The woman you marry.. the one u love?

[assster]

I got married early this year. I knew that my wife was not the person I loved the most but she was the one that stuck with me when i was at my lowest point in life and now that I see some successes, I think she deserves to share them, which is the main reason why we got married. I thought that it would be good if i marry someone who loved me more than i loved them.. and she is someone that i see her as being a good mother for my future kids, and I wasn't getting any younger.. so we got married...

I was in a new company shortly before my wedding. I met a co-worker and we flirted hard, i even contemplated calling off the wedding because I had a feeling about her that i never felt with my wife but I thought it was just a stupid crush, a pre-wedding jitters and things would be ok after we got married. Besides, canceling the wedding, the EC we got etc would involved crazy costs, not to mention that wedding invites had been sent out etc and the 'loss of face' to my parents etc so I went ahead with the wedding...

Long story short, after my honeymoon, I came back to work, we both got drunk at a company event and ended up sleeping together. The sex in all honestly wasnt the best I ever had, yet the feelings we had for each other bonded much stronger after that. We met during work almost everyday and spend almost all our working hours together followed by dinner (sometimes with sex) before I head home to my wife. We started telling each other 'I love you' more than I ever did with my wife. I take care of my wife materially, but my heart went out to this co-worker of mine (lets just call her X)

X is your typical 'dragon lady' in the office. Strong, intelligent and beautiful, the kind of woman that young ladies aspire to be, and all man young and old would want to bed. It boosts my ego I suppose, to see that she choose me of all people hitting on her and she even show me msgs from other co-workers asking her out while she is in my arms or with my cock in her mouth.

My wife is your typical gal next day. Sweet, funny, and kind hearted. The one that you bring home to your mum, the one you know will be a great mother. She places me as priority over everything else and I know loves me more than anyone, and more than I could ever love her..

I am now at a loss. The more time I spend with X, the more i think I am sure she is the person I want to build my life with, yet I already have a life and wife that I cannot let down...

What should i do...?

[mortar]

Then what did X think about your situation? You are already married and does she expect you to divorce and go for her? I guess you should ask for her opinion too if she really love you.

My take will be, stick to your wife to prevent and chaos. You never know one day you won't love X so much and another Y come into play? The Y may be a guy who is going for your X also.

[HCKing]

1st of all u sure it's all love and not lust and short term romance?

u sure X will also go thru thick and thin with u?

[sammygirlgirl]

Originally Posted by assster

I got married early this year. I knew that my wife was not the person I loved the most but she was the one that stuck with me when i was at my lowest point in life and now that I see some successes, I think she deserves to share them, which is the main reason why we got married. I thought that it would be good if i marry someone who loved me more than i loved them.. and she is someone that i see her as being a good mother for my future kids, and I wasn't getting any younger.. so we got married...

I was in a new company shortly before my wedding. I met a co-worker and we flirted hard, i even contemplated calling off the wedding because I had a feeling about her that i never felt with my wife but I thought it was just a stupid crush, a pre-wedding jitters and things would be ok after we got married. Besides, canceling the wedding, the EC we got etc would involved crazy costs, not to mention that wedding invites had been sent out etc and the 'loss of face' to my parents etc so I went ahead with the wedding...

Long story short, after my honeymoon, I came back to work, we both got drunk at a company event and ended up sleeping together. The sex in all honestly wasnt the best I ever had, yet the feelings we had for each other bonded much stronger after that. We met during work almost everyday and spend almost all our working hours together followed by dinner (sometimes with sex) before I head home to my wife. We started telling each other 'I love you' more than I ever did with my wife. I take care of my wife materially, but my heart went out to this co-worker of mine (lets just call her X)

X is your typical 'dragon lady' in the office. Strong, intelligent and beautiful, the kind of woman that young ladies aspire to be, and all man young and old would want to bed. It boosts my ego I suppose, to see that she choose me of all people hitting on her and she even show me msgs from other co-workers asking her out while she is in my arms or with my cock in her mouth.

My wife is your typical gal next day. Sweet, funny, and kind hearted. The one that you bring home to your mum, the one you know will be a great mother. She places me as priority over everything else and I know loves me more than anyone, and more than I could ever love her..

I am now at a loss. The more time I spend with X, the more i think I am sure she is the person I want to build my life with, yet I already have a life and wife that I cannot let down...

What should i do...?

I would never let go of someone that always places me as priority

[fion.18]

Originally Posted by sammygirlgirl

I would never let go of someone that always places me as priority

Same sentiments for me. I like the way you put it! Being loved is always easier than loving someone
Oh cos we do hope the one we love and the person loving us is the same one but if well sometimes life is never perfect

To TS there's this 80/20 rule in a relationship. Most of the times the people we are with is 80% perfect for us. Someone new might come along and provide you with the missing 20. Of cos that missing 20% would be nice to have. But will you then choose the 20% and risk losing the 80 you already have? It's a gamble I would say. Too big a gamble for me.

[sadsky18]

ts , you are too flickle minded .

now u have x . supposing x get into your life ( you div with your wife ) , then w come into pic ?

div x and get with w ?

our life is full of this type of choice . you can *play* or flirt outside . but make sure end of the day , REMEMEBER to go home .

cos someone is waiting for u at home .

[conly]

Originally Posted by assster

What should i do...?

Agree wif d bros, u r fickle... Sort tat out 1st, ts.
Sharing a quote, hope u find some truth in it.

"Concentrate on wat u have, u'll be contented.
Concentrate on wat u don't, u'll be frustrated."

Wish u luck...

[Enzo]

"My wife is your typical gal next day. Sweet, funny, and kind hearted. The one that you bring home to your mum, the one you know will be a great mother. She places me as priority over everything else"

When I saw the above, especially the bold part, I think, give me your wife instead if you don't know how to cherish her.

What do you think is really going to happen if you end up with X?

You think the below is going to happen?
Divorce your wife -> be with X -> happily ever after with great love and sex

Let me tell you what is more likely going to happen.
Divorce your wife -> be and live with X -> you start seeing her flaws over time and you start comparing and asking yourself how she pales in comparison to your ex-wife -> quarrels begin -> ends in disaster for you leaving you with either misery or absolutely nothing left.

[Jeremy Chiang]

You are an adulterer; period.. ..

Please don't hurt your wife.. .. You made a commitment already. If before you are married, I will say do what your heart tells you.

But you are hooked now so repent la..

Lagi worse, you got kids then how?

[sianz123]

your wife deserves better
if you don't love her, don't marry her
if you marry her, don't hurt her

[KohOnly21]

Originally Posted by sianz123

your wife deserves better
if you don't love her, don't marry her
if you marry her, don't hurt her

nice phasw

[Subaru75]

Bro ,wat your eye and heart feel may not be the truth or best decision that u will made .and this kind of relationship is thrill and that why u feel in this way now.seriously u nv stay with her together and u will not be able to suit into her lifestyle .ya I understand at this moment dam (song) but I been through this .process is painful and u will loss everything u own now .are u prepare for it.trust me stay put and stay away from Ms X .u will be better off with all the thing and life u r leading now

[newyorker88]

Originally Posted by assster

I got married early this year. I knew that my wife was not the person I loved the most but she was the one that stuck with me when i was at my lowest point in life and now that I see some successes, I think she deserves to share them, which is the main reason why we got married....?

A quick affair is just a moment of fun. Since your wife went thru with you the lowest of your life, will this X lady do?

Many brothers share the same views as I do. Wise up. Sex can be fun, but it does not last as much as someone who goes thru thick and thin for you.

Just open your eyes big n wide, she may be doing the same thing to others as well. Knowing you are married and she still want to play around, you think she will not do the same again if you divorce and marry her?

[wahlau_7]

It's sad to belong to someone else when the right one comes along.

[The Stalker]

sounds like a thread that jwny started.... the one u marry is not the one u love the most