Why do men stray - Page 7

callmebad · #91 24-09-2011, 02:40 AM

actually human beings are biologically born not to be faithful, it is just the social norms that tie people down to one partner

chocz · #92 24-09-2011, 10:16 AM

Meaning, because of all the above reasons stated, we women have to be understanding when men strayed - as it's really not their fault / they do not wish to stray(but can't help it) also?

i'm confused.

ahboyyy · #93 24-09-2011, 01:17 PM

It takes 2 hands to clap... difference is the man's hand tends to try clapping more often than our counterparts! :P

FunGuy70 · #94 24-09-2011, 02:45 PM

Well... there was a saying.." Is wise to buy a milk to drink outside n throw than bring the cow home for milk "

orneryjoe · #95 24-09-2011, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Alf1977

It is sad why girls are borned to be prostitutes to service guys.

No, it isn't. For many women who are lacking in other skills, exploiting their erotic capital - a valuable asset - is the natural and intelligent thing to do. Not all women are, or can be, sex workers. And not all sex workers will succeed in their line of work.

It's not just men who crave sexual variety, by the way. Women do too. And ironically, the world of commercial sex may be that mode of sexuality most suitable for humans -- many men having sex with many women.

We are non-monogamous by nature -- men, as well as women.

orneryjoe · #96 24-09-2011, 04:37 PM

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Originally Posted by zacarie

why do men or even women stray?
this is one qns where there is no ans.
we humans know tt it is wrong. and when it does happen, we give all kinds of reasons on y we do it...

Obviously not true that there is no answer. Perhaps there are many answers. But the most insightful answer possibly is that we stray because we are generally a non-monogamous species.

Seeking sexual variety is considered wrong only in a society conditioned to think of monogamy as the ideal paradigm. This was actually a very recent development in human evolutionary development -- about 10,000 years at most. For hundreds of thousands of years or even more before the discovery of agriculture (and civilization and religion....), the default was many men having sex with many women. That is still, deep in our heads, the most natural way to behave.

fervent · #97 24-09-2011, 10:42 PM

Those who remain loyal to one partner are in fact straying from their natural inclination.

chocz · #98 25-09-2011, 05:35 PM

so my husband who has been 'eating out' with the PRCs and FLs etc - he's just behaving 'normally' ?
If so, I should not be too surprised or even asked him about it - because it's just a 'normal activity' of men ? And continue to let him be?

orneryjoe · #99 26-09-2011, 05:25 AM

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Originally Posted by chocz

so my husband who has been 'eating out' with the PRCs and FLs etc - he's just behaving 'normally' ?
If so, I should not be too surprised or even asked him about it - because it's just a 'normal activity' of men ? And continue to let him be?

What is the alternative? You could confront him, be intolerant about it -- this could lead to a divorce. Are you prepared for this?

You could be less confrontational, talk to him honestly about it, and if he is still active sexually with you as well, insist that he wears a condom every time he has sex with you or anyone else.

You could just look the other way and appreciate that apart from the sex, there are possibly many other ties that bind the both of you together.

Simultaneously, if sex is still important to you, you could also seek satisfaction outside if your sex life with him is not completely satisfactory. You have that right, but of course, you needn't exercise it if you don't wish to do so.

At the bottom line, you need to face the plain truth that humans are non-monogamous by nature. Read "Sex At Dawn" by C Ryan & C Jetta. It's available at many branches of our National Library. For more info, take a look at this site.

delayer · #**100** 26-09-2011, 05:53 PM

the missing factor... communication...

have you ever wondered what happen... the spark is gone...
be it stress from work...? or is it after having kids.. the body has start to go out of shape... or the in law giving u stress ... lesser sex happen... and ur menses.. more emo.... lesser makeup... lesser dress up and lesser initiating of sex.. lesser bedroom talk.. lesser go out together time of shopping...

bring him out to dress him up.. bring him out and buy lingerie and bring him into the changing room to ask for opinion..
go for holiday..

guy... are a "look" creature... if they will stray they will.. no matter what.
also depend on their character... if they are not the straying kind.. they wont...

chocz · #**101** 26-09-2011, 11:14 PM

i do get my fair share of likings from men all these while.. i do dress up and make efforts to look good and attractive always, and i dress sexily, sometimes for him. But eventually, he still went out to eat.

so guess i'm not the one for him then? since he enjoys dining out.

sex means a great deal to me. i am one who can just have it right now and the, anytime! Still, he went out to eat.

so, being non-monogamous by nature, its just a norm for men/women.
I'm not going to be confrontational, but neither am I going to let him to bring a total darkness to my world, my life.

He chose to do this, i have my freedom of choice too.

RobinH00d · #**102** 27-09-2011, 05:03 PM

i stray becos my wife stopped being intimate to me...

said i stinked like a pig ..ooin ooin....

while someone else say i smell so nice.... kidding nia... pay $$$ even if u hv BO prcs will say u smell like chanel no 5 lol

orneryjoe · #**103** 28-09-2011, 08:17 PM

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Originally Posted by chocz

i do get my fair share of likings from men all these while.. i do dress up and make efforts to look good and attractive always, and i dress sexily, sometimes for him. But eventually, he still went out to eat.

so guess i'm not the one for him then? since he enjoys dining out.

sex means a great deal to me. i am one who can just have it right now and the, anytime! Still, he went out to eat.

so, being non-monogamous by nature, its just a norm for men/women.
I'm not going to be confrontational, but neither am I going to let him to bring a total darkness to my world, my life.

He chose to do this, i have my freedom of choice too.

Please note that it would be wrong to conclude that he doesn't love you just because he also has sex with other women. He could still love you very much and be attracted to you sexually Simultaneously, he could also be craving for some variety.

And yes, of course, you are also free to do your thing. How he reacts to that would depend on how enlightened he is.

Weissb · #**104** 28-09-2011, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by chocz

i do get my fair share of likings from men all these while.. i do dress up and make efforts to look good and attractive always, and i dress sexily, sometimes for him. But eventually, he still went out to eat.

so guess i'm not the one for him then? since he enjoys dining out.

sex means a great deal to me. i am one who can just have it right now and the, anytime! Still, he went out to eat.

so, being non-monogamous by nature, its just a norm for men/women.
I'm not going to be confrontational, but neither am I going to let him to bring a total darkness to my world, my life.

He chose to do this, i have my freedom of choice too.

Totally agree! Of cos there's gd man ard, but how many % nia?

Xensualize · #**105** 29-09-2011, 04:03 PM

I say guys cheat because they want to reignite the passion la. So simple. Or they just wanna have a good time because their wife not up to the mark Liao..