I’m happy with average.

[Overwatch]

My first post here on this great forum where I learnt many things and met a few memorable people who has changed my life much for the better.

I want to dedicate this thread to share some experiences and tips to fellow bros. I’m only in my mid to late twenties, so my experience and wisdom cannot compare to the laojiaos here, but hopefully maybe we can all learn something from each other.

Many threads here focus on hooking up with FLs, air stewardesses, etc. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I’m happy with the average girl in the street.

I’m a very low key (or rather, non-conformist) person in life - not the kind that you would expect to go clubbing, gaming, or even late night supper. I abhor drinking, smoking, or staying up late. My only vice is XMMs (who are of legal age only).

My stoic/nerdy face makes me an unmemorable person to most, and the only time someone calls me handsome is when I’m paying that person for their service. My teeth is uneven, and I don’t have a smile to bare for (unlike those who have worn braces or have naturally perfectly aligned teeth).

Speaking of XMMs, I don’t have much expectations of them at all. As a XDD (back then), a sizeable number of girls are “acceptable”. It doesn’t mean that you have boobs and a vagina that I would be interested in you, but based on physical appearances, I did find quite a plentiful number of XMMs who were attractive to me. In number-speak, they may be your 5s, 6s, or 7 (at most).

I’m interested in 8s, 9s, and 10s (if they even exist), but I realise many of them come with too much baggage or expectations. To me, I would go for a 5-7 girl who’s crazy (but not thattt crazy) over me any day. Someone who has an all-rounded package and also unblemished so to speak.

Out of these 5-7 type of girls whom I’ve dated, they range from a micro social media influencer, a PhD graduate, a high-flyer HR manager, and… just a simple millennial girl who is happy to be doing a 9-5 job with occasional OT. I know you’re thinking - bro, the description all sound like not very average leh. To put things in perspective, average here means that you won’t take a second look at them down the street (unless you have same taste as me). They are unlikely to have any make-up applied on them, nor do they have any body-hugging dresses that make you want to find out what’s behind it.

I’m happy with average.

[issaac72]

Appreciate your sharing.
Average is good enough if it is good enough for you.

[nkyc]

No free lunch they say. All the above avg girls i know expect some big sacrifice esp if they let u F them. I don't believe in fwb, there's always a catch. If u single can play all u want, when u committed if still wanna play, play carefully and don't get caught.

[Xgenre]

So given the choices are between (average + happy) and (pretty + crazy), choosing to be in an averagely happy relationship is a smart choice. Good option for day to day, rest of your life. She will be good mum material too

Because the other option is to be with someone who is pretty crazy. seen too many pretty mums crazily scolding their kids. Hard for the father to step in too because he will also kenna scolded

[oxeso]

2 posts, 138 pts is way above average.
失敬失敬。

[Polar.Bear]

Kor kor, you have any pictures to show us your average standards?

[Peacekeeping]

I can find an “average” gf anytime I want and get free sex. Point of paying is to fuck girls who are out of our league to satisfy our desires. I have zero desire for average girls.

[Angmolover]

Originally Posted by Overwatch

My first post here on this great forum where I learnt many things and met a few memorable people who has changed my life much for the better.

I want to dedicate this thread to share some experiences and tips to fellow bros. I’m only in my mid to late twenties, so my experience and wisdom cannot compare to the laojiaos here, but hopefully maybe we can all learn something from each other.

Many threads here focus on hooking up with FLs, air stewardesses, etc. I don’t know if it’s just me, but I’m happy with the average girl in the street.

I’m a very low key (or rather, non-conformist) person in life - not the kind that you would expect to go clubbing, gaming, or even late night supper. I abhor drinking, smoking, or staying up late. My only vice is XMMs (who are of legal age only).

My stoic/nerdy face makes me an unmemorable person to most, and the only time someone calls me handsome is when I’m paying that person for their service. My teeth is uneven, and I don’t have a smile to bare for (unlike those who have worn braces or have naturally perfectly aligned teeth).

Speaking of XMMs, I don’t have much expectations of them at all. As a XDD (back then), a sizeable number of girls are “acceptable”. It doesn’t mean that you have boobs and a vagina that I would be interested in you, but based on physical appearances, I did find quite a plentiful number of XMMs who were attractive to me. In number-speak, they may be your 5s, 6s, or 7 (at most).

I’m interested in 8s, 9s, and 10s (if they even exist), but I realise many of them come with too much baggage or expectations. To me, I would go for a 5-7 girl who’s crazy (but not thattt crazy) over me any day. Someone who has an all-rounded package and also unblemished so to speak.

Out of these 5-7 type of girls whom I’ve dated, they range from a micro social media influencer, a PhD graduate, a high-flyer HR manager, and… just a simple millennial girl who is happy to be doing a 9-5 job with occasional OT. I know you’re thinking - bro, the description all sound like not very average leh. To put things in perspective, average here means that you won’t take a second look at them down the street (unless you have same taste as me). They are unlikely to have any make-up applied on them, nor do they have any body-hugging dresses that make you want to find out what’s behind it.

I’m happy with average.

U met a few memorable people with just the first post. Wow. that is amazing and bullshit.

[nilmar123]

Totally agree with your take.
Spoken to so many guys here, some in their mid 20s to 30s who are virgins.
They want to lose their virginity so bad, but they just want to go for the 10/10s and pass on the 5-7/10s who are the majority of ladies on dating apps.
In the end, all they do everyday is close the door and fap to the 10/10s.
Basically just dreaming forever.

[Zxpd]

Lmao if I’m paying money I ain’t settling for average.

[Overwatch]

Principles
The search for love is inherent within us mortal beings. Maybe you’re flinching when I say “love” in this very forum. To put it in a more mortal way, the search for a fellow being who can understand us. Understanding someone comes in many forms, such as knowing what they do, how they do what they do, and of course, why they do what they do; this seems easy. But how many people feel understood in this day and age of fleeting attention spans? Even if someone makes a conscientious effort to understand another, the receiving party may not “get” it; the effort becomes futile.

Most human’s inability to not understand another is because most people cannot understand that two sides of a coin exist. When we take a stand, we see the other side as someone who does not belong. Hence, we get along those whom we vibe with only. There’s nothing wrong with that, but if you want to bed someone “out of your league” (so to speak), then this paragraph would probably help you out a lot.

I can babble on and forever about the point of understanding and being understood, but it is really because that’s the crux of it all (in my humble opinion). Once you grasp this concept (and apply it, duh), you’ll go a long way in any domain of life. Understanding a sentient being is tough to most, and feeling understood to most people is equally (or if not more) tough. This is why it’s so rewarding to those who get it.

Understanding someone and making them feel understood does not have to involve strenuous effort on any one’s end. You can easily kill two birds with one stone. Say the right things (or rather, ask the right questions), and the other person will feel like you’re an old friend in barely a few hours. What do old friends do? They do things that only the closest to them get to do.

Remember what I say about asking the (right) questions? Most people don’t feel heard, and are more than happy to air their grievance of the day, even if it’s nothing more than a fleeting thought that gradually piled into a volcanic complaint mass capable of eruption anytime. It’s easy to do, and most people will slowly pull back their mask the moment they find someone who’s trying to understand them.

Not much time on my hands today, more of thinking of the foundations. TLDR: There’s nothing fundamentally difficult about “the process”. Humans want to feel understood, and understanding others doesn’t require rocket science. For the latter, sufficient practice and patience would mean it’s as easy as abc.

[Peacekeeping]

Originally Posted by Zxpd

Lmao if I’m paying money I ain’t settling for average.

Exactly. There is a reason why china dump all the shitty girls here.

[LimPeng]

Sure or not it’s your first post

[Samkieu]

Just be ordinary person good enough.

[Bdj0011]

I agree. Average and simple life is good.