No sex after the birth of first kid

[Emmalingdream]

Suddenly a lot nice fathers here!!

but I must say. It's very true, if we feel that the father not helping or useless standing there.. will vomit blood

[rototime]

It actually normal. No all but most women will have posnatal and postpartum depression before and after child birth.. give her time, and in the meantime, treat her like how you will when you're dating, and she will get back on the track..

My situation is the other way round. my wife got super horny during pragnancy, and we got back in full swing after about 2 months after the first child birth.. second one she is not horny during, but still back in full swing after about the same time as the first.

[Xgenre]

Originally Posted by Emmalingdream

Suddenly a lot nice fathers here!!

Actually seeing a purple head come out of the vagina is very traumatic for guys too. Not many countries will insist/strongly encourage men to go into the delivery room. Many men lost interest in their wives after that image.

How many guys here lost interest in having sex with the wife after seeing a baby come out of the vagina?

[InCorp]

There is a thread - married man come in.
Guys with your similar predicament share their experiences.
You can read it up.

[Rossyboi]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

Actually seeing a purple head come out of the vagina is very traumatic for guys too. Not many countries will insist/strongly encourage men to go into the delivery room. Many men lost interest in their wives after that image.

How many guys here lost interest in having sex with the wife after seeing a baby come out of the vagina?

Delivery room, Twice. Very exciting to see em come out. Also saw doc stitch up down there. U should appreciate what your wife have to go thru.

Why will loose interest after seeing it? Not for me.

On the contrary, is wife start to loose interest in sex after 2nd kid. Haiz.

[ineedfriends]

Originally Posted by Xgenre

She is no longer just your wife. She is also the mother of your only child. Just because she isn't having sex with you now doesn't mean she isn't playing an important role in your life. Sex is just a 5-30 minute aspect of your lives whereas raising the child is a 24/7 role.

Are you doing your part in taking care of the baby? My 50 plus year old colleague told me that a good husband is someone who always reassures his wife that she is doing well as a mother/wife/woman. Don't stop sweet talking her regardless of age. I hear already I was like . Wish someone told me this simple truth a long time back.

Try adding （有你在身边真好/ so lucky I have a smart wife) into your daily statements. Boost her self confidence/ego first. The other effective way is to praise her in front of her family and friends. Adding witnesses to the process of boosting her confidence. It works!

Otherwise if she feels she cannot cope with being a mother, there will not be a 2nd child. Without the desire to have a 2nd child, there is lesser desire for sex.

Thanks for the wise encouragement! i 100% agreed with you

[ineedfriends]

Originally Posted by Rossyboi

Delivery room, Twice. Very exciting to see em come out. Also saw doc stitch up down there. U should appreciate what your wife have to go thru.

Why will loose interest after seeing it? Not for me.

On the contrary, is wife start to loose interest in sex after 2nd kid. Haiz.

same here, have 3 kids now!

what do you do now?

[Rossyboi]

Originally Posted by ineedfriends

same here, have 3 kids now!

what do you do now?

lol I’m at a sad state of mongering the Dome…

Being a regular employee, can’t afford to bao anyone… lol

Just YOLO. Smoke, drink… not planing to live too long… just wanna see my kids well off on their own.

[ineedfriends]

Originally Posted by Rossyboi

lol I’m at a sad state of mongering the Dome…

Being a regular employee, can’t afford to bao anyone… lol

Just YOLO. Smoke, drink… not planing to live too long… just wanna see my kids well off on their own.

waaa dont so sad bro! why need to bao sia?

[StealthBomber]

Originally Posted by Emmalingdream

Suddenly a lot nice fathers here!!

but I must say. It's very true, if we feel that the father not helping or useless standing there.. will vomit blood

Just because surfing this forum, does not mean is bad father, hahaha

Going for FL, WL is only to find an outlet for one thing. Other than that, can still fulfill the role of a good father. In fact, better than good, after the FL, WL helps you release that built-up stress or tension.

[Emmalingdream]

Originally Posted by StealthBomber

Just because surfing this forum, does not mean is bad father, hahaha

Going for FL, WL is only to find an outlet for one thing. Other than that, can still fulfill the role of a good father. In fact, better than good, after the FL, WL helps you release that built-up stress or tension.

hahaha no I don't mean bad father, but was saying the encouraging part of it! It's very nice to see the hub taking care of the wife after giving birth you see