40 - 50. There is no time for these kind of relationship situation. Which brings me back to point 1 which is, solve your marriage first.
Im now working very hard & earning as much $$$ as i can. I hope i can solve my marriage, but my feelings for her has somewhat died down.Not due to my PRC gal. But due to her attitude.

Thirdly, sit down one night and seriously ask yourself, dun be afraid, why did you marry your wife in the first place and where you see you two will be in 10 years time? Will you be happily holding hand grow old together or will there be no conversation, eyes avoiding each other everyday kind of life?
She wants to live the 2 of us for the rest of our lives. .

whether issit the current wife or future wife...in life its always difficult to find that someone who can perfectly matches the other's expectations. Before one decides to end a relationship and moves on to another one he has to be sure of his objectives in seeking a relationship - which, In this case the bro involved is clearly unsure of...it seems like the China girl is but a tool for him to run away from the problems he is currently facing in his marital affair...which, according to him...r mainly due to the uncompromising attitude of his wife towards childbirth.

in my opinion the bro involved should first try his best to tackle the main problem on hand...have some heart to heart dialogue with his wife...see if there r any possible solutions to compromise both's needs and expectations. At age 30 one may not be able to handle and overcome the problems marriage life gets to offer alone so it will be good to also seek professional advice with some counsellors annoymously if things get too heavy. Every marriage couples have their own problems but if the problems can be faced in a positive light the ending will certainly be very different...depending on individual's approach towards them. Jumping straight into the arms of a new girl to run away from existing problems will not do. It will only complicate matters instead of simplifying them.

[leecs]

Originally Posted by colins

Many many contradictions other than this la.

Just now its wife dun want child, now it is her attitude.
Just now dun want child but can go raw, no pregnancy also dun know why, got pills or not also dun know.
Ask wife what she wants but in the same sentence want to go China very soon, like get the answer from wife also boh lasah.
Want to marry the girl can say still need to know her more....

Best of all, no story yet. Just "I really want this, and you wont understand cos its not this that I want, is it actually that..." kinda meaning.

Come on mr leecs, tell your story.

Bro, i know there are many contradictions in what i write. You gotta be in my shoes to know it.

Im sorry.

[leecs]

Originally Posted by HairyBottom

whether issit the current wife or future wife...in life its always difficult to find that someone who can perfectly matches the other's expectations. Before one decides to end a relationship and moves on to another one he has to be sure of his objectives in seeking a relationship - which, In this case the bro involved is clearly unsure of...it seems like the China girl is but a tool for him to run away from the problems he is currently facing in his marital affair...which, according to him...r mainly due to the uncompromising attitude of his wife towards childbirth.

in my opinion the bro involved should first try his best to tackle the main problem on hand...have some heart to heart dialogue with his wife...see if there r any possible solutions to compromise both's needs and expectations. At age 30 one may not be able to handle and overcome the problems marriage life gets to offer alone so it will be good to also seek professional advice with some counsellors annoymously if things get too heavy. Every marriage couples have their own problems but if the problems can be faced in a positive light the ending will certainly be very different...depending on individual's approach towards them. Jumping straight into the arms of a new girl to run away from existing problems will not do. It will only complicate matters instead of simplifying them.

Even if theres no PRC or any girls in my picture, I've already somewhat no faith in this marriage. I've been giving in most of the time & keep my grievances in my heart. Did wana try to have a heart ot heart talk with her. But im afraid it will end up with her saying why dont we get a divorce.

Seems like she care for the dog more than my family gatherings or what not.