My friend sibei CHUM

macrotouch · #1 21-02-2009, 02:25 AM

I got a friend, my cheonging kaki last time. Ever since he met a thai ger, and decide want to be with her, he changed a lot. He changed a lot for the ger. This ger actually go thru his handphone, and called up his female friends telling them she is his new gf and going to get married.
She saw the ex gf call her beau, take the phone tell her don't call anymore because he is going to get married. She knew the boyfriend last time cheong thai disco and got contact 1 singer, she went down to the pub want to find the singer and tell her not to disturb him. Now I don't even sms my friend, because this girl will see his handphone. If I call him, I will have to ask him is his gf with him.

Everytime they quarrel, it is a known secret that 1 week 7 days, 3 days good, 4 days quarrel. They are not yet married but in the process.

Will you guys marry such a ger?

Vampire Slayer · #2 21-02-2009, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by macrotouch

Will you guys marry such a ger?

Definately not my cup of tea.
Maybe your friend is not chum... maybe he feel very shiok

becos got people control him

colins · #3 21-02-2009, 02:37 AM

Yeah your friend sibei CHUM. But if he din choose to live his life otherwise, we can only say he choose for things to happen this way. Doing nothing is also a choice. It just happen to be this girl, I guess other girls would have treat him the same way being his gf. Its just him, susceptible to being manipulated.

Oh dun worry abt the quarrels, it will subside once he gives in. Quarrelling will then become a daily ritual for her to want more control and him giving it up at the end of the day. Things will get better once he loses his soul.

HCKing · #4 21-02-2009, 02:39 AM

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Originally Posted by macrotouch

Will you guys marry such a ger?

no way man, me still wanna chiong till the end of time.

macrotouch · #5 21-02-2009, 02:48 AM

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Originally Posted by colins

Yeah your friend sibei CHUM. But if he din choose to live his life otherwise, we can only say he choose for things to happen this way. Doing nothing is also a choice. It just happen to be this girl, I guess other girls would have treat him the same way being his gf. Its just him, susceptible to being manipulated.

Oh dun worry abt the quarrels, it will subside once he gives in. Quarrelling will then become a daily ritual for her to want more control and him giving it up at the end of the day. Things will get better once he loses his soul.

The thai ger's good friend ever tell us, this thai ger is very insecure to those she love. In her world she wants her boyfriend only to have her and no one else. Because of this conversation between the thai ger's good friend and me, this thai ger tell my friend to give me a call.

My friend on the phone tell me to not get involved in their relationship. I feel so weird. It was just a normal plain conversation, I also never say anything bad about the thai ger. From the conversation with him, I find it very weird. This friend never talk like this. I suspect his thai gerfren is beside him and want him make that phone call to me. True enough, in 10 minustes, she use his handphone and send me an sms tell me not to kaypo. WTF is this.

I damn hot, send her an sms tell her that her boyfriend may be scared of her, but I am not her boyfriend, neither am I scared of her. I give my friend face, never fuck her vulgar on the sms. This really shows an utter lack of respect for my friend. How many of you will let your wife/gf use your phone and sms his friend and scold him?

macrotouch · #6 21-02-2009, 02:51 AM

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Originally Posted by colins

Yeah your friend sibei CHUM. But if he din choose to live his life otherwise, we can only say he choose for things to happen this way. Doing nothing is also a choice. It just happen to be this girl, I guess other girls would have treat him the same way being his gf. Its just him, susceptible to being manipulated.

Oh dun worry abt the quarrels, it will subside once he gives in. Quarrelling will then become a daily ritual for her to want more control and him giving it up at the end of the day. Things will get better once he loses his soul.

U are very right. This girl is manipulating his life too much. Every day he has to call her at certain timings. I thinking, why live a life like this. True enough, he is the one to always give in. Everytime they quarrel, my friend is the quiet one while the thai ger keep scolding him non-stop. Even the thai ger's friend say that everytime hear my friend keep quiet let her scold.

DO_YOU_BJ · #7 21-02-2009, 05:47 AM

Its clear y this ger wants to do wat she's doin.
Total DOMINATION with ZERO distraction or external influences
Thus, he'll be all hers to manipulate the way she deem fit.
Now, as a friend, find an opportunity to talk to your bro, tell him this thing i said above.
If he listens, then advise him to wake up.
But if he starts giving u 1001 reasons, shut the fuck up, and leave him to his fate.
By then, u as a friend, BO KIAM YI LI YOU forever

joew2005 · #8 21-02-2009, 08:08 AM

it's his life,he chooses it & allow it 2 happen tis way.
but if he keeps on giving in,he would be suffocated veri soon.

fee3fow · #9 21-02-2009, 09:41 AM

ya find some time to talk with him ALONE. Hopes he still can listen

daggerboy · #10 21-02-2009, 10:24 AM

If the shirt you are wearing makes you itch then change the shirt. If you like the shirt so much that you cant bear to replace it then you must bear with the itch. It the same as the saying "If you want to eat eggs then bear with the cackling of the hens."

pewpew · #11 21-02-2009, 10:32 AM

You friend have step into hell, maybe he love to be control girls?

ekemono · #12 21-02-2009, 11:31 AM

Your friend must learn to love and respect himself more, otherwise one of these days when he hit the last straw, all hell break loose.

Anyway, was it some incident of betrayal that causes the gal to be so paranoid?

I really dun know if the gal truely likes him or wanted to gain something out of him, but regardless when we are an item with someone, we must feel complete, instead of being torn into pieces even more.

Get you friend to delay the ROM and tell her marriage is a life time matter and better for both to take time to understand each other, and regain the trust with each other. This will help the relationship and/or reveal any hidden agenda

Kiddo · #13 21-02-2009, 11:33 AM

IMHO, there's nothing much you can do. 一个愿打, 一个愿挨. Moreover, even if you advise your friend out of goodwill, he can blame you if anything goes wrong with the relationship as he seems to can't listen to good advice anymore. 好人难做!

lacoruna69 · #14 21-02-2009, 11:38 AM

Zi Zuo Nie....

lcbguy · #15 21-02-2009, 11:49 AM

After he is married he'll be more "chum".No offence but the way I see it,divorce will set in and his fortune has to be split up with the gal.Such type of so-called relationship will not last,trust me.