Cheated

[DO_YOU_BJ]

Originally Posted by mentholfresh

Bro, move on... to forgive and forget is wiser than to be furious.

Bro, we can forgive, but we can never forget.
That's what makes us human.
But then again, if one can forget, then, he's superhuman liaozzzz

[Ichigo_Kurosaki]

In Bro Godzilla007 case, to Forgive and Forget is impossible.

He can try to work through forgiveness, well, that's totally up to him, BUT to forget may never happen. In all honesty, it is unlikely that he can completely forget. Especially when he never saw it coming will hardly be forgotten. It happened, and it caused a lot of pain and sadness. It is what it is.

Like Bro DO_YOU_BJ commented, we must remember that we are all human, and being so, we can “try with all our might” to push it back into the recesses of our mind - but it will appear, sometimes just as surprisingly as the wrong showed its face to us. We can't forget, we won't forget, and because our heart was destroyed, it will not allow us to forget. However, what we can is - to choose or to allow how much the event impacts us, and how much weight it will carry over time and not to allow this memory to be front and center in our mind at all time.

Coming back to Bro Godzilla007, Just be happy with the fact that she no longer has you as a cash cow and she will soon be up to her eyeballs in debt and this bastard will leave her when another SYT rider student comes along. In other words, hold you head up high and realise you are a better person and you have found another better woman and move on.

[mentholfresh]

Ok, if you can, forgive her. But what you can't do is to forget the lesson...

[superk92]

i understand your plight bro. Just let it go

[badboyzbleu]

Originally Posted by godzilla007

Hi bros, it has been 4 mths since i left my ex fiance and the truth is still coming to me abt how she cheats on me. it turns out that a guy has been chasing after her. It happens like this. i have been sending her to a driving ctr somewhere in singapore for her riding lessons. I paid for the riding lessons, everything, helmat, practical lessons. then there is one instructor who is a mother fucking bastard, decided to sweet talk her. and he know she is actually engaged to me but yet he decided to tried his luck. Fucking bastard got no respect for other people relationships. this happen earlier in this year. and so this bastard bring her out, even to a weekend getaway in batam which i found the photos in the laptop i bought for her. and did i mentioned this bastard has a gf working in the same place as him. it turned out she has been taking my money to buy things for him and to go on holidays wif him while we were still together. to think i have been working hard to provide for her and she do fucking this to me. and recently when i bump into her, she is now wif that bastard. so all those msgs she sent to me abt being sorry for wat she has done to me and not realising how important i was in her life was lies!!! and when i ask for my money back, she say she dun owe me anything! fucking hell! and the bastard has the cheek to fuck me back!! fucking hell! i just walk away as it is not worth a fight over a stupid gal.

and i have move on already. found a lovely gal which is very understanding and loving... i must say it is a blessing in disguise. i can't imagine if i had married my ex and she doing all this to me. i believed in karma and she will surely get what she deserves for cheating on me, my money and my family. i provided everything for her and she was being ungrateful to me...

honestly, i feel that most of the instructors in the centre teaching class 2b are loser. Y? that keep behaving like they are TP. WTF! godzilla007, ta po kiah! no need to scare no money! next time, only treat you wife well, not gf! gf all for fun. of cos u have to choose the right gal to be your wife. don't worry! u can make it!

[godzilla007]

bro badboy! i agree with you, those instructors only wayang... they believe they are so expert in riding bikes. and those 2B learners can somemore treat them like king. thank god i neva treat them like one when i was a learner. not a sucker.

and to all the brother here who have replied to me, thanks people.. Life is a bitch at times. We sacrificed for loved ones but yet they play us out. i take this as a lesson learnt, money lost can be earned, heart broken can be mend but the pain will never be forgotten. Just have to swallow the bitter pill and move on. also pray that she will have a happier life. no point holding grudges and hatred to this kind of people. a waste of energy and time.

and there is always karma.......Cheers people!!

[jimboy_203]

First of all, most young chaps like you like to 'how lian', shower her with lots of gifts and LV bags, live within your means; rule of thumb, mine, spend one tenth of what you earn or save on your gf. True love dont need any pampering. I have to admit while i am in my early twenties till late twenties, fall into this trap like yours. Dated very beautiful ladies and capable ladies, ego in me say i must pamper them with materials things, In the end i ended up a poor chap till late thirties, by then after a handful of GF w 2 nearly tie down by marriage, i woke up one day to relaise the true meaning of love. Kani na . Now i am in my late 30s with a averge looking wife. But hell she loves me for who i am now. While dating her, she does not have a LV bag and never asked for one. It was the forth year into the marriage that i bought her 1 for our wedding anneversary; without her asking. Time will make you a better man as you age like most of us. Cheers!

[euritage]

Godzilla...

I sympathise with you... it hurts... it really really hurts...

don't think abt revenge... ure not gonna be happy at the end of it...

u will think abt her... but pull through... and u will learn and live again...

similarly, i've also went thru the same experience as you. run myself near bankrupt with loans, credit card debts that im still paying off till today.
(btw, if you have problems, you may attend a talk by CCS, credit counselling singapore - they can speak to your bank on your behalf for lower interest etc etc)

i worked 3 jobs to support her, her family, her education, her livelyhood... everything fucking single shit come my way i do...

found pictures of her kissing another guy, vietnamese who was back to vn on holiday from america, on the laptop i bought for her... (saying these now i feel a painful twinge in my heart... yes.. i have not forgotten...)

found pictures of her wearing her "sleeping outside" clothes with other guys...

i was warned time and again by her friends who wanted to save me but i chose to believe her as i loved her...

Forgave her 3 times for cheating on me... always u-turn... also had applied marriage date with her.

you pain is felt...

it's always going to hurt... and hurt u will... the thing is to accept it as a mistake made and still go on... are u willing to kill yourself over her infidelity and your lack of money and in turn disappoint your mother, your fther, and the people who care for you?

IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD... must keep repeating to yourself...

if u need a listening ear, a few drinks(on me!), someone to accompany you and wallow in misery, feel free to pm me and i will give u my ctc...

[euritage]

oh yes...

after her... im dating a normal PRC student, beautiful, gentle, a little scatterbrain, very wealthy and have expanded my line of work into hostel for students amongst other...

that proves 1 thing... what cannot kill you can only make you stronger...
u die in your flames to rise anew... wiser, better, stronger...

good luck bro...

[NewandLost]

Originally Posted by euritage

Godzilla...

I sympathise with you... it hurts... it really really hurts...

don't think abt revenge... ure not gonna be happy at the end of it...

u will think abt her... but pull through... and u will learn and live again...

similarly, i've also went thru the same experience as you. run myself near bankrupt with loans, credit card debts that im still paying off till today.
(btw, if you have problems, you may attend a talk by CCS, credit counselling singapore - they can speak to your bank on your behalf for lower interest etc etc)

i worked 3 jobs to support her, her family, her education, her livelyhood... everything fucking single shit come my way i do...

found pictures of her kissing another guy, vietnamese who was back to vn on holiday from america, on the laptop i bought for her... (saying these now i feel a painful twinge in my heart... yes.. i have not forgotten...)

found pictures of her wearing her "sleeping outside" clothes with other guys...

i was warned time and again by her friends who wanted to save me but i chose to believe her as i loved her...

Forgave her 3 times for cheating on me... always u-turn... also had applied marriage date with her.

you pain is felt...

it's always going to hurt... and hurt u will... the thing is to accept it as a mistake made and still go on... are u willing to kill yourself over her infidelity and your lack of money and in turn disappoint your mother, your fther, and the people who care for you?

IT IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD... must keep repeating to yourself...

if u need a listening ear, a few drinks(on me!), someone to accompany you and wallow in misery, feel free to pm me and i will give u my ctc...

wow braddah, you went through some terrible sh t with that girl. I'm happy you are so strong and make a good point. Be strong for your family and the people that really do care about and love you unconditionally. These girls will get their due one day. Don't need to do anything. She will never change and live her whole life that way but with no real happinese. So karma works and she will get her due. Hang in there braddah.

[loneyheart]

Bro if u think back yes eventually it hurt.
Which human being never come across break off n heart broken before ....is a process of growing up n become stronger

U have to learn to get her out of u ....look at it at a diff angle
Put it in a more kindness way to get u out
Wishes her well for her futures even if u ever feel cheated
Tell yourself u r not good enough for her
If u believe in karma ...put it in this way previous life u own her now u paid back n end here...dum curse or else karma will never end
U will received luck n blessing as u already tested n may be will meet yr true love in no time.
Someone better for u in t near futures ..so move on to meet up

As t saying .. willing to put down n get out of t load in your heart, u can eventually feel lighten n walk far

dear bro smiles n move on ...tomorrow is always a better day
yesterday u had die n today u r reborn ...times will heal all wounds