Wife & Sex - going through the motion

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by lizaleong

I hv same problem. My wife is very pretty and sexy, erynight wear lingerie, but hard to make her in the mood. Always say tired and busy.

So difficult for me to tahan. Usually i end up surfing porn. By the time i sleep. She is like naked on the bed after deep sleep on those lingerie. Then i got hard on again. Knn

SHe deep sleep then u shld have open the lingerie and attack. Joking!

Ya the situation u describe quite difficult. "Pity" u

[tantan1234]

Originally Posted by inkthatsmile

Just sharing my opinion, as a wifey of my VERY HIGH SEX DRIVE HUBBY and two kiddo(one infant and one toddler) its really really a chore, and honestly speaking it does affect our sex life and it is not easy...

Maybe due to childbirth(according to research it does affect some women on their sex drive especially to women that are breastfeeding)
Maybe due to simply being tired..and no doubt being a mum is really tired, I mean, imagine you guys doing all the work, taking care of a baby is really not an easy job, imagine having not enough sleep and yet have to tend a cranky baby.. Not easy.
Maybe due to simply not PASSIONATE enough?

Seriously many reasons is not told by wifey, maybe because we dare not voice out.

Honestly I feel super tired and KINDA irritated when my hubby constantly ask me for sex BUT i do feel bad rejecting him BUT at the same time Im really not in the mood for sex, SO sometimes I wonder am I suppose to just 'SEX' for the sake of it or should I simply just reject him because I do not want to 'sex' for sex.

Seriously sometimes I do wonder is sex everything in marriage? Sometimes when kids are involve decreasing number of times in sex is expected isnt? I admit I'm still in the young range but this type of stuff isnt really controllable isnt?

And I still don't understand how can man get so frustrated when they dont get sex?

Sister (if i am not wrong), I understand u perfectly. At times no mood means no mood. If u got give in to yr hubby then i supposed it is fine. Maybe u speak to him abt yr concern and come to a compromised. Perhaps when u no mood he got mood maybe just do a hand job lor.


I also find hubby should not expect wife to give in everytime. Married life sex shld be a give and take. For my case, I got no take, which is damn sad.
I can condescend for a quick hand job, but I only got a "NO, troublesome must wash hand". I wonder why she can't take it as a leave on hand moisturiser instead. AND I REMEMBERED clearly this is not the case before marriage. She never use hand tat time, because she sucks. ANd i wonder why that time she never say MUST WASH MOUTH. Thought mouth more dirty and tiring??!!

[asdfghjkl]

then those women who want but husbands do not want to give, how?

[Orchinno]

Actually, there's a way for you to relate since you're already a mother of two.
I assume that you have follow MOH guidelines and breastfeed your darlings.

If so, you will know the kind of "ache" that you will get if you don't express your milk.

Sama sama for high testosterone guys, there's a build up of "ache" until release.

Worse still, most guys are visual oriented. So see girls here, see girls there, with ladies wearing so daring nowadays, can can not have buildup? There's why conservative societies like to wrap up their women, or wear baggy clothing, or hide them, so the men can only functioning without all these distractions

Originally Posted by inkthatsmile

And I still don't understand how can man get so frustrated when they dont get sex?

[Shadow_warrior]

SORRY!!!

Sex is a vital part of marriage, and it should be an act of loving, giving or submitting to each other, all religious bodies will tell you that

if not, you would rather your husband go out and "Love" other women?

then women will call the man names, dirty old man, humsump

And yes bro, same happens when women want sex from their husbands and their husbands dont want to give

Its a marriage, thats why we do stuff we might not feel we want, in submission and giving to the one we pledge our lives too.

If not, men can always pay for sex if thats all we need, and women can go out and get ONS at clubs, pubs.

Take heart husbands want to have sex with wives and wives husbands, the day they dont want it from you, be sure he/she is contemplating getting it elsewhere.

Just look at the options a man has in this forum? Whats giving a little love to your husband so you can keep him behind your doors, and in your home.

[Botakhead]

So are we going to start a swapping of horny husbands with those horny wifes instead? Or maybe there should be a clause in the marriage vows, that when sex is needed, both party must gif and take willingly or else, adultery or eating outside is legal and not a cause for divorces? Agree?

Not everyone is noble enough to tahan married life without sex, be it regular or once in a blue moon. But those that (husbands or wifes) who does not want sex with their legal partners, rather eat outside quietly, why? If say no mood still can have sex with other people, why? Lost feel with each other after marriage, then found sumone more feel with, like that can? Then why get married in the first place? Make people's life miserable, wasted time, effort and commitment towards that failed marriage, sad.

[Shadow_warrior]

yes bro,

if people dont want to be part of the national statistics they need to wake up their idea about how marriage works

Why do marriages fail? Money, sex, extra marital affairs, these are the most common reasons

[apemcc]

Sorry to hear things are rough for you. 2x a year? Been to see doctors or psychiatric help? At least you are not frustrated enough to start looking outside...

Originally Posted by Babe8008

Some guys out there are lamenting tat they have so little sex like 2x a month...haha... My husband only want sex 2x a year .. Now... U guys muz be wondering WHY?.i know wat u guys r thinking of ..." Maybe I'm fat, ugly n unattractive"???

[Botakhead]

Originally Posted by Babe8008

Some guys out there are lamenting tat they have so little sex like 2x a month...haha... My husband only want sex 2x a year .. Now... U guys muz be wondering WHY?.i know wat u guys r thinking of ..." Maybe I'm fat, ugly n unattractive"???

Hello Babe, care to share more and how did you overcum the lonelyness? How did you becum so strong in will power? Have you also tried eating outside? Would love to hear your side of the story. Cheer up.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by inkthatsmile

And I still don't understand how can man get so frustrated when they dont get sex?

You will never understand, perhaps when the day comes when you touch your man and hope to turn him on and he tell you in the face that he is not interested or tire then you will know what the feeling like...or you would rather your man outsource his needs because you are constantly denying him...

[Sadlady]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

You will never understand, perhaps when the day comes when you touch your man and hope to turn him on and he tell you in the face that he is not interested or tire then you will know what the feeling like...or you would rather your man outsource his needs because you are constantly denying him...

I did experienced once when my fiance and i fought because i rejected him as i was still having my mens. He got so damn upset with me and that was the time we had longest cold war. It was only how i can feel how he feels when i initiated and he rejected me. That moment i told myself i wont inititate anymore and i cried for the whole night. Thereafter, we did had a hth talk. Things get much more better and i cant deny that sex does bring our relationship even more closer. I will always do my best to satisfy him because i love him, though after work i am quite tired esp during my peak period but i do understand his needs.

[Actione]

Man have needs. If you cant fulfill your man needs, dont start complaining when he finds someone else who can.

[Shadow_warrior]

Originally Posted by Actione

Man have needs. If you cant fulfill your man needs, dont start complaining when he finds someone else who can.

Yes bro, I totally agree

Men have many choices, coming back to the wife or gf is something we want to do, but if they reject too many times, well it hurts and we move on.

[asdfghjkl]

move on to who?

[BowBow]

Originally Posted by Actione

Man have needs. If you cant fulfill your man needs, dont start complaining when he finds someone else who can.

Agreed !!!
Wanna to intimate with my OC also need to ensure she is in good mood and sometimes I must beg for it ... Find someone else will be much more easier option. Sex is not everything but its part of the essential component to enusre a happy marriage.